| Jan 14, 2007 @ 10:28 AM |
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Moonwalk
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I heard ofthen about it and I do not understand how does it work.
Well, I do not wat to meet someone with commitment phobia.
I only want how come that. 
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 10:42 AM |
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Strandedboarder
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Fear of commitment...that’s when a guy is in a relationship with a girl he likes, but knows she’s not the “one”, but doesn’t want to end it because he’s lazy and it’s too much trouble and expense to get a new girl. So he strings her along until she gets tired of it, or until she actually wrangles him into a marriage, which ends in divorce 2-5 years later. I think that about sums it up.
Yeah…”wrangles”! 
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 1:45 PM |
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robodad
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I heard ofthen about it and I do not understand how does it work.
Well, I do not wat to meet someone with commitment phobia.
I only want how come that. I'm confused...are you asking us why you don't want to meet someone who's afraid of commitment?
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 1:51 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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stranded??? wrangles??? 
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 1:53 PM |
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winterrenegade
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ok now i'm lost  
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 1:54 PM |
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wiccked
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 lost me...........
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 1:58 PM |
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robodad
Posts: 5,866
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stranded??? Where did you see that word?
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 1:59 PM |
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The_love_Giant
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I really dont get what the qustion is? Anybody help me 
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 2:02 PM |
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wiccked
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robodad- one of the posters- strandedboarder 
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 2:05 PM |
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The_love_Giant
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 2:10 PM |
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ladymarshall
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Been there,,,six months into this thing and he still dont want a commitment,,,,guess so that he can stroll thru the personals and claim he is not looking,,,,,,,
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 3:05 PM |
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Dukums
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I have found that many times people who actually have deep intense feelings for a person, also have a greater fear of committment. When there is much to loose, then there is much more to fear. To love someone is to open our heart to the risk of pain. Because of this risk, many are afraid to commit.
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 3:09 PM |
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Thanglhrly
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Dukums.......that is an interesting viewpoint.
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 3:24 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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I agree Duke....that is probably the reason for fear of committment....too much to lose...sort of a way to protect your heart I guess...but we have nothing to fear but fear itself. Fear will paralyze you and you will never live life to the fullest...
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 4:20 PM |
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PullMyFinger
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Fear of the risk is just another way of committing social suicide. All great things accomplished have an element of risk to it......from business to relationships, failure of or fear of it will forever doom you to a life of mediocrity.
I do not fear love or commitment, I fear the lack of it...
I will show you fear in a handful of dust.
~~T.S. Eliot
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 4:21 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 4:29 PM |
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The_love_Giant
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 4:33 PM |
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Wildkitty
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I have found that many times people who actually have deep intense feelings for a person, also have a greater fear of commitment. When there is much to loose, then there is much more to fear
Could not have worded it better
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 4:42 PM |
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The_love_Giant
Posts: 693
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I have found that many times people who actually have deep intense feelings for a person, also have a greater fear of commitment. When there is much to loose, then there is much more to fear
Thats me in a nut shell.
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| Jan 14, 2007 @ 5:56 PM |
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sciurusniger
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True commitmentphobics are, in a word, selfish. They live in fear that if they stay with one person, they'll have to give up something of themselves. It's "scarcity mentality" in one of its finest manifestations and certainly the type of person to avoid at all costs.
Mature people understand that while there is a giving up and giving in when in a loving relationship, the other person is doing the same thing and overall both stand to end up with a great deal more. But this sometimes requires being able to delay gratification, which is something a true commitmentphobic simply cannot do.
Certainly fools rush into relationships where angels fear to tread, and the timing of commitments is an individual and oft-tricky thing at best, but eventually, if there is to be that "happily ever after", a commitment must be made.
To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.
~~ Bertrand Russell
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