| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:06 PM |
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raykl
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Now Tequila may "make her clothes fall off" (you Country people will understand that one), but that and all other alcohol tends to make me think too much.
While enjoying my evening glass of the "fruit of the vine" and reading emails and winks, I began to wonder why the majority of them come from women who are more than a 10 minute drive (or flight) away. One of life's pleasures is meeting new people and traveling to destinations never before seen by me.
So I began to wonder (the emptier the glass became, the more I wondered) why do people find people from other places more interesting than those of walking distance. Read through the flirting posts and you constantly read "if only she/he lived closer.
Since the first glass did not provide the answer, I figured a second would surely give me this enlightenment. It took most of the second, but a lightbulb went on (only a 40 watt). It was so obvious: with distance as a barrier, it's not gonna happen!! Thus, no fear of rejection. People can flirt, give emotions, etc. and it is just a screen, so move on to the next distance romance.
There are just as many interesting people who live close to you, but why take the chance to know someone and be hurt in the end? The stores and malls are loaded with lonely people who just move on like characters from "Night of the Living Dead". Everyone is afraid to take that first step of speaking to a stranger.
Much easier to go home and speak to a stranger on the keyboard.
Disclaimer: The above theory was somewhat alcohol induced, thus, I cannot be held totally responsible- but in the light of day, I think there may be some wisdom here.
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:16 PM |
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Empath
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I think you may be right...to a certain degree. I know I get nervous about answering emails from gentlemen too close to me.
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:18 PM |
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doncasto
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It is, I fear, another example of the Perils of Proximity. . . .not being far enough away to escape the "uncomfort zone" . .
[Edited on 11/2/2006 6:19 PM]
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:18 PM |
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spongebob777
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I'm no gentleman but is 300 miles too close? 
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:23 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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know I get nervous about answering emails from gentlemen too close to me.
Oddly enough, that doesn't scare me a bit, nor does dating someone nearby. I figure the odds are staggeringly high against its being a really workable partnership, so what the heck, go out and have a good time. If by some miracle, it's someone there's a possibility of actually building a relationship with, I'll start getting nervous. As time goes on and I find that I'm actually looking forward to seeing him, rather than finding an excuse to break a date, I become terrified. The early stages are no problem, it's when I realize this could really work that panic sets in. And that only occurs after a considerable amount of time, not even a single face to face meeting, and certainly not just online interaction...that speeds things up, but not much more than that.
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:24 PM |
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twotall911
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I dont think there is a zone that is comfortable to that wonderful female gender in life they go through a much rougher time from the what they grew out of and are able to stand up on their own two feet, i try to do what they feel comfortable with not matter what the distance is
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:28 PM |
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Empath
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300 miles is just about perfect, Sponge. Just like you. 
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:34 PM |
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spongebob777
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I'm packin my bags. 
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:35 PM |
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Empath
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Made another one run.......*Sigh*
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:38 PM |
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spongebob777
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Oh I'm not running.
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:43 PM |
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twotall911
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beep beep move over spongebob 
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 6:45 PM |
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Empath
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Oh no!! Now what?? Where's China? I need my Mom-meee!!  He's not running....he's packing his bags....panic setting in...that means he's he's...coming.
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 7:33 PM |
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twotall911
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china's out on a date
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 7:36 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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People in my town don't want to date me because they've actually interacted with me before and have seen me on my bad days which look nothing like my pictures.
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 7:45 PM |
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kattsmeow
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LGQ,,how about you move to Ohio and marry my son?????  Teasing of course.
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 7:46 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Heck, I was talking to Becks about meeting my son, if he weren't so danged determined to stay in New York... 
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 7:47 PM |
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kattsmeow
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If they would just listen the their mothers!!!! 
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 7:55 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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katts if it meant having you for a mother in law then definitely
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 7:56 PM |
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luvmycats
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BREATHE Empath...BREATHE... one more time, BREATHE... ok, you should be fine now.
*Luv wiping Empath's brow*
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 8:03 PM |
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outrun
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"if only" is a poor excuse for someone not wanting to be bothered trying to see if there is a possible connection. What good does it do to "date" someone online. You can tell personality somewhat on here but not like standing next to them. Anything can be made to happen if the persons involved make it happen, sitting on the couch saying "if only" is an excuse, a cheap cop out. I got all kinds to say on this but dont feel like typing it and I am hungry so I think I am headed to the Outback to eat a Victorias fillet and ponder the "if only" I ask this fine chick sitting at the bar if I could buy her a drink.....
Cancel that, I just got a craving for the fillet scampi at Carrabas.
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