| Dec 6, 2006 @ 11:07 PM |
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FakeAppendix
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Why do people not think of the big picture when they are in the dating game? I have to wonder why people are so short sighted.
As of now there is a very large demand, for a very short supply. That is, good looking people with money, and good personalities. It is MY opinion, that you need to convince as many people as possible that what THEY really want is only ONE of those three items. This should shift some of the demand to people that are not desireable to you. Plus, if you can convince the people of your own sex that have multiple good qualities, you are removing competition for those desireables.
This leaves us with a couple of problems.
1. You will have to mislead many people and give them 'advice' that isn't really all that sound. It also requires that you bring other people in on your plot.
2. You also have to find a way to make these 'obviously' undesireable people look good to your vict, err subjects.
The first problem is not a big deal, simply find enough people that gain to benefit from the shifting of desireability and you should have a good base to start with. Online it can be done by undesireable people who pose as attractive people since it is anonymous. The second problem is more difficult, since people tend to know what society tells them is desireable. The one thing you have working for you is that people are sheep. If you can get just a few people with a voice to lead by example it accepting the unattractive, many will follow.
I know that I am a deranged and warped individual. However, I think this has something to offer for everyone. At least for everyone that is involved in the plot. As so long as the subjects remain brainwashed, they won't know the difference.
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| Dec 7, 2006 @ 1:03 AM |
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robodad
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A strategic approach.....okay, I'll take the left flank.
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| Dec 9, 2006 @ 6:47 PM |
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FunPlayful
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i see one flaw in your gameplan
what if a person with brains personality looks and money is onto you? won't you be automatically eliminated? or are you the decoy poster?
and what do you do about the outspoken leaders who combat the lie with the truth and end up leading the sheep onto the the correct path?
i see another flaw:
chemistry
how are you going to compensate for that?
natural attraction wins every time or should
[Edited on 12/9/2006 6:58 PM]
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| Dec 9, 2006 @ 7:04 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Call in an airstrike.
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| Dec 9, 2006 @ 8:04 PM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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Hmmm... I am not sure that all people are that shallow. And if they are well then I guess there alone for a reason!
I'll stick to not looking for all three of those, I'd perfer not to be alone forever !
*AsH
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| Dec 9, 2006 @ 8:05 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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The best strategic approach to dating is to just be yourself..
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| Dec 9, 2006 @ 8:06 PM |
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julia143
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I'm sorry ...but...applying strategy to dating is just a no no. If you approach it that way...you'll fail.
Love and dating should be spontaneous. I don't like to over-think dating and love. I might miss out and not see what is important.
rubbish...this is rubbish..
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| Dec 9, 2006 @ 8:13 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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| Dec 9, 2006 @ 9:37 PM |
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Ron9
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WHAT ......... you left out us old geezers 
WHAT ABOUT US ............. thats it I am calling AARP on you.
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| Dec 9, 2006 @ 10:26 PM |
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carpediem48
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I gotta strategy....join a site with no locals.....hmmmm....keeping me safe so far.
Another strategy.....be myself on these forums.....
.....no dates....lots of fignewtons tho 
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| Dec 9, 2006 @ 11:33 PM |
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twotall911
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 12:41 AM |
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encorrgbl
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Lemme see... My plan is to first... Rip up the playbook and toss it in the trash! Wheee! *thunk!* lol
Being a person who can overthink something to the Nth degree, I have to say I can see when I'm about to do that and go, pfft, better not! heh
No, no plans, go out, have fun, live life, be a good person, be successful, have joy in your heart, and share it with others.
I think... Just doing that, it opens up so many things to you. I mean, I can like someone as the day is long, but they have to like me too. If they don't, no matter what idea of a plan I might have isn't gonna work, you can't 'make' someone like/love you.
I start by liking me. I'll start there. Then, eventually, I'll go have a good time. If something happens, cool, if not, cool. My expectations are set realistically and life goes on, and I think I'll be way less dissapointed and a whole helluva a lot happier. 
(Note, that's just me, others may always find things different for them, best of luck to everyone!)
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 7:50 PM |
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FakeAppendix
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chemistry
how are you going to compensate for that?
natural attraction wins every time or should
This is exactly what we are up against. People think that since THEY have looks, that anyone without looks should in no universe ever have a chance with anyone like them.
The idea is to change what is considered attractive. The ideal of attractive has changed over the centuries and there is nothing to stop us from changing that now. Especially considering that those considered not attractive far outnumber those who are.
The so called chemistry is simply a reaction to what they have been taught is attractive. By brainwa... errr changing their minds that same chemical reaction will take place, only it will be when they see what WE say is attractive.
