| Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:08 PM |
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SpyderLady
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I took some advice I read about on MD. The guys were posting about how it would impress them if a lady offered to pay sometimes. Well...
I met a man Friday for the first time. First date I have had in months. We liked each other and made a date for Saturday to meet at the movies for the 3pm matinee. I got there early and went ahead and bought the tickets. I thought it would impress him. Oh Boy, did it. He was insulted and didn't mind telling me it did. He told me he wanted to see me again, but asked me never to do that again. He said it felt degrading to him, like I thought he couldn't afford to take me on a simple date.
Gee, thanks a lot guys!
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:34 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Spydie ya coulda told him that you only bought them to save time in line ... he was more than welcome to pay you for them 
BTW  on the date hon
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:51 PM |
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twotall911
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spydie
dont worry about maybe it showed a different side of him
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 9:03 PM |
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razzired
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That was HIS problem, not yours. And not ours.
By the way, that's a great way to pay without making a big deal of it. Getting there early and presenting him with a deed already done usually takes the awkwardness, if there is any, out of the whole situation.
Sorry you had to deal with someone who was less than a gentleman about it.
MJ
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 9:06 PM |
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robodad
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Next time buy me a ticket 
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 9:19 PM |
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NeverB4Alone
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If he had any class at all, instead of belittling you that way, he would have just said ..... Since you bought the tickets, I'll buy dinner .... Sounds like someone with a EGO problem ....
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 9:36 PM |
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Raiynth
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It sounds like this guy is extremely old school. That's not always a bad thing, but the price of a couple of movie tickets doesn't seem worth getting his knickers in a twist over. Because he was a little too over the top, I'd maybe be just a little leery with him putting conditions on seeing you again - as though you'd done something wrong and need to correct your behavior when in reality you were only being thoughtful. That's a slight red flag from where I'm sitting.
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 10:36 PM |
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Ron9
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He will probably be ok - it surprised him. He may have kicked his butt when he got home for not handling it in a more gracious manor.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 12:09 AM |
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robodad
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I'd maybe be just a little leery with him putting conditions on seeing you again If he puts conditions on for the next date, then make sure that you put some conditions in, too.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:15 AM |
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SpyderLady
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Yeah, I knew it wasn't really anyone's problem. I was just kidding about that. I guess I should have waited and not done it so soon, I suppose it did surprise him. lol He seems very nice other than that little moment. I guess he wasn't use to it happening. It just shows us, we are all different, huh? One man wishes it would happen for him, while another thinks it is his place to pay.  I am 54 yrs old and I still haven't figured out this dating stuff!
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 3:34 AM |
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sweet5red
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thats ok it was a nice gesture to save time .. but then u are a first class lady.. Sweet N Louisiana
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 7:08 AM |
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hiriya
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I'm sure he will be more than happy, free tickets and a date  He's lucky
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 12:11 PM |
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zulamaze
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My comeback would have been..
Don't think you got off lite-- you are buying dinner!
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 12:19 PM |
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definitelydi
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Listen to Never and Zula...they're correct!
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 1:48 PM |
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lacyvsq
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Did you tell him that you expected to take it out in trade?
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:05 PM |
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 6:24 PM |
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SpyderLady
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 I neglected to read that fine print Disclaimer on the advice I read.
I see now it is a good thing that happened. I will never have to worry about paying for a date from now on with him. It is not expected or desired. That is out of the way, so now to a smooth sailing relationship...hopefully.
**Sweet--thank you so much. You are a sweetheart.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 8:04 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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I can only tell you what my response would have been. I would have said, "Ok, but I'm buying dinner after the show". I think it shows a small amount of disrespect to you when he tells you you aren't able to ever pay for anything. You are a productive member of society, and if you choose to spend your money on movie tickets for your date, he should honor your decision, and be happy that he's the guy you like well enough to spend money on. I'm always flattered when a woman spends money on me, and I'd certainly never criticize her for it.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 8:07 PM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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Thats what ya get for taking advice from the GUYS on here!! lol *Just joking of course!*
Best of luck in your pursue with this guy!
*AsH
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| Dec 12, 2006 @ 5:49 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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Did you tell him that you expected to take it out in trade?
Lacy she NOT me dangit !!
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