| Nov 29, 2005 @ 8:41 PM |
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Toby716
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[She left me for my faults and I tried to ruin her rep yet she says she still loves me and comes to my place for sex.
Why and will she move back in or this a have your cake and eat it too.
I still love her but what gives about women and that idea of men 
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 8:43 PM |
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spongebob777
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I had the same situation once. She wanted me in bed for sex but wanted me to sleep on the couch. When I finally got tired of it and left (with no protest from her) she spent the next 3 months calling every twenty minutes crying about how I "up and left her".
Never EVER again.
[Edited on 11/29/2005 8:50 PM]
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 9:02 PM |
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wandaful123
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Hmmmm... each situation is unique to the folks involved but here I go anyway... sometimes a woman comes back because she is hoping that the behaivior she percieves as hurtful, or wrong or ________? Will change, because yes she still loves many things about him, and is hoping that something will change. I want to be very clear on this, not that he will change, but this particular "behaivior" will.
I do agree that myself and many other women (note, I did not say all) I know are guilty of the offence of wanting men to just "get it", not wanting to spell it out...
Me being as honest as I know how...
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 9:09 PM |
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spongebob777
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sometimes a woman comes back because she is hoping that the behaivior she percieves as hurtful, or wrong or ________? Will change
In my case she said it was because I wasn't the man she fell in love with. She said it was because I didn't make her laugh anymore but making me sleep on the couch and barely aknowledging me wasn't doing much for my sense of humor.
It became a viscious circle. The madder she became, the more hurt I became, making her madder, etc etc etc.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 9:16 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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I once dated a man that was so wonderful in so many ways, but when we spent a few days together, we just got on each others nerves.. except sexually and on that level we were very good for each other. Eventually, we had to face the fact that even though we loved each other, we weren't IN love and just wasnt meant to be together on a love level, and we tried just being intimate but eventually, that just was to hard for both of us, so we just kissed and said our goodbyes.
Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you can live with them.
You have to decide at some point if the sex is worth having your dignity chipped away at everytime she comes around "just" for sex.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 9:37 PM |
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wandaful123
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This issue is perhaps just far too complicated and varied to try to express. Funny thing is, I believe as differing as each situation is there is a common thread. Gonna put some thought into it... 
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 9:37 PM |
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spongebob777
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You have to decide at some point if the sex is worth having your dignity chipped away at everytime she comes around "just" for sex.
It was a horrible way to live and leaving was one of the most painfull things I ever did but all wounds heal.
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 9:43 PM |
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sordofadonkey
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I say have your cake and eat it too untill you find someone better. If she accepts you for the way you are, she'll come back, if not she'll move on, but I wouldn't change to her will.
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| Nov 30, 2005 @ 2:51 AM |
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Toby716
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We speak on the phone daily together. Our work sched. doesnt allow alot of time together. She moved in with her life long male "friend " whom she has slepped with before and expects me to trust that she has no intrest in him that way anymore. I am not that stupid so I just keep the peace and say nothing.
She moved from our place to his. Love is odd and I dont doubt that she loves me so now I think she wants what she wants untill all else fails. I can live with being a piece of meat for now and told her that she can be replaced.
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| Nov 30, 2005 @ 1:55 PM |
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conny90045
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She's playing major head games.......Get rid of her!!! Sounds to be she's going to break your heart even more
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| Jan 30, 2006 @ 1:53 AM |
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Toby716
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I have broken all ties with my ex and things could'nt be better. I feel better about myself and now can move foward to the next chapter of a ongoing life.
Thank you to all those who helped me through a painful time in my life
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| Jan 30, 2006 @ 2:07 AM |
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SunBabe
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I know this may sound odd, but I think you have just relayed a "success story" 
Rock on, TobyTheMAN! 
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| Jan 30, 2006 @ 7:45 AM |
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beatriceistheone
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You allow her to do this so this is your fault. Quit blaming other people because you allow for them to treat you this way.
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| Jan 30, 2006 @ 7:55 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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You allow her to do this so this is your fault. Quit blaming other people because you allow for them to treat you this way.
I think the problem has already been solved..
Good Luck Toby 
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| Jan 30, 2006 @ 9:36 AM |
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CynCity
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Yes, what Tinker said.
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| Jan 30, 2006 @ 1:12 PM |
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kattsmeow
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This is good news!!! Thanks for getting back with us!
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| Jan 30, 2006 @ 10:22 PM |
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Alternaut
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She left me for my faults and I tried to ruin her rep yet she says she still loves me and comes to my place for sex.
Why and will she move back in or this a have your cake and eat it too.
That's quite a situation, man. Someday I'll tell you about my "ex from hell", including how many times she broke up w/her would be ex-boyfriend to be with me, how many months I let her jerk me around, the kinds of things she'd say "Rome wasn't built in a day" to, and how many members of the legal industry it took to get her out of my hair. And we weren't even living together, btw.
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 3:00 AM |
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rythemrevue
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Rediculous...when its over it's over. Just in this case you are being used by the woman..usually it's the other way around. I just had this happen to me couple of weeks ago..I saw this girl for about 2 months..then ended it....she still wants to at least have sex she says because I'm the only one she enjoys it with,,nada..ain't gonna happen.....she kept persisting and just makes it harder to even still wanna be friends on my part...man oh man...some of you people on here are old enough to know better.
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 3:01 AM |
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rythemrevue
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ditto sponge...
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 3:02 AM |
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rythemrevue
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sometimes they com back too.....because it's like a faint hope clause.....i have had it happen before too....where the other will try to use sex to lure you back to them, this is why when you end it..or they end it......accept it and move on. Don't try to still have a piece of a pie you or they didn't like the taste of.
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