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Dec 11, 2006 @ 1:15 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Justme1107


Posts: 12
I guess that I am old fashioned also. I always pay for dinners, I open doors, etc. And I guess from what I have heard that I am a dinsosaur! That no one does that anymore. Maybe I should get with the times. ...... Nah, I like being me!
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 1:21 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Blondino


Posts: 4,280
NOT AT ALL .... you sound a gent ....

dont change ...
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 1:51 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
IceDog


Posts: 153
On the first few dates the man should pay, but after dating a while if the woman offers to pay then I'll let her some of the times. I was brought up that the man always pays also, but have learned it is OK for the ladies to pay once in a while.
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 1:55 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Blondino


Posts: 4,280
agreed ... I love to pamper my man .....when he least expects it
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 1:58 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
PullMyFinger


Posts: 940
Once the dating thing is accomplished....trust me....the woman eventually pays....I'm a pain in the ass....

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Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:06 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
magicmunchkin65


Posts: 62
I was brought up that if I'm asked out then the gentleman should pay. I have had to pay for a man's meal before and it kinda ticked me off. I agree with China if I suggest we go out then I will gladly pay my half but not the man's too. It just doen't seem right.

Munchkin
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:08 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Blondino


Posts: 4,280
Finger ... may I take you our for dinner tomorrow ?
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:12 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
PullMyFinger


Posts: 940
Sigh.....a big ole steaming bowl of haggis seems just the ticket blondino....


If I leave now....I'll be at Heathrow in about...mmmm, depending on whether Scis' rented house falls on my ass on the way through Kansas....bout 10
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:16 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Blondino


Posts: 4,280
lol ... at steaming haggis..... I am a cosmoplotian lady ... can do better than that

8 hour flight approx

<<<<< heading towards Heathrow now
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:19 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
PullMyFinger


Posts: 940
Bangors (e?) and beans?.....Beans on toast?....ya gotta love that isle food...lol

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Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:22 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Blondino


Posts: 4,280
the food here is wonderful


fresh salmon and seafood ... if you crap god knows where you go .. I ate crap in USa ,,,, all those burgers
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:24 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
PullMyFinger


Posts: 940
Salmon? Seafood?...ok

It's on you though.....I might spring for a pint later..
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:29 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
Blondino


Posts: 4,280
One does not drink pints
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 3:28 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
swingpup


Posts: 3,097
It's obvious you were dining with a woman that has respect as well as class. Many women of today are independent as well as very self-sufficient. I personally applaud, respect and appreciate women that are in fact able as well as willing to be a financial equal. You may just have a "keeper."............good luck.
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:11 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
MusicMonster


Posts: 2,901
Most of the "Man always pays" mentality was when men were making two or three times as much as their equivalent woman at a given job. So it was for a very valid reason. Generally that is thankfully no longer the case, and women do like to stand more on their own. So things like that are subject to change.

In my view, if there is an understanding the two of you have, then it should be followed, but if not, it could go either way, assuming incomes are similar. Generally it defaults to the guy, unless otherwise arranged. But I find a lot of women of today want to assert their financial independence, and pay almost as much as men do. I don't have a problem with that because their insight on the subject is very logical.

Then again, if she makes twice as much as he does, there isn't much logic in the guy picking up all the tabs, all the time. This doesn't really relate to opening doors, flowers, or other matters of chivalry or respect for women though, in my view. A woman should still be treated like a woman unless she insists otherwise.

However I try to avoid casino dates. I had one circumstance where my date expected to be financed by me for all her gambling expenses, since I was 'the guy'. And another situation where I won a jackpot and my date wanted her share of the take (about $1500) since she was along for the date. (different dates at different times). Both situations were a bit much, needless to say. I've simply got to screen more carefully!!

-MM

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Dec 12, 2006 @ 12:39 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
hiriya


Posts: 1,298
Ok now let the theory classes over and start the practicals I think we have got enough ideas to decide
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Dec 12, 2006 @ 2:20 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
sweet5red


Posts: 13,107
LOL Music Monster you saw my experience what happened to me and i was playin on my own funds.. Sweet N louisiana
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Dec 12, 2006 @ 2:32 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
MusicMonster


Posts: 2,901
I did indeed Sweet5red..

Maybe we both should avoid Casino Dates.. heh heh

Although the lobster tails sure sounded good.

-MM

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Dec 12, 2006 @ 4:54 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
beauty25


Posts: 2
I think that is nice gesture when a guy wants to pay for the date. But it also ok too if the woman wants to pay. Try a date where you go dutch pay.
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Dec 12, 2006 @ 6:07 PM To Pay or Not To Pay    
getinmyarms


Posts: 32
Pass the wheelchair, I may be that old school, but, the man pays.
Men may (usually) make more than women,
Men may (ususlly) be stronger than women
The woman I want to know is the woman who is certain that nothing material that I can bring to the table is as valuable as her heart.
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