| Nov 23, 2005 @ 9:08 AM |
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Guerrero
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I've seen a lot of lovely ladies on here that I'd like to try to talk to, and get to know. The funny thing is, hardly anyone on here has "African American" as a choice for their ideal match. I'm mixed with black and native american, and I think it's sad that people are still closeminded.
With that being said, whats up everyone lol.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 9:31 AM |
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MischeviousAngel
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Some of us see "race" as unimportant. The reality is that we are all members of the HUMAN race first. Beyond that I couldn't care less what ethnic background someone is.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 9:47 AM |
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summersquall
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Race is a preference for many people, just like height, weight, age, hair length, kids and a whole plethora of other criteria.
Having preferences does not make an individual close minded.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 9:54 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Welcome Guerrero! 
Yes, I agree with Angel. We're all of mixed blood if you think about it (USA as Melting Pot -- everybody seems to have roots somewhere else). My dad is first generation American from Mexican parents. Mom is originally from Kentucky, from Welsh-English ancestry generations back. I might be what you'd call a Mexican Hillbilly...lol. I'm actually very fair-skinned (pic notwithstanding), and some people think I look German for some reason.
It "should" be all about the person, not the race of course, but unfortunately racism exists in every society. The US is actually a lot better with racial equality than other countries (see the current troubles in France for proof).
Please join in the forums, Guerrero. The best way for people to get past preconceived notions and stereotypes is to communicate, thereby demonstrating how intelligent, honest, and straightforward one is.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 9:56 AM |
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spongebob777
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It really doesn't matter to me but I suspect that I'm not the only white guy here who isn't exactly overrun with offers from black women. (other than the Nigerian scams)
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 10:32 AM |
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Guerrero
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I've heard about that, what exactly happens though?
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 10:33 AM |
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Pete73052
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Race is a preference for many people, just like height, weight, age, hair length, kids and a whole plethora of other criteria.
Having preferences does not make an individual close minded.
Not sure I'm with you on that Summersquall. We really don't see much exclusion over eye color, hair color, hair length and such. People who have such preferences usually express them later in the process. How many ads do we see with "people with blue eyes need not apply?" That there is a way to exclude specific races with a checkbox is something that I believe will not be available on dating cites 10 years from now (but I could be wrong). I don't think people should get unwanted email - but if the reason it is "unwanted" is based on someone's skin color - frankly I think they should be inconvenienced.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 11:01 AM |
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Greystone1
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I agree with Summersquall. People have an inherent right to preferences, whatever those preferences might be.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 11:13 AM |
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waiting41
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Well, as we all know, there are many people who will not date outside of thier race. My feelings about race are that I hate lots of people in general from all races  . Actually, I also have lots of friends from different races and was married to a Mexican for 12 years and have an incredibly beautiful daughter so I can say that children are something beautiful that come from mixed relationships! 
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 11:33 AM |
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summersquall
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Ok Pete the hair thing was a bit too insignificant but the rest I stand by.
Why is it that if an individual has a preference not to date someone with kids, no one says too much about that?
Take the same individual that has a preference for a specific race (ANY race) and they become close minded or racist? I've seen many black women only looking for black men or their black Nubian Prince. Should I be calling these black women close minded and racist?
It's only racism when you make it racism, why can't it simply be a matter of preference like it usually is in the vast majority of the cases?
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 11:43 AM |
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MotownManiax
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True, summer. It's all about choice and personal preference....can't "make" somebody do anything, especially when it comes to something as complex as dating. 
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 11:56 AM |
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buni
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Skin color means nothing to me. I go by the person's personality and manners.
I wish they had a box to check for manners because I have met some of the most barbaric men that were sooo rude and crude. Did not impress me at all.
I did see someone here in these forums that said they would not date a man unless he had blue eyes and blue eyes only. I'm trying to remember who it is.
What if everyone was blind...would there be so much discrimination? Everyone would have to go by how the other person is, not by what they look like.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 12:19 PM |
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13lucky
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Yea Buni let me know :) I'm blues eyed 
As other have said I think it's more of an over sight on their part then they won't date you.. You can't be knocked down until you take a step up :)
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 2:54 PM |
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Pete73052
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It's only racism when you make it racism, why can't it simply be a matter of preference like it usually is in the vast majority of the cases?
OK, I'll accept that. It's hard (for me) to accept that a preference for "Caucasians" is anything more than an nice way of saying "Whites Only" - but I'm not about to tell people that they aren't allowed to be as picky as they want to be when they are looking for a mate (or a date). Their preferences tell people something about them too. I don't email women who claim they want a minimum of $100,000 income just because if that's where their head is at, I'm not interested.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 4:02 PM |
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corvette_racing
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I personally can't talk about womens choices.. but I consider women of all races...
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 4:10 PM |
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mangolover60
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I personally wouldn't date anybody turning sort of a pale yellow. But then again, I would probably date that purple chick in X-men.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 4:38 PM |
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mart777
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Girls really are more picky than men, I think, when it comes to this.
As for me, I do not mind any girl having personality I like.
However, cultural differences may be difficult. What should not be that big case when originating from the same country.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 5:39 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Welcome, Mart!
It's always the personality with me. I've run across some insufferable people, and some amazingly inspiring ones, from all ethnicities and races. No one race has the market cornered on virtue, vice, goodness, or evil.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 5:53 PM |
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MischeviousAngel
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There are cultural differences in people living in different areas of the same country. If one needs "proof" just look at the differences between any northern state vs any southern state in the US.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 7:18 PM |
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TAINQ
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I'm Latin and of mixed race. I've gone out with ladies of various ethnic and social economic backgrounds and found that the ones I was able to establish a good relationship with were those that had good sence of humor, were open minded and had a good sense of self. However, this would not had been possible, meeting them, had I not taken the initiative and introduced my self.
Buddy no guts, no glory.
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