| Jan 15, 2007 @ 12:17 AM |
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Dukums
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We all talk about the things in profiles, pictures, blogs, ect. that we look for in picking a date. However what do you look for when you are dating that reveals to you character and lifestyle issues that are important to you?
For me I have found 2 important things.
1. How does a woman's kids talk and treat her. If they are disrespectful, this makes me wonder.
2. What is the condition of her home. Is it messy, cluttered, perfect, ect? This shows me how much she is comfortable with chaos in her life.
What say you?
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 1:05 AM |
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daisy315
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chaos.. is that the same thing as drama?..
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 1:07 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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i hate anal retentive people. i always want to tell them to shut up, and sit down.
i'm looking for a partner who enjoys cleaning, himself, and doesn't want me to do it 
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 1:12 AM |
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daisy315
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well, I don't have kids.. but my nephew treats me like a queen.. ( I so LOVE that boy!)
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 1:14 AM |
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Dukums
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Chaos could be drama but not necessarily. However the amount of clutter a woman allows in her living enviroment can sometimes show how much she values orderliness in her life and that reflects in more areas than just housekeeping.
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 1:15 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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*doesn't value orderliness at all*
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 1:16 AM |
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daisy315
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my house is not perfect, but it is not dirty.. neatness is not high on my agenda.
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 1:32 AM |
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SunBabe
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However the amount of clutter a woman allows in her living enviroment can sometimes show how much she values orderliness in her life and that reflects in more areas than just housekeeping.
Apparently "orderliness in my life" isn't a high priority 
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 1:57 AM |
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Dukums
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Ladies,
I did not ask if you met my criteria. I asked what your criteria was. Sheesh!
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 1:59 AM |
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sweet5red
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well i am a very organized person in most ways.. my music cd's are in alphabetical order by artists.. and in category.. my important papers tax etc are in a real file cabinet.. my clothes are in my closet by color.. etc. LOL but my place is clean but a little clutter.. Sweet N Louisiana
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 6:04 AM |
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loisday
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I, too, think the interaction betwen parent and child is important, regardless of the child's age.
A clean living space is secondary to how he cares for his body.
Ability to communicate verbally and physically is of greatest importance.
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 6:40 AM |
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Raiynth
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Man, I just hate the generalizations based on gender.
Yes, how children behave toward a parent can be indicative of... well, parenting philosophies and leadership skills. Teenagers don't count though. Teenagers are mutant spawn from the pits of darkness.
The condition of anyone's home can possibly reflect whether they're comfortable with chaos in their life. I wouldn't call that an absolute by any means. A home with kids isn't going to be neat as a pin. A home with a working parent, or the home of someone who works two jobs is probably always going to be a work in progress. Let's not lay this all on the female gender.
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 6:46 AM |
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Lovinheart445
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Amen to that rayinth...I live alone, and try to keep a orderly, and clean home, but it does get out of hand at times.
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 8:35 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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(Just for the record, my house is normally neat and clean, but I've done enough in the way of home improvements that I know I can deal with chaos as needed, I do prefer order though. And my kids, birth and foster both, are always respectful... even if they do tease, and as kids they loved tickling my feet - thank heaven they outgrew that one).
My criteria now...
- Must love animals. In fact, my animals must love him...they're great judges (hey, they picked me, right?)
- Must think for himself. I don't do well with parrots.
- Must be able to dream. In the words of Oscar Hammerstein, if you don't have a dream, how you gonna have a dream come true?
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 9:22 AM |
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everrett
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It is funny that this was posted now. I have been attracted to such a diverse feild of women that I was unable to put a finger on the things that I like until the last few months. Recently I have been gving it a bit more thought than I have in the past.
It is a lot of small things that I never noticed before, that capture my attention. From a distance it is the way a person carries themselves and the way they move. I find women that moves with a confident, grace, without attempting to be "sexy", the most eye catching.
Up close, smell is a primal part of attaction for me. When I enjoy a light perfume or just the fresh clean smell of soap, combined with the natural scent of a woman's hair and skin, it goes a long way to increase my attraction for her. Then of course, there is the feel of her skin and hair. I love smooth skin and hair.
