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Gustav85
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Well, gosh darnit, thing drives me bannas is when ya message people just to say hi, and only be a (online friend) get completely ingnored...happens way to much, and makes me think these types of sites are more depressing than optomistic... 
Just wish people had a curtise to message back...on average...messaging new people 1 out of 15 would maybe message back...hmm...
Anyone ever have trouble making online friends and such?
Peace,
George
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 12:51 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Just so you know, I've have problems with the IM, on more than one occasion. I'm told the person didn't know I was trying to reach them. I think some people's ad blockers sometimes cause a conflict. I may not be explaining it right.
Do you email them first, and ask them if you can IM them? If I didn't know you, and you tried to IM me, I would probably ignore the message. We have too many nutcakes here, and sometimes they are up to no good. It's best to get approval first, IMHO.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:01 AM |
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Gustav85
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No, actually I never IM people...I message them...just to say hi and thats about it 8)...but I never IM people....lol.
Peace,
George
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:01 AM |
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Solitaire
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I'm with Classy on this one. Unless I've had some sort of previous correspondence, I would decline an IM from just out of the blue.
OK, now I'm editing because you posted before mine posted, and now i see your dilemma. I'm pretty certain we've had this thread a time or two. Personally I usually respond to an actual email, but I totally ignore winks.
[Edited on 11/10/2006 1:06 AM]
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:03 AM |
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SunBabe
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I think he means PM'ing/emailing here.
George, do you check to see when the last time these ladies signed in? A lot of them in your age group sign up, make a profile and never come back.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:08 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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i never respond to a guy that just says "hi". what's the point
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:10 AM |
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Gustav85
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lol, ahead of ya on that one....yepper, if I message someone I make sure they sign on regularly...8) just never a reponse, maybe its my photos? lol. But really discouraging...again all I say is hi and whats up and thats it....
George
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:14 AM |
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SunBabe
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It helps to mention something you might have in common, something you liked about their profile and THEM. "Hi, what's up?" isn't exactly a conversation starter, even in person ~grin~ 
(Yep, I ignore those kind of emails, too)
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:15 AM |
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Gustav85
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lol, well...I usally say whats up, talk about my music, and thats about it...I keep it simple, because yes, more pychos out there...lol 
George
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:17 AM |
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Gustav85
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Well...topics I talk about
1. Just basic hi
2. Musica
3. My interest
But, again I only want to know people (online) not outside that unless they wanted too...but I prefer strictly online friends for the reason people can be real A-holes in person...I could care less about relationships, 21 and don't need'em...:) all I need is friends.... 
George
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:39 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
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I apologize, George. I misunderstood you. I see now, you meant emails.
Personally, I have always tried to be civil, when responding to an email, but I have been getting several very irritating ones lately. If other women are experiencing what I am, they may be getting to a point where they are fed up.
Only yesterday, I started replying in a curt manner. Sadly, the Trolls are making it difficult for the sincere persons. I'm now suspecting individuals of playing games with me. I am very possibly misjudging a few, and I'm sorry for that.
One thing for certain, if you say you liked the woman's profile, please tell her exactly what caught your eye. That way, she will know you DID read it. Many men don't. This gives us a message, you really don't want to know who we are. You liked the face, the breasts, whatever physical attributes caught your eye. We want you to know us for who we are, not what we are endowed with.
The forums are a great place to get to know people. Glad to see you have taken the time to post here. I think you will find it helpful. You are probably doing the right things. It takes time to meet someone compatible. It may just be a matter of patience. Don't get discouraged.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:59 AM |
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countryboy69995
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Thanks George for asking that question for alot of us. 
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 2:04 AM |
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kfinn
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I am getting emails and not being able to see what it says. I hope that my repys are getting through but I have no way of finding out?? New to this.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 7:43 AM |
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Gustav85
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Yes, can be many things why people don't reply....
1. They are on here to find the best looking guy or girl...and ignore all else (which is sad but true)
2. Women getting spammed by alot of guys because they look beaitiful so they begin to think all (guys) on the internet are like that....
3. The gentlemen or badguy issue...if a gentlemen messages some girl for example that has a tatoo...the girl will not respond...theres this great divide I believe between that...a gentlement and the badguy issue...badguy meaning image...like tatoos, heavy metal, partyer, drinks....I go with the gentlemen...because i'm anti-partyer and anti-tatoo...8)
I think that somes it up why people don't message back...there might be more, but to early for me to think about them *yawns*. Hope this fills in the void abit!
Peace,
 George
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 11:53 AM |
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sissycat411
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George, Also if your looking more for e-mail, chat friends, since you stated you have goals in your life, are attending school, a music career and not really interested in an in depth relationship or marriage at this time....It takes time to find the other people with similar interest as yours......
You might start some forum threads in ref to your interest, experiences and goals and see who comes to post..... Let people get to know you that way and you also will get to know those who have interest same as yours......lots of friendships develop that way... 
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 12:14 PM |
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everrett
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I dont get a lot of reply emails from people that I have found on a search either. Most of the women I have had email conversations or talked with, have winked at me first. It is the nature of the beast.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 12:23 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Gustav, I know it may be aggravating or impersonal to not get a response, but never obsess over it. There could be literally a dozen different reasons why? Simply put, maybe they just aren't interested? I know that's a blow to the ego but we've all been there—move on.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 12:27 PM |
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Strandedboarder
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Some people have enough friends...they're here lookin' for love. And if you don't fit the bill, well...
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 12:49 PM |
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candylily
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I personally have no interest in just email friends. There are too many guys who write who actually want to meet at some point (regardless of how far apart we live) if there's a mutual attraction. If a girl is looking to date and she gets lot of email, she will only respond to guys who are also looking for potential offline relationships. Also if you're only writing to the prettiest ones online, they won't have the time or the desire to respond to emails from guys they're not interested in, especially if you haven't said anything letting them know what it was about their profile that piqued your interest. Is there something in her profile, that makes you think you actually have enough common interests or views about things that would make an endless online-only relationship worthwhile for both of you? Sometimes there is, but if you're writing first, you need to mention that and ask about something she may want to respond to.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 1:02 PM |
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twotall911
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candy----ask about something she may want to respond to.
do you like chocolate candy
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