| Nov 18, 2006 @ 9:55 PM |
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TheShadow857
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It seems that most people that I meet are so far away
I drove over 500 miles to meet someone one time but it did not work out. When I meet someone I always tell myself lets see what happens. The main reason is being that some people put up a pic and they don't always look how the pic is. Don;t get me wrong! Who a person is on the inside is who we are interested in when we chat or talk on the phone. But you can never put expectation on anything.You just got to see what happens.
So, how far would you go to meet someone you never seen?
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 10:12 PM |
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julia143
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Not sure I would go any distance.
In the end, how do continue to date? Who moves where?
I would have to meet in the middle somewhere. So we both have the same amount of time and distance and money invested.
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 10:26 PM |
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Jankia
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I found out that distance isnt the problem,its the uncertainty.I had a gal fly here to Wisconsin from Vancouver.We got along fine so two months later I flew out there to see her.I paid an extra $100 for an earlier ticket back home.
She was a Jekyll and Hyde.
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 10:30 PM |
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TheShadow857
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I can see what you mean, But have you met anyone in your area? It seems to me most that are in my area like to hide what they look like. I would move for the right person. I know some people that have got married after three years of being on the website. So I can;t say it don't work.
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 10:32 PM |
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TheShadow857
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Ops,That question was for Julia :)
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 10:41 PM |
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julia143
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I meet lots of people, at work and just going about my business in town. I have met a few from these dating sites. Most are not what they claim to be. I don't care where I meet the person or where from. Gotta meet somehow right?
People in the same town from dating sites, rarely meet. It's not that they are hiding, but rather they are to shy or lack confidence.
Travel is a risk. But you should always have a second reason to travel to "that" place. Make it a vacation, have a plan "B". Just incase things don't work out.
but ...I know nothing...sometimes you just have to take a chance. And if you can afford it....heck...why not?
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 11:12 PM |
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TheShadow857
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See the pic I got up right now for me is a conversation pic and yes I still have my hair  lol. Yeah it is true that some people are not who they say they are. But one way you can find out, Is ask them to put a pic up of them holding a sign next to them saying "MATCHDOCTER" on this site. That will let you know real quick If they are a game player or not :)
As far as a vacation thats what I did, took a vacation when I went to meet the last one.
But, when you say somepeople are shy. I can see that, some are not all  . See I live in a college town, Not to many shy girls here 
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 11:30 PM |
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journeyfan0000
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The main reason is being that some people put up a pic and they don't always look how the pic is.
<<<< webcam pic....ask the person to atleast go out and get a webcam; webcams are only about $25.00
[Edited on 11/18/2006 11:43 PM]
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 12:11 AM |
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TheShadow857
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I got a webcam pic. But that don't mean that that webcam pic is real or not. It's still just a pic. But I here ya :)
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 12:45 AM |
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SunBabe
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~grin~ How'd you feel about 317 miles...north-ish  
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 12:59 AM |
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TheShadow857
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Better watch It I might take you up on it.
How are you doing tonight?
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 1:03 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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Went 1196 miles once .... the things you do when ya fall in love huh??
its funny tho someone said before its easier to get someone half a world away to come meet you than someone in your area... tis very true sometimes is like pulling teeth to meet someone less than 50 miles away  oh well we are all drawn where we NEED to be at that specific moment ... just wish that Matt McConaughy would NEED to be next to me sometime soon
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 1:27 AM |
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keeno
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i've been every where, didn't bring anyone back and no one followed me home. i can't even get a stalker, how bad is that? 
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 1:29 AM |
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painter007
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you and me both Keeno
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 1:31 AM |
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journeyfan0000
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Don't be tooooo sure about that Keeno 
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 1:31 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Becky,
Matt M. is a hottie. I don't think he's in my age range though. Darn it!
I've gone to Michigan, and I would have gone to Ohio, but I had to turn around, mid-trip, and head towards home. Seems many of the men in my area are into themselves, or gay...or married. I had heard out-of-state men seemed to treat women less disrespectfully. Since then, I've been informed men in other states are no different than California. 
The main reason I look out of area is, I have been planning on moving, and I don't want to attach myself to a local man and end up leaving. I don't like to limit myself by setting boundaries. It depends on the man, and the actual location they live in.
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 1:31 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Draw a circle 50 miles around Reno, I'll go that far. I want someone I can actually date, not a pen pal.
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 1:32 AM |
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desertwolf
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I am sort of following Julia's plan here. In early December, I am flying to Va. to attend a company meeting. On the way back, I am going to reroute my return flight to Atlanta to visit a friend. This is someone whom I met on another site and with whom I have been chatting with, via email and phone conversations, for two years. We are good friends and are meeting like that...just good friends. There are no expectations on either end, except for the basic ones...honesty, politeness, friendliness.
When she agreed to meet, I arranged for two rooms in a downtown hotel and purchased tickets to the Atlanta Symphony, which is holding their Christmas concert on the night that I get into town. There will also be a dinner...again my treat (I know...I know...the "progressives" out there are thinking that I'm nuts!). Here's how I look at this....I don't "expect" anything will come of this, except a nice night out on the town with a pretty, intelligent, and charming woman of the old South, wonderful holiday music performed by a premier orchestra, and much laughter.
You see....it doesn't matter whether romance blossoms...or something happens....what matters is that I have the opportunity to experience the joy of giving someone else the chance to experience joy, too. In a way, that is a bit selfish on my part...for I cannot lose. If she drives back to Alabama with a full and joyful heart and I fly home to Idaho with the same....how can it not be worth my while? What have I lost...nothing. What have I gained? Wonderful memories...the company of a wonderful woman...an experience that will stay in my heart....
I know that I seem foolish here, but I don't care. This to me is what romance is supposed to be about. Risking...taking chances...giving with no expectations of receiving anything...this is what it is about. And if it isn't? Well, what would be the point?
The answer to your question...it isn't a matter of miles...it isn't a matter of time. It isn't even a matter of how much money one is willing to risk. It all comes down to how much of your heart are you willing to risk.
Good Luck...dw
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 1:36 AM |
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TheShadow857
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Keena, a stalker I can't help you with that one but I do know it takes time to meet someone. For me it's hard to meet some one that don't think I party a lot. Most of the time on these sits the real people are going to be in the topic rooms. just thought of something that helped me out on one site when I first got on it.
Have you tryed posting a topic on you. what I mean Is ask the ladys what they think of your profile and ask for any suggestions of what you may need to change or improve on it. Just a thought
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 1:46 AM |
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TheShadow857
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Wolf, nothing you said was foolish. It's what you know and have gone through and hell if you both go your own ways and wether you felt good or bad about it. It's what was to happen. No one here can say what will happen when you first meet someone. Just try going in with a positive and open mind. The rest will take care of it's self.
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