| Nov 29, 2005 @ 2:14 AM |
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goodcatch57
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Yup, time to give it up. I went on a little email spree and made a few new friends and realized....maybe this just isn't the right time for me. Since I'm not really sure what I'm after or what I'm doing and don't really seem to have any good goals or direction in life right now, time to think about life ahead and getting my act together.
I'm really getting good at being lonely and really am very happy, but I'm not sure how another person would fit in my whacky life. It just wouldn't be fair to drag somebody in here.. I kind of have been putting pressure on myself to produce, but not sure why.. hard to explain. But I feel good about my decision so it must be right, I feel like the load has been lightened.
But you just never know. In the past when I've given up is when the best things happen. So it's time to verbalize it and just go back to enjoying life as it is.
But don't think I'm leaving! I'll still be here to piss people off and leave you all wondering what mental asylum I escaped from. I just won't be eying those cute Chinese gals for a while..
I guess I'll just leave my profile as is, since I never get any action off it anyway and I'm to lazy to change it. Maybe that kookstress will see it and change my mind. But till then, this ol dogg has called off the chase.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 4:12 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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I'm not that far behind ya bud....It almost seems pointless anymore....Maybe I'm just depressed right now...Hopefully I will feel better tomorrow.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 4:43 AM |
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Porsha924s
Posts: 192
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Make it 3
After obtaining another car to play with I guess most of my time will spent on my back and all the gals have a car already so why need me!  Tired of climbing walls and hard to get a grip on the real person behind the keyboard. I kinda am partial to the face to face thing, helps them see the real me/her! I do wish however people would come in on a clean slate rather than bring their haunts with them. Pain and anger is a very EZ thing to see and many are in pain,sad to say,but they must let go and give the next person a shot at their heart/interest. One reason some are here, it helps them hide behind their wall until they feel ok to come out and open up to others.
I wish you the best of luck guys! 
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 5:09 AM |
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mart777
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consider some hunting in non-internet environment.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 6:05 AM |
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Wibber
Posts: 162
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I'm with you guys. Seems kind of pointless and when I actually was supposed to have a date I was relieved when he wasn't feeling well and it gave me an excuse to back out. Maybe it's this time of year-- I feel LESS sociable and I'm relieved I don't have to go to any parties or crap like that. I guess I'm just a solitary loner.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 7:21 AM |
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MotownManiax
Posts: 9,737
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Catch? Thought you were the kind a person to never say never? (lol)
But I hear ya. I let my Match and Yahoo subs run out but still have profiles up there, too. Not that it does any good; don't get that many responses. Dating is a ritual where men are supposed to pursue and, frankly, I'm done pursuin'. Maybe it'll be one of those deals where, when we least expect it, somebody will walk into our lives. I kind of like the serendipity feel of that scenario.
Anyway, glad to see you'll still be posting.
You'll have to keep us apprised of your Chinese connection, and if you find your Asian cutie, of course.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 7:42 AM |
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Snappygoddess
Posts: 5,106
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Nine months ago, I pretty much said the same thing...and then I connected with the guy I am with now. Pretty unexpected, but a very nice and refreshing change!! Don't know if it's forever..all I am looking at is the here and now and for once letting the future take care of itself, as far as love goes.
Holiday time can be very lonely and depressing..even if you are happy being single it's still nice to have a good person at your side to do things with.
Best wishes to all of you for whatever you are pursuing in life
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 7:54 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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It's not just you guys, I'm with Wibber. Dates have been so disappointing that I'd really rather stay home with the kids, cats and dog, and just post in the forums. I still get my dancing fix a few nights a week, and 'tis the party season. As for non-internet - the only place I meet anyone interesting is at work, and it's been consistent, they're married. One of them's become a really good friend, and if he weren't married, there's no question there'd be more. As it is we just flirt and avoid being alone together. At least it gives me hope that if there's one guy like that around, maybe I'll come across another. I've changed my profile to indicate just friendship/emails/chat...well, good luck to all of us and see you in the forums!
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 8:41 AM |
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skinnybarncat
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Been there done that will probably go there and do that. 
Giving up a delusion is difficult...creating another is as much....if you can find one or so that suits you for a lifetime that is called success...a good and productive life.... 
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 10:12 AM |
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FeliciVagano
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Yup, time to give it up. I went on a little email spree and made a few new friends and realized....maybe this just isn't the right time for me. Since I'm not really sure what I'm after or what I'm doing and don't really seem to have any good goals or direction in life right now, time to think about life ahead and getting my act together.
