| Dec 20, 2006 @ 10:43 AM |
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travelnfrog
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We've had a really interesting thread on what irritates us, but I was wondering how selective you are when reading a profile?
Some avoid kids, some gambling, others NASCAR or golf...
Assuming you are seeking dating/LTR, not just friends, what are your personal walk aways in someone's profile?
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 10:59 AM |
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julia143
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Any mention of Sex.
For me personally, if they write how they are looking for a sexy open-minded woman. Or some crap like that. We all love Sex, you don't need to mention it in your profile. It just tells me that you are looking for a Sex partner and not a life partner.
Another one is when they have a list a mile long as to what their ideal woman should look like and be like. I should have all these positive traits and look like I just stepped out of a photo shoot for Playboy.....if that were the case...I don't think I would be on here...I'd have the men beating down my front door. But the best part is...they themselves look like something out of a horror movie...yet they make demands.
I like down to earth people. We all have flaws. Those that give every woman a chance are my favorites.
Oh....and I know this is sooooooo superficial for me....but if they have a picture of themselves topless, showing a hairy flabby chest....I gag and then exit the profile as fast as I can.... 
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 11:40 AM |
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travelnfrog
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LOL! We may have an age difference but we think alike in a lot of ways. I avoid those who mention sex or all they mention is how they love hugging/kissing/cuddling, etc. While nice in a relationship - we aren't there yet!
For me personally I also avoid ones who mention casinos as their favorite vacation destination or great for a date (okay, if they live in NV I might continue reading...  ).
I don't play golf so unless they have other interests that we share, I move on. Same with NASCAR. I do enjoy camping and hunting with a camera and I used to love fishing. Hard to tell with some of those guys...
If they are looking for Asian women, long luxurious hair, slender bodies and no brains -- I'm on to the next profile.
Hey, at my age I can afford to be a little picky....want my last years to be my best years!! 
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 11:53 AM |
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horselady9
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Grinning..... agreed, and to be equally trivial, I have real trouble with someone who cannot use the language. Incredibly poor grammar and spelling is doom - if a profile is a means of selling yourself, that sells either lack of education or of communication skills, both of which are very important to me. A couch potato who considers a long hike to be between the sofa and the refrigerator for another beer is another turn-off. Give me an active, inquisitive mind that is capable of wonder (and a bit of rascally humor), and I'm hooked. Give me an involved, active, self-challenging and self-motivated person who actually has a LIFE, and I'm line-and-sinker...
Of course.... it is nice to be able to afford to be picky, too!
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 12:08 PM |
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spicygamble
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Yes, we've hit on an important point here...
It seems there are two schools of thought happening here. Those who want to find a suitable match & those who want to hook up. Why, just a moment ago I got a note from just such a person(not a joke, real letter here people)...
...experp from note...
...I wanted a girl for X-mas, but unless Santa is real, probably not going to get one now. Too late. :( lol I'm a nice guy, but soooo sexually frustrated I could cry! Sorry, but I am. Just wanted to talk. Don't mean to be a pain... ...oh, baby...oh... so glad I have ...extra panties... oh... hot...
*cough...coughblllshhhhttt...cough...
Ok, so this note made me want to dash into oncoming traffic... but I took a look at his profile, all the same. Bingo! Found one of my all time pet peeves...
about myself:
If I like this site I'll fill this out. *rolling eyes...
You're kidding, right? If I can muster up a profile(which is typically what draws them in to begin with...), then surely they can list a few basic details.
*geesh...
...but that's just me & as we all know
... I'm just odd like that.
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 12:09 PM |
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littleross
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I agree with all of you. 
But if there is only one photo, and it is of someone without a shirt, or a muscle shirt (less the muscles) - I dont' even bother to finish reading.
Shallow?
Probably, but we're being honest here right?
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 12:17 PM |
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MotownManiax
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If a woman posts a pic that shows off her, ahem, assets, I'd definitely take a look out of curiosity, but to look further she'd have to be in my age and distance range. Next I'd look to see if she smokes, has kids, ages (if posted), and requirements of what she's seeking.
Her attributes or what she thinks of herself is really the last thing I read, because if I can't get past or don't measure up to the earlier things it won't matter.
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 12:29 PM |
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swingpup
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Milage/distance. If a woman is not within the operational range of 100 miles, unless she is coming to town or desires to travel and meet at a halfway point it's not a happening deal.
There is simply no desire to travel for hours to do an evening or even a weekend as I'm often on call. 
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 12:38 PM |
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encorrgbl
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Someone who sounds like a controller or makes demands like you're going to be there to entertain them, or wait on them hand and foot.
I appreciate the real ones. The caring ones.
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 12:44 PM |
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travelnfrog
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Yes, it is nice, HorseLady! Communication skills and intelligence are important and what they post and write shows more then listing a college degree. My ex was very intelligent and he had a GED - came from the era when dyslexia was equated with stupid. He was far from that...
Spicy, you hit on one of my pet peeves as well. If you can't write some basic stuff in your profile, then how am I to find out if we have anything in common at all? I've found that these guys, when they email me first, want to move directly to the phone & meeting, before we know anything about each other. WARNING...DANGER Will Robinson.... Is it that hard to write something about what you like or dislike? C'mon guys....get a friend to help if you don't know what to say, or even your kid!
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 12:45 PM |
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travelnfrog
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Littleross, absolutely being honest....I hope this will help us all fine tune our profiles to better reach potential partners, friends, dates...whatever it is we are each seeking.
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 12:49 PM |
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travelnfrog
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Mo, I do the same although I have to watch the distance thing. Hard living in a rural area so I'm more open to discussion with those outside my immediate area. Heck, if nothing else I gain a new friend.
Men in my age with young kids are a no for me....I have 15 grandkids (10 step, 5 mine). That's tiring enough and I don't see them that often! LOL!
Smoking is a big no-no, I lost my husband and ex to cancers from smoking so it's just hard for me....toss in an allergy to smoke that can be uncomfortable...but I do love certain pipe & cigar scents, for some reason they don't bother me (but some of them do).
Okay...verbal diarrhea off! Thanks for your input....
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 12:50 PM |
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travelnfrog
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Hey swing, I know what you mean but I have found some good friends by chatting with those outside my area. We may never meet, but then again you never know...stranger things have happened in life.
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 12:53 PM |
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travelnfrog
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Encorrgbl, I avoid the ones with fine wining and dining on their list of favorite things to do, also opera. Not my cup of tea....the restaurant is fine for a special occasion, just not what I want to do more than once or twice a year. 
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 1:02 PM |
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mogrl1000
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if they are more then 100 miles away.
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 1:33 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I agree with Julia.
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 2:25 PM |
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luvmycats
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Not willing to relocate.
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 2:48 PM |
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zulamaze
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If they have small kids.
Lets face it, I am 42, already raised my son and now have a grandson.
I do not want to raise anymore kids. It is now my time!
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 3:32 PM |
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sweet5red
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I appreciate the real ones. The caring ones.
<<----- lookin for me ENC :) sweet N Louisiana
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| Dec 20, 2006 @ 8:22 PM |
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travelnfrog
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Amen to that, Zulamaze!
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