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angelapeer
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ok here's my situation, i'm currently married, have been for three years, but i've known him for six. about a month ago i moved out of my apartment that my husband and i shared, along with me i brought my son. now the thing is, is that i love him but he's such an ass sometimes. when i lived with him i had 4 jobs, my full time job, taking care of our son, housework and taking care of my husband. of course now that i moved out he's doing everything that i wanted him to do, housework and such. now he's working on changing but sometimes i'm happier living on my own, but sometimes i miss him so much.
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| Nov 5, 2006 @ 9:14 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Well Hamlet, what would you like from us? Validation that you did the right thing? Only you can know that.
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| Nov 5, 2006 @ 9:26 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Sheesh, if you love him then stay. If you think he's a manipulative, scheming, lazy, no-good user, then leave him for good and get a divorce.
 I should get paid for this.
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| Nov 5, 2006 @ 9:27 PM |
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robodad
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Try counselling and see if that works
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| Nov 5, 2006 @ 9:30 PM |
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mzlara388
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Sheesh, if you love him then stay. If you think he's a manipulative, scheming, lazy, no-good user, then leave him for good and get a divorce.
I should get paid for this.
Hands you 2 quarters.
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 7:15 AM |
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MotownManiax
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<=== Bites on them to make sure they aren't wooden. 
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 8:28 AM |
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mailorderannie
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there's more than you involved here...you have a son. I say if there is ANY chance of the two of you working it out, you need to be sure because of the child.
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 9:07 AM |
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countryboy69995
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but he's such an ass sometimes How can you say that? A man being an ass? Not guilty. 
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 9:11 AM |
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twotall911
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the child is the most important then you, it appears your supporting the person and now hes showing you or rather attempting to say i can do it,its all a game just go on for awhile as your are and see if his trend continues as he's doing now only time will tell, you know tell him to get a job and start supportng the family too
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 10:11 AM |
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definitelydi
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Yes, try marriage counselling. If both of you are willing to work it out, then you owe it to yourselves to try. If it doesn't work out in the end, then you'll know you gave it your all. Marriage may not be what you expected it to be, but don't give in so easily.
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 10:28 AM |
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SpyderLady
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You don't have to take care of anyone but yourself and your child. He is a grown man. Loving someone and doing special things are different than taking care of. Or did I misunderstand?
If he was acting like he has all along when you left, then that is how he is and he won't be any different, no matter what is promised. Yes, a person can change for a while, but who they really are will always come back. I have given more than one man a second chance.
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 10:31 AM |
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twotall911
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 12:42 PM |
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AngelLight
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I agree with those who suggest marriage counseling. Give it a try and see what happens.
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 12:47 PM |
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chinabull2000
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He's an ass? What kind of ass? An abusive ass? Silly ass? What kind of ass? No-one can give you an opinion on this, because there are too many different kinds of asses.
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 1:04 PM |
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Empath
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Unless he is an abusive ass, which would negate all I say, I think she should get her ass back home. This is marriage, not play house, and there is a child involved. Marriage counselling is an excellent idea.
I know this is a hard stance I've taken, but too many people give up so easily these days, and I for one would like to see marriage taken much more seriously than it is.
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 1:10 PM |
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chinabull2000
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Unless he is an abusive ass, which would negate all I say, I think she should get her ass back home. This is marriage, not play house, and there is a child involved.  nicely pout Em, thats what I was getting at, ubt i wanted to find out what kind of ass he was first.
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 1:11 PM |
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twotall911
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empath--- 
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 1:13 PM |
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LavenderMoonlight
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Empath....
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 1:33 PM |
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countryboy69995
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if he is an abusive ass tell him to take his life and blow it out his ass. 
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| Nov 6, 2006 @ 2:15 PM |
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definitelydi
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Amen Sistah Empath! Preach on!
What was that about ass, China? I think you need a tighter pair of jeans hun!
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