| Jan 18, 2007 @ 12:25 AM |
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raykl
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The following is based on generalizations and does not reflect any one person!!
I come to the forums because I find the human species very interesting in what they say and do. What perplexes me about this post is that people have secret crushes and choose not to act upon them. Why not write to that person and see what happens? Afraid of rejection by written words from someone you may not ever see?
I was dancing on the beach one night and noticed this little ol lady, about 4' tall and in her late 70's or more, and she was dancing around by herself. So the band played a slow song and being the gentleman that I think I am, asked her if she would like to dance. Her answer: "Not now Sonny, I'm waiting for that guy to ask me to dance".
Do you know how demoralizing that was? Did I crawl into a shell and mope? No. I said to hell with those older women and danced with the ones closer to my age.
The point of all of this: So what if you are rejected once twice or a hundred times. Number 101 may be the one, but you will never know that, will you?
P.S. The older guy she was waiting for never did ask her to dance.
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 12:50 AM |
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wandaful123
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Many people probably have already written to and conversed with those they have "crushes" on.
A crush, I think is a fickle thing. I don't know that I'd want to shout it out because today I enjoyed something I saw in someone. Now if a genuine interest begins to develop, well yeah sure I will let him know then I leave it in their hands and hope for the best. But no, I have no fear in expressing an interest. 
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 4:31 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Well, in my case, there is no point in writing. She's on the other side of the country, and the chances of either of us moving are zero, so it will have to remain a crush. But she does know how I feel, but that's for us to know and you guys to wonder about.
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 5:48 AM |
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loisday
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I would let someone know if I were interested.
I would also ask a man if he wanted to dance.
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 6:50 AM |
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1stsignofspring
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Rayki.....that was so very sweet of you to ask that lady to dance.... 
You are a real gentleman.....and I'm too old to have crushes...but I think you are gorgeous! 
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 8:34 AM |
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twotall911
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I would let someone know if I were interested.
I would also ask a man if he wanted to dance.
good idea and it reminds me of the song Save the last dance for me
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 8:47 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Ray, I asked you to dance ages ago and I'm still waiting... 
I'm with Wanda though, I sort of see crushes as 'window shopping'...you walk by the window and think about how it would be living with that couch, or wearing that dress, and maybe if it's an appealing thought, you'll go in and sit on the couch or try on the dress...and hopefully if you buy it after all that deliberating, you won't end up with buyer's remorse.
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 8:53 AM |
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Wildkitty
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I would also ask a man if he wanted to dance.
Twotall we have to sit down and talk a little here.... 
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 8:55 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Twotall we have to sit down and talk a little here....
Kitty, I think he was quoting loisday...without those little quote thingies, it can get awfully confusing.
She's on the other side of the country, and the chances of either of us moving are zero, so it will have to remain a crush
Touch...the 'headline' on my profile is "never say never, cuz you never know." If anyone had asked me what the chances were of my leaving the east coast, I'd have said zero...right up until 6 months before I moved here. Circumstances can change in some totally unpredictable ways; just never forget that you've got to have a dream before you can have a dream come true. Thus endeth the sermon.
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 9:03 AM |
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Lovinheart445
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I would also ask a man if he wanted to dance. Twotall...Come on guy!!..Remember that left seat, and get out of the right. Your the one who has the cyclic..( just asomething that 2tall would know)
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 9:29 AM |
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BandTMom
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Crushes are just that....crushes. Someone that give you that little twinkle, that you think is kinda cute, but that you know will probably go no where.
Fear of rejection...naw. But I do have a sense of reality that tells me not to offer my heart to someone when circumstances will probably keep us apart.
So, therefore, my crushes will remain my little secret! 
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 11:05 AM |
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tatiana329
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It's a bad thing to not be able to keep a secret
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 10:48 PM |
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candylily
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If a guy doesn't read the forums, he might not know I exist unless I wink or say hi first so if he appeals to me  I might want to make sure he does know I'm here so that he can respond if he chooses to.
If a guy posts on here, then I know he knows what I look like and how I think. If he doesn't contact me, then I assume he's not interested.  
I also like to keep my love life private  and it might not stay that way if he's on here posting.
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| Jan 20, 2007 @ 8:59 AM |
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twotall911
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candy good one but after time i send my email address then they run off 
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| Jun 11, 2007 @ 3:33 AM |
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NatGoat
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{S-h-h-h-h-h-h...!}
I'd ask her to Dance . . !. .
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