| Nov 26, 2006 @ 6:18 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one.
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Recall848
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They want other things that are more important to them. Like chemistry (They changed the meaning of the word.),money,good wardrobe,good job,good looks,special car,education,upscale address or location,a little "bad boy in him",etc..
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 7:19 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one. |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Perhaps some women want those other things but not all..you just haven`t met the right one. Good Luck. 
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 7:22 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one.
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Empath
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Even nice guys have a little 'bad boy' in them. Ya just gotta know how to bring it out. 
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 7:23 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one. |
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8Knots
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Could someone give us some tips please?
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 7:24 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one.
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I Chose a "Nice" Guy.. 
But he can be bad.. 
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 7:25 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one. |
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budo13
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rather be a bad boy up front every time i did the good guy thing i got my butt handed to me (maybe because i wasn't being myself) 
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 8:34 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one.
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robodad
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I saw your other thread...try a non-American woman
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 8:55 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one. |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Oh, I wouldn't say that. Not about us 'women of a certain age' anyway. By now we've mostly been burned by the bad boys and really DO want a nice guy. Like it or no though, chemistry really does enter into it. I have to admit that my last b/f lived in a very upscale area and drove a Mercedes SLK...however he was also a nice guy. Actually though, the chemistry kicked in before I knew where he lived or what kind of car he drove, but if there's a way of determining what really creates that chemistry, write down the formula quick!!
Instant chemistry - what would people be willing to pay for that? By now I think most of us have run into people who'd be perfect partners, but that elusive chemistry just ain't there.
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 9:17 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one.
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duwant1
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Because women are coocoo birds. 
 
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 9:24 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one. |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Because women are coocoo birds 
 
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 10:01 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one.
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violette1967
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I could care less about looks, money or education or a bad boy.
I actually do want a man that treats me with respect, goes the extra mile and knows how to communicate.
Should he happen to have a bit of money or an education or good looks....AND knows how to treat me right and can express more than his need to be fed and cleaned up after....why would I choose someone with no money or looks?
I'm gonna have my cake and ice-cream....
No woman looks on a dating site for money or looks or education or anything upscale....
We have brains....we know that those sort of men would not need to spend time on here! Most of us are here because we want a middleground. And we have the time to look around....taking the first man would be downright desperate.
Now....would'nt you like a woman with money and looks as supossed a bbw with no cash?
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 10:06 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one. |
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budo13
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right now ah damn you live in nevada maybe i could find a job there 
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 10:13 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one.
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DiamondRain
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My woman likes nice guys .... and chose one
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 10:52 PM |
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encorrgbl
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Maybe it's just the women you keep ending up with? I mean, I hear from many 'married' women that talk about men, that men that are stable, reliable, good, treat people/women with respect, know how to take care of themselves, and the woman they're with, those are the type of men that women want.
Then, you go out, figuring that's what women want, and find yourself hanging around with one that wants to have fun, and isn't looking for anything that might be listed above, but may be more interested in the 'bad boy,' or 'sugar daddy.'
All I know is I'm still single and I have only found the 'wrong' one in the past. It's almost like the timinig in an engine. If you can't fire on the right sequence, you'll only end up blowing a cylinder, and the engine'll die before you get ten feet, so I think I need to stop looking in the 'wrong' place, or at the 'wrong' person, and start focusing on what's real and what's true.
Now, a guy I know told me that women don't want the 'good guys,' they want the money and the toys. (I was told from a woman I know that this man has no 'flippin' idea what the heck he's talkin' bout!) :)
I suspect I'll keep finding a different opinion depending on the age group of the person I'm asking and whether they're single or not! lol
I just think we gotta be good guys, and bad boys. What did one blogger say once... Something like, "sweet, caring, nice, and able to change into a devil in bed in a nanosecond!" LOL (Sounds like what men want too! ) Angel in life... Devil in bed...
Man I wished I'd saved that blog :)
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 11:01 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one.
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LipGlossQueen9
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Nice guys bore me after awhile because a lot of the times they back away from arguments. I want a man who can argue with me.
I also don't think women as a collective gender want any one thing or trait.
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| Nov 27, 2006 @ 12:06 AM |
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Solitaire
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I think many women, those who have run through the "bad boy" phase, do want a nice guy. That is a nice guy who, as was described earlier. "are stable, reliable, good, treat people/women with respect, know how to take care of themselves, and the woman they're with, those are the type of men that women want." Not a guy who comes across as "nice" because he is so desperate to be in a relationship that he will do or say whatever he thinks the other person wants, just to avoid being rejected. Being a nice guy implies consideration. It doesn't mean they don't set limits or stick to their personal point of view.
As for chemistry, personally, I guess I respond to someone that is confident enough to be on their own, but would like to share some of their time and space with me. I don't respond well to those "nice guys" who are so accomodating as to be insecure without approval.
This is not to suggest you are any of this, but as a recognition that nice guys are wonderful. "Nice guys" can be deadly dull.
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| Nov 27, 2006 @ 10:41 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one.
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encorrgbl
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A person who's insecure, desperate, or unable to stand up for themselves, can be nice, but, they're more nice I'd think due to the thought that they don't want anyone to dislike them or that they don't want anyone to be mean to them.
I think I used to want people to be happy, and I used to want people to like me, but as you live, you learn. You learn that there are people that no matter what you do, they'll be angry with you, they'll manipulate you, or maybe they'll never be happy with you or who you are (especially competitive people, who see you succeed and can't stand it), or even be happy about anything period.
That's why I made a decision that my decision of liking or not liking myself is the one and only opinion I have to worry about first and foremost. Seems that no matter who you are, you're always going to have to look yourself in the mirror and deal with that person for better or for worse. If you can't stand that person, then change, or learn to be dissapointed.
In regards to someone being happy about nothing, those people are people that I think I like to avoid. Sooner or later a downer attitude is just a downer...
So nice is, 'nice.' But could be dull. I guess, what's nice, but, not dull? I think Lips hit that on the head a little, that women as a collective gender don't want any one single thing or trait, but it differs from person to person (so I suspect a weak nice person who is afraid to say or do anything can be considered dull?).
And perhaps we confuse ourselves even more when we apply a generic sweeping belief that a gender does want one thing or another, and apply a template to that gender in the belief that they do want/like one thing or another, thus causing the, "I can NEVER figure *insert gender here* out!!!*
And argumentative? I think Lips you don't want someone to 'argue' with you, you want someone who doesn't shrink away from you, can intellectually challenge you, and stand toe to toe with you on things. I think a lot of people seek that. I seek an equal myself, but not someone to fight with all the time. Those people are a dime a dozen. You can probably find a ton of em' in the forums
[Edited on 11/27/2006 11:59 PM]
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| Nov 28, 2006 @ 12:20 AM |
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ILLLOOK
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I always thought there was bad boys and mean boys. Mean boys live in a world of disrespect where bad boys still open doors for ladies but drink beer from the bottle ride motorcycles and dress as they please or something like that but being a bad boy doesn't always mean being a mean boy.
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| Nov 28, 2006 @ 10:50 AM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one.
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Loozinit
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I personally find most guys who decribe themselves as a "nice guy" are'nt!
I'll take a good guy or a decent guy~ two if they are small 
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| Nov 28, 2006 @ 12:28 PM |
Why do so many women say they want a nice guy? When they never choose one. |
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FunkyMonkey68
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I'll take a good guy or a decent guy~ two if they are small
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