I'm really getting good at being lonely and really am very happy, but I'm not sure how another person would fit in my whacky life. It just wouldn't be fair to drag somebody in here.. I kind of have been putting pressure on myself to produce, but not sure why.. hard to explain. But I feel good about my decision so it must be right, I feel like the load has been lightened.
But you just never know. In the past when I've given up is when the best things happen. So it's time to verbalize it and just go back to enjoying life as it is.
But don't think I'm leaving! I'll still be here to piss people off and leave you all wondering what mental asylum I escaped from. I just won't be eying those cute Chinese gals for a while..
I guess I'll just leave my profile as is, since I never get any action off it anyway and I'm to lazy to change it. Maybe that kookstress will see it and change my mind. But till then, this ol dogg has called off the chase.
[/QUOTE]Yup, time to give it up.
It just wouldn't be fair to drag somebody in here
So it's time to verbalize it and just go back to enjoying life as it is.
But don't think I'm leaving! I'll still be here to piss people off and leave you all wondering what mental asylum I escaped from.
and your point was????
This????? > I just won't be eying those cute Chinese gals for a while.. [QUOTE]
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 10:45 AM |
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conny90045
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Oh Hell, I am not here to get serious with anyone. I am just here for the fun of it. I lost hope in meeting anyone on here because of the last one. It's all fun fun fun!!!! 
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 10:51 AM |
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MotownManiax
Posts: 9,737
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lol...that's the way to look at it, Conny.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 11:39 AM |
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wandaful123
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Matchdoctor, in my opinion is another opportunity to broaden our horizons, just another door for meeting new people. I don't think we need to be hunting but the more socailizing we do, in no matter what format, the more the possibilty of meeting someone we just may click with. I especially love the forums for getting to know people.
Thanks MD 
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 11:46 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Agree Wholeheartedly, Wanda!! I think forums on dating sites is an excellent idea. If nothing else it exposes you to other people's thoughts that may never come up in one-on-one emails/phone conversations.
Must be something about emailing in a group that makes normally sedate minds react with such creativity, emotion, and plain 'ol chutzpah...lol.
But it can also be a double-edged sword. You might find a few people initially appealing only to find out what they really think when they open their mouths, and not in a good way.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 12:18 PM |
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storm131
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I am the eternal optimist and completly, hopelessly drowning in it. Goodcatch, Iv enjoyed your thoughts in here and you made me smile a few times   Four years ago I quit, gave-up, went one my way thinking the online thing wasent for me. Its been almost two months on here and Iv had one unsolisited reply and only two replys to my 'wink'. After reading what others are saying about the lack of responses in here I think I get the prize for the most ignored......but then I take the credit for that because I wrote my profile for only one man, no one else. It was my intention to aliminate all but the 'one' man that was ment for me and more importantly, attract the man I was ment for. Well....I got exactly what I asked for....Its an earthshaking experiance when, after so long and nearly giving up, you find them,the one you searched for, the one you thought about all your life. Ok so this is getting a little mushy.... but forgive me cause Im in love  Im just hopeing to give all of you some encouragement. You just never know when......
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 12:30 PM |
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MotownManiax
Posts: 9,737
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Storm, a good pic -- heck, "any" pic -- can do wonders.
Have you ever used one in your profile?
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 12:35 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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I know exactly how you feel Storm... Congrats and best of luck to you for a prosperous life with your sweetheart
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 12:40 PM |
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buni
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Matchdoctor, in my opinion is another opportunity to broaden our horizons, just another door for meeting new people. I don't think we need to be hunting but the more socailizing we do, in no matter what format, the more the possibilty of meeting someone we just may click with. I especially love the forums for getting to know people.
This is perfectly worded wandaful!
I've been here to make friends since the forums started up again. I met some really good friends the first time around so I thought I'd try it again and if I happen to meet someone that hit it off with that is ok, and if I don't, well, that is ok too.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 12:42 PM |
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wandaful123
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But it can also be a double-edged sword. You might find a few people initially appealing only to find out what they really think when they open their mouths, and not in a good way.
This is exactly whats so "appealing" about the forums...
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 12:51 PM |
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suthunsweet
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I agree with Storm....and also remember just when you are ready to give up is when you usually find someone. At least that was my case last December.
I had decided to end my sub to Match.com and had only dated a handful from this site. The day I went to end it on Match.com I had two emails from two different men. I wrote both back and said if you want to reach me email me at this address. One wrote back on December 23rd and we went on our first date on Jan. 3rd. We have been with no one else since and I still feel that "gushy" feeling when I am with him.
I enjoy the forums here, still, though. I get to meet so many interesting people and make new friends. That is what got me through a lot of lonely times and especially the holidays last year.
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