Once I am talking to someone, the most important part of attraction for me is an active mind. It enhances both my physical attraction and interest in a woman.
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 10:17 AM |
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1stsignofspring
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I like a man who can communicate well ...Say what he feels and thinks.
Is he grounded in life and know what he wants and likes... 
Does he have a nice smile and kind eyes...can we laugh big belly laughs...
Does he get stirred when there is someone less fortunate than he... 
Good manners and can he treat me like a lady... 
Does he dress decent and smell good.... 
Hey, I think that is simply a gentlman... 
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 10:22 AM |
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nightrider3281
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Just because a ladies house is cluttered a little and not always organized does not mean that she doesnt take pride in her life and herself, especially a lady that works and trys to balance ahouse hold. it can be tough at times.
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 10:24 AM |
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1stsignofspring
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Thank you Night....yes, us ladies who work and sometimes overtime don't always have time to keep everything perfect....we are not Leave it to Beavers moms anymore... 
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 11:32 AM |
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Dukums
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Ok maybe I was amiss by not putting in the normal disclaimers about being an equal opportunity employer ect. I gave my examples because I am a man that dates women. Not because I was picking on a gender.
And I do know that there are always exceptions to the rule. Again the question was, "what do you look for? It was an attempt to broaden my horizons and to see if people notice some of the same things as myself, and also to hear the female perspective concerning what they look for in guys that reveal character and lifestyle. So consider this the disclaimer.
"The claims of this poster are not considered sacrosact, and are not intended to be exclusive, gender biased, or a reflection of the thoughts, intents, and character of anyone in particular. They are for informative puposes only.
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| Jan 15, 2007 @ 12:21 PM |
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swingpup
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Excerpts from my website;
H). I'm not seeking a woman that purchases beer or other alcoholic beverages for their under age children or friends. Add to that a woman that would drink with minors. A woman once told me that she would rather have them drink at home then somewhere else? The same would hold true for tobacco usage by under age individuals. Why the hell would any responsible adult permit children to do that in their home?
I). I'm not seeking a woman that lives her life always in drama. I'm sure you know the type, every time you speak to them they have a major crisis on their hands. Shit happens .....but all the time? Let me clarify this. One that always has a problem with the neighbor(s), the school is always picking on their child, the boss is a Dick head.....if they even have a job, the ex never pays child support on time, the car is always broken, they are always broke.......You know what I mean. Their child is a "shit bird" but it's always society or someone's fault other then themselves and the child. If it wasn't for problems (drama), they wouldn't have a thing to discuss or complain about.
L). I'm not seeking a woman that uses the words ain't, gotta, and toad (told) you.
M). I'm not seeking a women that uses Polish Suit Cases (paper or plastic grocery sacks) for suit cases for a weekend get away or on a 7-day cruise.
O). I'm not seeking a woman that wears black polyester stretch pants with the seam up the ass pulled apart so that the threads are showing.
P). I'm not seeking a woman that wears bras that are off white or the color of bone when in fact they were white when new. Panties, the same thing applies.
Q). I'm not seeking a woman that wears a bathing suit..... one piece, thong or bikini that appears to have a large mink contained in her bottoms. Can't the bikini line at least be trimmed?
R). I'm not seeking a woman that smokes a pipe, chews or smokes cigars.......What more can I say!
T). I'm not seeking a woman that wears perfume that smells like she purchased a 55 gallon drum of it for $4.95 at the Wal-Mart Surplus Outlet.
U). I'm not seeking a woman that thinks that her yearly is when she cleans her house. I'm not a clean freak however I don't feel as though garbage piled in ones home high lighted by fresh pet shit and urine stains on the carpet is cool....God I hope you don't either.
W). I'm not seeking a woman that speaks in tongues.
Y). I'm not seeking a woman that won't or doesn't desire to shower and/or wash her ass before making love. After all personal hygiene is an issue that should come naturally to most all of us.
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