| Nov 26, 2005 @ 2:40 PM |
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jdctx
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Perhaps this is more of a rhetorical question..
You look at your life on paper and can't see a good enough reason why your still single !
Your stable have your life together..no baggage..Realistic in what your want , never asking for more then you can provide. Yet here we are !!!
 It's so crazy...
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 2:44 PM |
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Slinfear
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JD,
From my experiences in the past, EVERYTHING in life happens for a reason...
You lose your 'perfect woman' only because the Universe has one even better in store for you...But, if you spend too much time dwelling on the loss, you might miss the gain.
I think I'm still single because I have not made peace with it...I have to learn to accept being single, and be completely at peace with the fact that I am perfectly fine alone, before the Universe will take the next step and introduce me to the woman I should spend the rest of my life with...
But again, that is jsut my opinion.
MJ
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 2:55 PM |
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Angel54214
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Hi JD...  Thought I would join this thread and share my story. I do have my life together, no baggage and real in what I want. I live in a small town in So. CA, not much goes on here except the night bar thing which I don't go there cause I don't drink or enjoy watching others get drunk.  lol...I work in administration in medical field, so I have to work a lot, but have time off on weekends. Even on MD, most men are so far from me in distance where it would be too difficult for me to commit on travel for a relationship then the thought, what if I did meet someone that is miles away, who would move? Who would give up a great job and settle elsewhere? Humm, lots of thoughts there. Any ways I a whole lot of fun, love doing many things so I hope one day even if he not here, he will find me cause I a true lady with a very good positive outlook on life. So wish me best of luck on my journey won't you?  Angel
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 2:59 PM |
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summersquall
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I'm single by choice. I've made bad choices in the past in regards to a partner and I certainly will do everything I can possibly do to avoid making any similar mistakes in looking for a partner now.
I wouldn't call being single crazy, I would call it being prudent. There is no better place on earth than being next to a partner that truly loves you. There is also no place worse on earth than being next to a partner that doesn't.
Why be in a hurry?
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 2:59 PM |
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sirdidymus
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i can identify many reasons why i'm single. one level, although i think i'm attractive - i don't think the majority of woman find me to be the type of person that they're looking for in so far as physical looks go - as always - this isn't meant to whine, it's just matter or fact stuff - no worries - so physical appearance would be reason #1 - if you (in the proverbial sense) can't get up to the plate to swing - you (again, in the proverbial sense) can't have hopes of hitting a home run.
i'm shy and reserved in many situations so that even if i was in a position where someone that i found attractive - was also attracted to me - depending on the circumstances, i'd be less likely to act on it than someone who was perhaps more agressive.
my personality seems to be different than most. i try not to feel sorry for myself, blame others for my lot in life, i try (w/o always succeeding) to be well mannered and respectful of those around me, i care (most times) about those i may offend - and our modern western culture is not
one that embraces these qualities with high regard. In our culture, people that are more agressive, go-getter types, making lots of money - appearing "outwardly" successful, people that are in the spotlight - these are qualities that are more highly revered in our current culture. If there's any doubt about the standard of this culture, look at how everyday across the country - tax revenue towards education is being cut - forcing schools to look for disgusting commercial methods of bringing in revenue and teachers (the people who truly have the greatest affect on today's youth) are struggling to make ends meet - whereas sports/entertainment figures are seen as prominent role models and make more money in a year than most could dream of in a lifetime. I go to baseball and football games, movies, etc., so I'm just as much part of the problem as everyone else.
my spiritual/religious beliefs seem to fall very far from the norm and for most - from my observations, when people's beliefs are different than theirs - that is seen as "non-mainstream" and the person is much more likely to be thought of as a loon and not accepted.
despite my difficulty in meeting people, by nature - there are only certain people i'd be able to maintain a "relationship" status with, so i'd have a large degree of difficulty maintaining interest in someone who didn't have, what i think to be, are very basic, simple but evidently not readily widespread, mannerisms and qualities.
so there you have it - in a nutshell.
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 3:19 PM |
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spongebob777
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In my case I only recently began to feel ready to be with someone again.
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 3:38 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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Why are we still single ?
Well hopefully the only reason I'm still single is because she hasn't come back from visiting her dad for Thankgiving 
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 4:49 PM |
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jdctx
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I feel your pain taboo.. I lived in Temple Texas for 7 yrs and know its not the place to find someone...Most women won't date someone from the Temple they want the prince from Austin...
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 6:58 PM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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Well I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm single because no one is stupid enough to put up with me right now haha! (joking of course!)
