| Jan 26, 2007 @ 6:26 PM |
Asking Random Women for a Date. Good Idea or Recipe for Disaster?
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DiamondRain
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OK... you may know that I am fresh out of a long term relationship. I went on a couple of casual dates this week, not so much because I was interested in anyone, but just to break up the opportunities for heartache.
But now that I did it, I am glad I did. I had a good time even if it was only about companionship.
In fact, I had such a good time, I'm thinking about just asking random women I come across -- that I am attracted to -- out for casual dates just for some more distraction, to expand my horizons and to try something new.
I'm talking about even walking up to them on the street and asking point blank with no introductions. After all, this is New York City, so it's not quite as weird as it may sound.
I've got a pretty thick skin, so I think I can handle what will likely be a lot of "nos," (although I'm not as good with pepper spray) but I'm thinking "you never know...maybe something good could come out of it."
Any thoughts on this strategy?
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 6:29 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Sounds like a good idea. Can`t hurt to try it your way. You have nothing to lose by doing so..maybe a sore cheek from an occasional slap.  
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 6:51 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I've got a pretty thick skin, so I think I can handle what will likely be a lot of "nos," (although I'm not as good with pepper spray) but I'm thinking "you never know...maybe something good could come out of it."
I was always a sucker for the "You look absolutely stunning today" line. You're right, it's not that strange in NYC, especially if you see each other on a regular basis. Probably not pepper spray, but you might do what one guy did - he gave me a book (on chess endings) with his name and phone number in it, so I had a chance to think about it first. Maybe not chess endings, but possibly a guide to restaurants or something like that, with a note that she might like to try one of them...with you? Lucky lady, I must say.
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 6:55 PM |
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Loreli
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Aww, DR-sorry to hear about your relationship 
I have to disagree a little here (sorry Tink-ya know I love ya), but ESPECIALLY in bigger cities, seems to set the possibilty for wackos to say yeah sure...
Obviously one never knows exactly what they will get out of a date, but that seems like recipe for setup there. 
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 7:01 PM |
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twotall911
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it wont hurt to try a couole then if its not your bag of things to do then quit
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 7:13 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Don't ask them out right away until you have chatted with them for a bit in person or called their phone number to chat with them. You should find out some of their interests first to see if the two of you can enjoy the same first date.
To walk up to a random stranger and ask them out is pretty odd and I doubt will be successful. You should at least spend a minimum of 20 mins. introducing yourself before thinking of asking her out - preferabally correspondence in e-mails or, like I said earlier, talking to them on the phone when you both have free time.
Later 
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 7:20 PM |
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Dukums
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I don't know Diamond....sounds like russian roulette to me!
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 7:28 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I don't know Diamond....sounds like russian roulette to me!
I don't see where it's much different from an internet first date. 'Cold call' walking up and asking for a date might be unsettling enough to get a cold shoulder, but NYC's a whole 'nother thing from most places. I know the chess endings book would've worked with me if I hadn't taken so long noticing that his name and number were in there - I was actually busy reading the book, dammit.
 
I think it's actually a good strategy if you're looking for a woman who's self-confident and somewhat adventurous, but not if you're looking for someone more traditional.
[Edited on 1/26/2007 7:31 PM]
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 7:30 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Sounds wonderful to me!!!! Do it and please let us know ok?
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 7:34 PM |
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SunBabe
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 Sorry about your lost lady-love.  (she WAS lovely, though  )
...hmmm, I can see this happening (the on-the-street meeting) -- in NYC. As long as you're in the right neighborhood and don't look like the homeless guy who tried that approach with me 
Actually, "dating casually" -- as in having someone to just DO things with -- sounds delightful. Maybe I'll try it sometime (haven't seen a soul in this area I'd care to "pick up" though )
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 7:37 PM |
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Strandedboarder
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Make sure you let the rest of know which ones are crazy (er) 
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 7:53 PM |
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Thanglhrly
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Go for it. What do you have to lose?
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 7:56 PM |
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BandTMom
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Sounds like a winner to me!
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 7:57 PM |
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Dukums
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You might try the speed dating thing that is going around Diamond....at least then you would know if they had anything interesting about them.
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| Jan 26, 2007 @ 8:53 PM |
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MusicMonster
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If she starts rummaging rapidly through her purse, it's probably a good idea to pass on that one and move on with some degree of urgency! 
-MM
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 9:30 AM |
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myperogative
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I've had this happen......it's all in the approach ! ( although I must admit I haven't taken anyone up on it.......well....does the guy in the gym count? He introduced himself and gave me a compliment. Asked me if I would go out.....I said I always go to a certain place for a steak once a week and it was close and he could meet me there if he would like............of course it was during the day and the place was in the same parking lot as the gym. Hmmmmmmm...I guess that does count!  )
Anyways with that physique ya really shouldn't have a problem! Just be a gentleperson. 
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 9:39 AM |
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winterrenegade
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i've done the whole asking random women out on a date thing DR and i've had more bad luck then good. i don't know what it is but it seems too tend too scare them off. they stop talking too me and everything. *im not going too say that will happen too you* just sharing my experience on the subject.
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 10:45 AM |
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signme
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I like Heaven's idea...talk to them about things to do in NYC and then give them a guidebook with your name and number. But put it on the front so they see it before they start reading!!
I can see DR now walking around with an armful of guidebooks to distribute to all the pretty ladies!!! 
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 12:20 PM |
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LivinProof
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Gosh Diamond sorry to hear about the breakup .... but with your looks, personality and brains, why waste your time on just anyone..... PICK ME.... PICK ME!! 
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 12:24 PM |
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budo13
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dude nothing wrong with shopping as long as ya don't damage any merchandise, blow it up my friend
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