| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:02 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Has anyone here ever created an imaginary lover, or do you know of someone who has?
If so, what were the reasons for doing so?
Was it to make someone jealous?
Was it to get someone to leave you alone?
Was it due to a need to feel wanted?
Just how far did this virtual affair go? Was the fantasy affair discovered and exposed?
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:15 PM |
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Loreli
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I had friends that kept fake (HUGE) diamond rings in their purse when we were younger and going out. If they were approached by someone they wanted to back off-they just slipped that big ole ring on their finger...
(and today not one of them has a real one that big, it sure was wishful thinkin!) 
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:21 PM |
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Blondino
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Was it to make someone jealous?
Was it to get someone to leave you alone?
Was it due to a need to feel wanted?
no because I cant find a real one 
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:26 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Was it to make someone jealous? Seems pretty childish and insecure.
Was it to get someone to leave you alone? If they can't understand "I'm not interested", they eventually understand having a conversation with themselves or unanswered phone calls/e-mails.
Was it due to a need to feel wanted? Sounds like some major insecurities to go to that length.
I've known of a couple instances where someone has told another they have a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse, but those times were usually when the approacher had drunk themselves stupid and could barely remember their own name, let alone comprehending their attention wasn't wanted. 
I feel that as long as Cinderella and the Prince are in the back of one's mind, a relationship is being set up for failure. Webster defines fairy tale as a story about fairies (which are imaginary beings) or as an unbelieveable or untrue story. I also feel fairy tales can be contributory to making one have a need to feel wanted.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:46 PM |
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luvmycats
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(which are imaginary beings)
 Oh Eyes, say it isn't so...
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:47 PM |
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definitelydi
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Yep...his name is Bob. I've always received good vibes whenever I've been around him. 
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:47 PM |
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razzired
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Hell, yes. And I refuse to give up my imaginary affair with Trace Adkins. Trust me -- it's HOT.
MJ
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:49 PM |
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julia143
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I have an imaginary lover every night 
But have never used "him" in public...
Not sure I would need to make anyone jealous....more than plenty of real men to choose from.
If someone is a little persistant bordering on stalkish....I usually sick my dog on them....he knows where to bite. 
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:50 PM |
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julia143
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oops...double post
[Edited on 12/11/2006 4:51 PM]
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:50 PM |
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julia143
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Oops...tripple post 
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:55 PM |
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luvmycats
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oops...double post
Uhhh...Julia were your fingers vibrating just a bit there?
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 5:14 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Oh Eyes, say it isn't so...
Sorry, Luv....I'm a realist. I fortunately learned my lesson about fairy tale relationships the hard way and a while back! Life is sooooo much better now that I've accepted the real world has even more to offer!!!! 
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 5:22 PM |
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luvmycats
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Thats great Eyes, sounds like you are doing AWESOME!
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 5:37 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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I think it is all a matter of attitude and being able to see ourselves as others see us!
Sometimes, our imagination or fantasies can conjure up impossibilities; then, when an opportunity arises, it doesn't live up to what we anticipated and we feel cheated. I've found having no expectations and taking things as they come has made me appreciate Life and all its offerings (some of which are not so delectable but quite educational!!!!)
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 8:16 PM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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I've never had an imaginary lover or relationship, seems silly!
*AsH
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 8:31 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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I've never had one either.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 8:40 PM |
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tonyuk32
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what about when masterbating? sorry for lowering the tone lol
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 8:47 PM |
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daisy315
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never had one.. never even crossed my mind
.. if some drunk jerk didn't understand the word "NO, leave me alone".. I just let my knee do the talking..
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 8:47 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Tony, I think that's something totally different than the reasons in the OP.
And, btw...I see nothing wrong with and think it's perfectly healthy to have an imaginary lover under that circumstance!!! 
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| Dec 12, 2006 @ 12:55 PM |
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hiriya
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If I can take my imaginary lover out for a dinner or a movie etc..
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