I am single because I'm just geting out of a marriage, and I ain't really looking that hard right now either, to busy with trying to figure my life out and finish school and all that wonderful stuff. So its probly better that I'm not seriously looking right now.
*AsH
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 7:03 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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What age did you get married Ash?
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 7:15 PM |
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sordofadonkey
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I'm still single because I'm too picky for the ones that want me and too nice to ones I want. I need some more practice being a jerk
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 7:19 PM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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According to what others tell me, A wayyyyy to young age lol.
*AsH
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 7:27 PM |
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wandaful123
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I think perhaps I'm single because I don't exactly know what it is I want from a man... Havn't ben real good in the "picking" department. Single biggest factor is probably because I am not a very social person, don't like to go out alot, am a bit of a homebody. Hmmm, better stop thinking about this, the list just keeps growing and growing... 
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 7:31 PM |
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DipityDoo
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lack of time/opportunity to meet people....
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 8:49 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Why are we still single....cause we can't find anybody, duh????
lol...Serrrrriousssssly. Finding a partner that has "longevity" (since I'm quite sure most in this forum could hook up tonight if they so desire) that's the problem. Long-term relationships, at least now, must be one of the most difficult things known to human endeavor.
I mean, they seem to know more about cancer and landing on the moon than what it takes to make a successful, lasting relationship? This must be hard, people? (lol) If it were easy we'd find our soul mate the first time out and be with them our entire lives?
Like someone said earlier. A partner should be somebody that loves us regardless of our irritating idiosyncrasies and habits, and vice versa. The couple must be able to communicate openly; share similar lifestyle, tastes, and sexual preference; have chemistry, attraction, and love.
People in relationships should be free of destructive vices like drinking, drugs, gambling, etc. Relationships are not reformation projects. If you rely on others to save you then join a church or a cult, but don't seek a partner.
I haven’t even touched upon money and other contenious things that normally sane people squabble over.
As you can see, it's a tall order. But don’t be discouraged. It’s been done so it’s not impossible.
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 9:13 PM |
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Slinfear
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Personally, I think Motown is still single because women are afraid he's gonna snap them in half in the throws of an orgasm....( have you SEEN the size of those ARMS?!?  )
Just my opinion, and it could be wrong...It's happened before, once or twice in my life, it could happen again...9But I doubt it)
MJ
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 9:22 PM |
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wandaful123
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Personally, I think Motown is still single because
Personally I think its 'cause we're all afraid hes too good to be true.... 
[Edited on 11/26/2005 9:23 PM]
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 9:54 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Thank You, Thank You, Thank You, Super Slinfear and Wonderful Wanda.
Btw, I'll also be here tomorrow night. Make sure you try the veal, it's excellent....oh, and please, tip your waiter/waitresses generously.
  
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 10:17 PM |
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goodcatch57
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Good question.
I think I'll agree with summersquall, by choice. I think there is a lot of social pressure put on us to NOT be single.
Although I would love to have a girlfriend. My biggest problem right now is I am having more fun in life then I ever have and it would take somebody totally crazy to be in my life without friction.
I'm definitely not your typical 48 year old dude. I find it EXTREMELY unlikely that anyone in my age group would touch me with a 10' pole. And dating extremely young gals just never seems to work out. I'm very content with my life, even though it can be lonely sometimes.
Most women refer to me as having "Peter Pan Syndrome" and it appears to be a fairly distastful trait in a man. To make matters worse, I live up to it. I refuse to grow up. It's worked so far..still have my 18 year old body, with a little more gray hair and it hurts a little bit more sometimes when I play to hard. A joy and a curse..
I like being single, but it would also be fun to have a honey. I guess thats kind of an oxymoron.. I have absolutely no problem being honest and faithful to my woman, never have. Strictly a one woman guy. I'm responsible and a good provider, lover and companion. mellow and patient and HATE fighting...won't do it.
I've accomplished most of the things I wanted to in life, got my traveling fix and played more then should be legal.
But.. yeah, I'm single by choice and I'm a kook. Maybe someday if I ever grow up and start acting like the other guys my age, the gals will come around...till then, see ya at the skatepark hangin out with the other kids.
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 10:37 PM |
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MotownManiax
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I understand you and summer, Catch. Single by choice.
One question then....why are you on a dating site? I know, could be because of the off chance you might get lucky and find something. But by your own admission, being too crazy for women in your life right now, if you're not looking for anything long term isn't this just like a giant booty call smorgasbord to see what's available? Nothing wrong with that I guess, but the women on here might like to know.
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