| Nov 28, 2005 @ 10:46 AM |
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ICE24
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Okay ladies, help me out here. Why do some women on here ask such personal questions about a man they've never even met. Such as, "How many woman have you been with?" And is this the type of question you would want a man to ask you?
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| Nov 28, 2005 @ 12:16 PM |
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CynCity
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I can't even imagine asking this intrusive of a question to anyone, let alone someone I have not yet, or have just recently, met.
My only thought is perhaps they think the number of women you have been with is indicitive of your ability, or lack thereof, to commit to a LTR. Other than that, I can only think that they are concerned about and trying to assess the risk of STD's.
If someone asked me this question, I think I would bolt. But then again, I'm a little skittish anyway. 
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| Nov 28, 2005 @ 12:20 PM |
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danae74
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Well, she could be trying for two different things. She could be a.) wondering how big of a womanizer you are, or b.) wondering if you have enough experience for the job. With some women, it could be both. I'd say that if you don't feel comfortable answering certain personal questions, just grin and say "Well, that's kind of personal, isn't it, ma'am?" and avoid it lightly. If she persists, another grin and a playful "You're certainly nosy, aren't you?" should do the trick.
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| Nov 28, 2005 @ 1:08 PM |
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skinnybarncat
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mmmmmmmmm, have never had that question asked....
but i believe i would ask why they would ask that.. and i would check my foggy memory to answer if they really want to know and have a good reason to know....  errrrrr, one, errrr, two, no,hmmmm,that one may have been a dream...let's see, mmmm, no, mmmmm, no, mmmmm, no, that one didn't count,,,,,hmmmmm.....
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| Nov 28, 2005 @ 1:37 PM |
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swingpup
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LOL......either way you answer you're screwed........LOL 
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| Nov 28, 2005 @ 2:05 PM |
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TiredofZGame
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I think that is tasteless, but in my area of the SF Bay this kind of thing is commonplace. People are outspoken and feel a sense of entitlement to ask and do anything they feel like doing.
My only guess would be the gal wants to know how safe you are. Why this would be a question asked before she even gets to know you is probably her attempt at separating the wheat from the chaff.
I have had every email you can imagine since the short time I have been here. Some people are looney!
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| Nov 28, 2005 @ 10:23 PM |
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Angel54214
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Hi Ice...  My thoughts are its wrong to ask that personal question if the woman is a stranger and you haven't met in person at all. What I would do on an email (just a suggestion), is return reply asking...(Are you employed with MD and is this a survey?)
If you want to joke with them, you can always say "I only can count to 5"
Hope my angelic ideas was supportive...just being funny..
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 2:01 PM |
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CHERRYBABY25
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why not? i don't see a problem w/ asking that question! would u want to be w/ someone who has been around the block more times than the mail man???? and if u are affraid to admit how many than that's gross!! 
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 2:09 PM |
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swingpup
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Gross as in 144? Speaking of 144.........
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 2:15 PM |
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someone_me
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"How many woman have you been with?"
Why? You don't want to be with them also do you? You aren't bi are you? Oh wow! Can I watch?
Yes, have been asked this question a number of times and none of them ever got a straight answer.
[Edited on 11/29/2005 2:18 PM]
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 3:02 PM |
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storm131
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Hey Swingpup ... you always get me laughing!!!ICE, My first thoughts about the question, YUCK!! I really wouldent want to know. I mean, what if he wanted to go into detail or he had 'stories' he wanted to share  seems like a big can of worms .... some questions should be saved for later if there is a 'later'.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 4:53 PM |
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conny90045
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Hi Ice........Your a sweetie.  I like the way you think and most of all repsect others. You don't put people down like others do. It shows alot about you.
Ok now the question you ask. I don't think it's a big deal when a woman asks nor a man to ask how many partners you have been with. I think the reason why is because the dangers. I think it all depends on where you are at with the relationship. To ask up front .....NO!! That's not good. If the relationship is going futher then ok. But if it makes you unconfortable then I understand as well. Yous hould not have to tell her. If she gets pist because you don't tell her then she has a problem. 
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