| Jan 25, 2007 @ 4:13 PM |
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CHARLIgurl1
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I have struggled with my weight for as long as I can remember, going from one diet to another, always ending up the same until eventually I gave up and decided that I am who I am and was just going to accept myself as being one of the larger girls in this world. I have dated guys say that weight didnt bother them and that it was the person inside that mattered, but after a while, the subject of my size would slowly creep in to the relationship....  So how important IS weight, not just for men but for women too.. How many women I wonder prefer the slimmer guys and how important is weight when trying to find a new partner?
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 4:16 PM |
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winterrenegade
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all i can say is that the people on here that actually know me, know that i don't judge a person due too weight, it's all on how she treats me. my theary on bigger women is, *there's just more there too love*
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 4:22 PM |
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Loreli
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http://www.matchdoctor.com/thread_2_2800_1/Too_Much_Emphasis_On_The_Weight_Thing.html
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 4:24 PM |
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kattsmeow
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http://www.matchdoctor.com/thread_2_2800_1/Too_Much_Emphasis_On_The_Weight_Thing.html
Just helping Loreli 
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 4:27 PM |
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robodad
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It shouldn't matter
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 4:29 PM |
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kattsmeow
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No it shouldn't matter. 
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 4:39 PM |
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candylily
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My son said I like fat guys. I admit I like guys with some meat on them but I don't consider them fat. He said they're fat because they have bellies but I consider that to be the norm for guys my age and it doesn't bother me in the least.
I went on a diet Monday and I'm so hungry but every time I want to cheat, I just put my hands on my stomach or hips. I had gained 10 pounds since I had seen my doctor last which was only 3 months ago. 
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 5:49 PM |
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Loreli
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back atcha Katt!
The weight thing has been knocked to pieces and always starts fights.
Who cares-choose who you are compatible with and hang in for better or worse!
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 5:57 PM |
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Laidback742
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Not an issue.
I've dated thin women, average women, large women, just for the simple fact that we liked each other and got along well. Weight never became an issue, or was a reason for a relationship ending, and if the topic ever did arise, it was her bringing it up, not me.
There were a few times when my weight was an issue...not that I was heavy, but they would try to force feed me almost, so that I would gain weight. That bothered me more than any weight problems they might have had.
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 6:11 PM |
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tatiana329
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Men lie to avoid all the BBW crying that they are people too and have feelings. The simple fact is that you cannot make someone attracted to you and have them accept something they don't. I feel men lie about no attraction to a woman to spare her feelings and also more so to not have to deal with all her anger and possibly wanting to seek revenege because he simply is not interested in her. It can be based on her weight alone but it also can be because of her lifestyle and many other things alone or in combination with her weight problem.
Some women are rejected because of their kids, too many or too many different fathers, not having their lives together, some because they have serious issues like spending problems, health problems, diseases ( not in good health), that is just life. You have to find someone ( if you just really have to find someone) who will accept you as you are or your going to spend your whole life in misery if you find someone and try to make them accept you as you are when they don't and can't... and life is too short for that. Its even better to just live your life alone and stop looking. Love will find you.
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 6:20 PM |
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Dukums
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Well I don't lie, I flat out say that I am looking for height and weight proportionate. I am just not physically attracted to larger women than me.. It has to do with my instinct of wanting to feel like a protector and who needs to protect someone who is big enough to beat the snot out of you....and it has to do with physical intimacy and certain positions that cause me to feel smothered. A lot of weight makes me feel trapped. And trapped is a real turn off. So, for myself only, I am very honest about the fact that weight is an issue if it is too much. Now every woman immediately thinks I want a supermodel. Not true. In fact too skinny is a drag too but for different reasons. I really hate getting bruised when I get close and snuggle from bones sticking out. LOL So I mean what I say and I am honest. Height and Weight proportionate. And ladies, I know that much of this is a self esteem issue and you have to deal with you, but understand, if you are dealing with men, you are dealing with creatures that are by nature, visually orientated. So if you are on the larger side, make sure you do all that you can to dress well, put on the face, ect.
Ok now I know I will get banned from ever posting again! LOL
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 6:47 PM |
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Strandedboarder
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The answer is yes, men are lying when they say weight isn’t an issue.
An overweight woman isn’t as attractive as a woman of proper weight. And it doesn’t matter if all the curves are in the right places...being overweight still isn’t as attractive for the same reason that being too skinny is unattractive.
All humans make an unconscious evaluation of the health of the potential mate by looks (which, by the way, is a perfectly valid method.) If you don’t look “right” you are automatically less desirable. Overweight people are unhealthy. Health stats from across the country prove it.
Two million years of evolution can’t be wrong.
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 6:48 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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An overweight woman isn’t as attractive as a woman of proper weight. And it doesn’t matter if all the curves are in the right places...being overweight still isn’t as attractive for the same reason that being too skinny is unattractive.
Everyone has different tastes.
I prefer overweight women.
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 6:49 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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It has to do with my instinct of wanting to feel like a protector and who needs to protect someone who is big enough to beat the snot out of you....
I could use a woman who could protect me.
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 6:49 PM |
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julia143
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I'm fat.....get over it! 
I won't waste you're time ...if you don't waste mine.
This should not even be an issue....we are what we are...and most are happy with who we are!
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 6:53 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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I could use a woman who could protect me
My god Touch that woman would have to be an AMAZON~!!! or a damn good shot 
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 6:59 PM |
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Laidback742
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The answer is yes, men are lying when they say weight isn’t an issue.
Some, not all.
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 6:59 PM |
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IndigoRose
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I never heard a man say weight doesn't matter!
I'm just finishing up on the e-coli diet lost ten pounds in one week grrrrrrrr curse you prepackaged salad you too sam's club! 
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 7:01 PM |
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Strandedboarder
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Some, not all.
Liar.
(See?)
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| Jan 25, 2007 @ 7:05 PM |
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luvmycats
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Men lie to avoid all the BBW crying that they are people too and have feelings. The simple fact is that you cannot make someone attracted to you and have them accept something they don't. I feel men lie about no attraction to a woman to spare her feelings and also more so to not have to deal with all her anger and possibly wanting to seek revenege because he simply is not interested in her. It can be based on her weight alone but it also can be because of her lifestyle and many other things alone or in combination with her weight problem.
Some women are rejected because of their kids, too many or too many different fathers, not having their lives together, some because they have serious issues like spending problems, health problems, diseases ( not in good health), that is just life. You have to find someone ( if you just really have to find someone) who will accept you as you are or your going to spend your whole life in misery if you find someone and try to make them accept you as you are when they don't and can't... and life is too short for that. Its even better to just live your life alone and stop looking. Love will find you.
~slapping self in forehead~  Damn, I thought you were a female! Look out fellers, looks like we have an impostor in our mist!
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