| Jan 28, 2007 @ 10:28 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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A few people have talked about opportunities missed, people that, when they look back, might have been good matches, or at least interesting. What are some of your stories?
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| Jan 28, 2007 @ 10:31 PM |
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twotall911
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5th 
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| Jan 28, 2007 @ 10:54 PM |
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tatiana329
Posts: 1,122
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Some roads presented to me through the years seemed good but I think I took the roads best for me and it all worked out for the best.
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| Jan 28, 2007 @ 11:28 PM |
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raykl
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I really do not see people missing out on "good matches" or someone to be with. I believe most people would have acted on their feelings and suceeded or been rejected. It is not to say that they ended up happy with their experience, but certainly wiser.
Had you mentioned missed chances on life decisions, with the proper stimulus to generate the thinking process
(  ), the road we now travel would have changed dramatically.
Just my ramblings while watching the snow pile up 
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 3:19 AM |
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chinabull2000
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I've taken the wrong turning many times in my lif, far too many to count, plus have made other decisions in which I didn't really have much choice even though some of them were not ideal. My "stories" are withheld for legal reasons. 
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 3:35 AM |
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synfllyswt
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I think it is best to say that you can regret the roads you have taken but with out knowing the outcome, how would you know. I can look back and see that I have made some bad decisions in my life, but I can only hope that I have learned from them. I dont think is ever good to speculate on what could have been. You can only do your best to make sure that your future paths are the right ones for you.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 4:32 AM |
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SunBabe
Posts: 12,279
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Oh my...it would have been that delicious hunk from Independence, Missouri who I clicked with -- big time -- on a cruise (we were both "escorting" a parent) 
I was still shy by a few months before my official projected final divorce date, and was so afraid of that ol' "rebound" or "out of the fire-into the frying pan" stuff that's always talked about (though the marriage itself was, in essence, over for more than 5 years before that and looking back, I DID have my head on straight afterall)...and of course that old morality thingy nagged at me (darn it  )
We sort of kept in touch by phone at random times just because we enjoyed each others company. And then I lost my phone...and lost his phone number. And couldn't for the LIFE of me remember how to spell (or pronounce) his last name (it was the strangest name, full of "k"s and "z"s and other consonents) I figured that was a sign of "it wasn't mean to be"... 
BUT when I got online, I started searching. Lo and behold, after a zillion spellings, I found his MOTHER's phone number (not his). I kept it on a scrap of paper, but never got the nerve to call (dumb-dumb-dumb  ) then on a cross-country trip, my van overheated in...Independence, Missouri 
OK, I scoured the phone book for that weird name while I was waiting for my engine to cool...and found "Mom" again. ~gulp~ I called!  She even remembered me from the cruise (and her son's endless jabbering about me, hehe  ), but alas......a happy ending for him and a "special one that got away" for me He'd recently found a nice lady and they'd just become engaged. I wished them much happiness (but have always wondered if she thoroughly appreciated him as much as I would have -- she BETTER have!  ) I decided then and there to forget his name once and for all...and still refuse to click on ZabaSearch for Missouri, lol.
But ~sigh~ He was the one who showed up a bit late for our "belly-rubbin' dancin' " date and presented me with a blush, a twinkle and a naughty-little-boy-grin and a HUGE double-door filling "bouquet" of helium balloons gathered from the cruise ship dining room...delivered with a contrite "...I couldn't find flowers, Darlin' " ~swoon~
Yes, "roads not taken"...but I was lucky enough to discover another delightful, ideal path later. 
 Whoever claimed that there can only be one "soulmate" to a customer is mistaken, I believe -- I think that one would have been one, for sure...IF I'd taken that road. 
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 5:03 AM |
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twotall911
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takes many paths to come to the one road
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 5:08 AM |
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Laidback742
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I try to keep in mind the phrase "What's right for you will never pass you by", as opposed to "What might have been".
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 5:27 AM |
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MusicMonster
Posts: 2,954
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I miss out on more stuff by taking the darned freeway!!
-MM
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 10:27 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Oh, the many times I've regretted not taking the Hershey Highway...
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 10:35 AM |
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IndigoRose
Posts: 1,194
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^^^^Well take that road over there! 
I have run into a couple roadblocks and even a bridge out or two...but I guess I don't look back on the might have beens.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 11:00 AM |
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redtigr
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Heaven, sometimes it's very difficult not to imagine what might have been. Second guessing is prolly futile, and why agonize over what cannot be or cannot be known?
And now that I've said the "right" thing... I will be honest and say I wish I felt less fragile, for if that were so, I would have pursued certain relationships in my past - and maybe even some in the present... especially "interesting" ones...
But "interesting" can mean a broken heart, just as sure as can "good".
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 11:05 AM |
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CHARLIgurl1
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Coulda woulda shoulda.. we all have historys of that at some time, personally, I put everything down to experience, take oppertunities when they arise, and never regret a decision because its all part of the journey in life, and lets face it.. we have one life.. this isnt a rehursal.
I ended a relationship with a guy after spending hundreds on plane fares and trying to make it work, but it wasnt to be. But gladly, after it all ended, and losses were cut, I am now in a relationship with a fantastic guy and we are very happy, If I had tried to make a failing relationship work.. I wouldnt have met him, so sometimes when one door closes another one opens. 
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 11:10 AM |
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Dukums
Posts: 1,686
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I recently had the opportunity to see what would have happened if I had been allowed to take a certain path. About 3 years ago I thought I had found Mrs right for sure. However things didn't go like I had hoped and eventually I had to break it off because it was unhealthy. Well low and behold...3 years later she is doing the same thing to another guy and using the same old excuses she used on me. So all of my doubts of whether or not it was the right thing to break it off have been totally erased. I did do the right thing! Sometimes what we want and what is best for us is not the same thing.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 11:46 AM |
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MusicMonster
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I've been on roads that I knew were headed nowhere though, without so much as a roadmap. (Destination unknown).
But the journey was still fruitful and fulfilling in many ways while it lasted.
So I catch myself taking a brief glance into the rear-view mirror from time to time. Sometimes with a sigh, and perhaps a trace of a tear.  Sometimes with fleeting thoughts of what might have been.
-MM
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 11:50 AM |
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budo13
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can't say that i regret all the wrong turns(which were many)i feel we are set upon a path for which we are destined as long as i have learn from the mistakes i feel that they were all part of the journey.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 3:09 PM |
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madamegeek
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I couldn't suffer regret for the decisions that brought me to this present, the self-awareness, the children, the positive place I see surrounding me.
I do regret the lack of bravery that I let tether me to presumed values that now - at 57 - I see were based on the mores of others.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 5:13 PM |
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grumblebear
Posts: 10,559
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I've been more places, seen more, and done more than most folks... my only wonder is I never had a family, raised kids....
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 6:57 PM |
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Loreli
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As far as relationships, I have been in good relationships with a couple of men. It just didn't work.My only regret is that I didn't realize it sooner and move forward.
Shame on you Touch!
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