I start by liking me. I'll start there. Then, eventually, I'll go have a good time. If something happens, cool, if not, cool. My expectations are set realistically and life goes on, and I think I'll be way less dissapointed and a whole helluva a lot happier.
Believe me, I know from experience that you can be very charasmatic, you can be surrounded by people that enjoy having you around, but until people like superdoofus and her chemistry change their ways you will have zero chance of actually finding a woman that would have you.
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:30 PM |
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luvmycats
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This is exactly what we are up against. People think that since THEY have looks, that anyone without looks should in no universe ever have a chance with anyone like them.
NO OFFENSE MEANT HERE FUNPLAYFUL.
Fake, since Funplayful doesn't have a picture posted, how do you know she is one of those that has the looks?
I am one that doesn't have the looks either and don't look for a man that does either. The FEW that I have went out with were so full of themselves they weren't any fun. I much prefer a REAL man. Not one that has to look in the mirror all the time assuring himself hes still "looking good". 
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:44 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Not one that has to look in the mirror all the time assuring himself hes still "looking good".
Whooaaa there! No fair!! The most incredibly handsome man I ever saw in my life (it was years ago and I STILL haven't seen his equal!), was also the most totally oblivious to how gorgeous he was...not to mention thoughtful, considerate, funny, great with kids, a fabulous cook and insisted on cleaning up after himself. I was a divorced, overweight workaholic with two little kids and enough emotional baggage at that point in my life to scare off any but the most intrepid....which he was.
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:54 PM |
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candylily
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The problem is that being attracted to good-looking people isn't society's brainwashing. It's the way we are from birth according to the studies done on it. Babies stare and smile at attractive people longer than they do at people who are not as attractive. Probably the same study said that when men who are married or in a committed relationships were shown pictures of young beautiful sexy women, and then were questioned about their relationships with their wives or girlfriends, they expressed more dissatisfaction than the men who had not looked at the pictures.
In the past a woman was only compared to other women that a man actually saw in person. Now men can look at nude pictures and videos of the most beautiful women in the world any time of the day or night. Most women don't usually lust after men because of their looks and we're more realistic in knowing who we can actually attract and what qualities we find important in a man other than looks or money. Some men seem to think they should be able to get the prettiest women when they are just average themselves.
I really like the BBC channel because the actresses on many of the movies look like ordinary women. I've seen actresses who were cast as the love interest who were very average-looking, some were older, and some were over-weight The standards on American movies have gotten so ridiculously high that anyone not young, thin, and very beautiful is not usually considered for a role as the heroine of a love story.
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 11:10 PM |
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encorrgbl
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Believe me, I know from experience that you can be very charasmatic, you can be surrounded by people that enjoy having you around, but until people like superdoofus and her chemistry change their ways you will have zero chance of actually finding a woman that would have you.
I was just saying if I can't stand me, who's going to want to if I can't?
Start by being happy with your life and yourself. Go from there.
And about that zero chance thing, naw, I don't think that's a huge problem... I tend to like the imperfect, quirky, funny, smart, creative, sorta goal oriented, non-model types. And oddly enough, they tend to like me back. Go fig... *shrugs*
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 11:23 PM |
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FakeAppendix
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Do you happen to know what was considered attractive for the purposes of this study?
I was just saying if I can't stand me, who's going to want to if I can't?
Start by being happy with your life and yourself. Go from there.
And about that zero chance thing, naw, I don't think that's a huge problem... I tend to like the imperfect, quirky, funny, smart, creative, sorta goal oriented, non-model types. And oddly enough, they tend to like me back. Go fig... *shrugs*
I'm not super picky as far as looks go myself, my problem lies in that the type of woman I am interested in is in high demand, and there are many many more guys like me looking for that type of woman, than the other way around. Therefore, only the absolute 'prime specimins' of my type are chosen because the women have their pick. The whole idea of the post was simply frustration of yet another overlook in my life and my wild fantasy of actually being able to change anything in this world.
it's really too bad that people can't know you before deciding to figuratively smash you in the face with a two by four.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 6:40 AM |
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luvmycats
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I am really confused here. You first posted:
Why do people not think of the big picture when they are in the dating game? I have to wonder why people are so short sighted.
Then you said:
I'm not super picky as far as looks go myself, my problem lies in that the type of woman I am interested in is in high demand, and there are many many more guys like me looking for that type of woman, than the other way around. Therefore, only the absolute 'prime specimins' of my type are chosen because the women have their pick.
My question to you is, what kind of woman are you strategiclly looking for? Oh wait, I just reread your first post. You want to change everyones elses mind about what YOU want, so it leaves more for you to TRY to snatch onto.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 10:48 AM |
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hiriya
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After reading the post, may be he adopted strategically the best choice 
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