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Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:14 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
newfie6750


Posts: 1,625
Went out for dinner this weekend. #When it came time to pay the bill....She brought out her purse..wanting to pay half. The Way i was brought up the man should pay .Am i behind the times am i old fashioned or what?
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:16 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
luvmycats


Posts: 9,458
You are just a nice guy. If she offers next time, let her pay something, even it its just the tip. We have pride too. Of course there will be those who disagree, this is just how I feel when I offer.
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:22 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Sweetguy255


Posts: 95
I may be young, but I was brought up a man always pays for the date and tips the waiter/waitress. Every date I have ever gone out with I have always paid the bill and tip, regardless if she offers or not. I'm just the kind of man that feels this way.
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:25 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
ToucherinSparks


Posts: 4,300
The way I look at is this; if you asked her out, you pay. If she asked you out, she pays. It's called "being asked out", the asker pays.
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:46 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
twotall911


Posts: 12,696
I pay all if she insists then she can grab the tip
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:54 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Raiynth


Posts: 461
Ever since I went out to dinner with a guy who turned out to have forgotten to bring his wallet along, I always make sure I have enough money with me to cover the check for both of us. Just in case

Under ordinary circumstances, I'll at least offer to pay my own way, but if he declines, I don't argue the point. I don't want to insult anyone. I just don't want to be thought of as a mooch either!
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 9:08 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
luvmycats


Posts: 9,458
I just don't want to be thought of as a mooch either!

EXACTLY...
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 9:13 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
razzired


Posts: 2,807


You know, a lot of women only offer to pay because they think they should, and that puts you poor guys in an awkward position, doesn't it?

Did she make the offer without seeming to mean it?

Did she get out her wallet, or just reach for her purse?

Once you'd refused her offer, did she ask if she could at least leave the tip?

Did she give up immediately after you said no?

There are little clues to how sincere her offer is. If she really does mean that she'd like to contribute to the tab, you should let her. If you feel uncomfortable letting her contribute, just tell her. That should end the conversation.


MJ
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 9:13 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
BandTMom


Posts: 38,500
I agree with Touch!
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 9:31 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
sweet5red


Posts: 13,112
OMG ok i havent told this butt.. i met this guy for dinner one night at one of the casinos.. it was friday night so it was seafood night. at 18.95 per person.. but this buffet has all the seafood you could think of on it including lobster tails.. well he paid for dinner.. and then we talked for a while and then we went in the casino.. he gambled a 10. and i had a 20 of my own.. well heres the weird part.. i won 500.00 on my 20.. then he says " i hope i have enough gas to get home on i had no idea dinner was going to cost that much.. well i just looked at him and took a 20.00 out of my winnings and d ropped it in his hand and said theres your gas.. ( and he sure took it, didnt hesitate) he walked me to my car i said thank u for dinner and gave him a hug, then he had the nerve to say would u like to go out again.. did i handle this right?? Sweet N Louisiana ( he asked me out to begin with)
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 11:17 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
encorrgbl


Posts: 1,390
Raz? I think you need to find a job as like a dating doctor or something

Red? That sounded like he took a little bit of an advantadge of the situation, but the dinner may have surprised him, maybe he was thinking 20 for dinner, instead of 40, and he just didn't have the money. It was very nice of you to do that imho (and I don't think you should ever feel bad about being nice), giving him some money. I think that if I were he, I'd probably find a way to pay you back If you go out again, you could watch to see if he does it. If not, and he does something like that again... Then you know more about what type of a person he is...

PS - I agree with Touch's comment.
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 11:38 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
sweet5red


Posts: 13,112
enc that was several months ago and no i wont see him again.. matter of fact he didnt even say thanks for the gas money that night.. sooooooooooo he was nexted so to speak.. but my guys out there someplace.. sweet N Louisiana
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 6:32 AM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Raiynth


Posts: 461
Regarding Red's situation, ten bucks of gas can get you pretty far (unless you drive an SUV), but he chose to gamble it away and then worry about how to get home. Neither bright nor particularly classy, imho.
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 6:57 AM To Pay or Not To Pay    
hiriya


Posts: 1,298
The ladies will offer to pay the bill, actually they are not going to pay even a half Most of the time we'll get uncomfortable with that offer and we'll settle the bill and give the tips. She'll get the credit for being caring to you
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 7:06 AM To Pay or Not To Pay    
chinabull2000


Posts: 7,009
Sparky got it right - if I ask her out then I will pay the bill, but if she asks me out then at the very least I expect her to pay her half, although I reserve the right to pay it all if I've had a great evening.
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 8:27 AM To Pay or Not To Pay    
sweet_n_small1


Posts: 753
I would offer to pay half to be polite, but if he declines my offer, I sure wouldn't push it!
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 9:24 AM To Pay or Not To Pay    
razzired


Posts: 2,807


I've found that, as a woman (last time I checked!), the easiest way to pay the bill if I'm determined to is to wait until he goes to the bathroom and then ask for the check. That way, it's done and there's no discussion about it. Occasionally, someone will give me a stern talking to about not doing that again, so just for the hell of it, the next time we go out, I do it again.

With one particular guy, it's become almost a game - who can outwit the other one when it comes to picking up the check. It's fun, we both have a laugh and the evening usually ends with smiles on both sides.

Don't sweat the small stuff, don't pet the sweaty stuff.



MJ
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 10:58 AM To Pay or Not To Pay    
luvmycats


Posts: 9,458
Red, you did better then I would have. I would have given him the money too, but then I would have walked away and not said another word to him. What a jerk.

AND I sure wouldn't have wasted one of my awesomely, wonderful Squishy hugs on him!
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 1:06 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
sweet5red


Posts: 13,112
Red, you did better then I would have. I would have given him the money too, but then I would have walked away and not said another word to him. What a jerk.

AND I sure wouldn't have wasted one of my awesomely, wonderful Squishy hugs on him!

luvs.. actually he didnt even deserve that but u are the sweet one too.. Sweet N Louisiana
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 1:12 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Blondino


Posts: 4,280
If I am invited out for dinner then i dont pay .First date .. no no no .....

If someone suggests we meet for dinner .. say as friends ... then I may pay my share or the whole thing depends on how I feel

Its not the money but the respect thing for me ... I like paying for others but not on a first date
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