| Jan 29, 2007 @ 7:11 PM |
over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
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blueyes101
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I've noticed some people have a hang up about it. Not sure what the difference is between being married/having kids with the wrong person ( bad relationship), or someone who has waited for the right to come along.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 7:26 PM |
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Thanglhrly
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In a word.......Yes!
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 7:26 PM |
over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
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ToucherinSparks
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Not ment as a slap at you, but I've heard several times that over 40 and never married indicates to a woman that a guy is either just a player or is a closeted gay.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 7:47 PM |
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Thanglhrly
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With all due respect Toucherin,
There can be many reasons, as to why some people in their 40's, have never married or had children. Judging from statistics on the divorce rate, isn't that almost enough, to deter many from tying the knot? (JMO) 
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 7:49 PM |
over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
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nightrider3281
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pretty good answer thang. i think the average marriage now a days is something like 4 years
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 7:50 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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With all due respect Toucherin,
There can be many reasons, as to why some people in their 40's, have never married or had children. Judging from statistics on the divorce rate, isn't that almost enough, to deter many from tying the knot? (JMO)
No doubt Thang, I'm just relaying what I've been told over the years by several different women.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 7:52 PM |
over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
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daisy315
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my sister married a man that was 42 she's a few years older than him.. he had never been married... she was the first woman he had ever been with too. They have been married over a year now.. and they are very happy.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 8:07 PM |
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blueyes101
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Thats why I posed the question. And no, I'm not gay, and not a player. I've been in many wonderfull relationships, most have had kids, and at the time, she was not ready for more. Many I thought about marrying, but soooooooo glad now that I did not. I see so many people who just plain HATE the father/mother of their children, so I would think I would stand above the rest, because if nothing else, I have no premanent baggage...(Not that I think kids are, by the way..........)See what setero types do?
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 8:11 PM |
over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
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twotall911
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yep
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 8:28 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
kinda goes along with the question would you date someone who has been married numerous times and has kids??
wanting to marry someone should be based on your feelings toward them individually
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 8:30 PM |
over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
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Red69Sun
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I don't know.........but from my personal experience.......the "never been married over 40" and/or no kids........is a very dangerous group IF you are looking for a potential life partner...........It smacks of a "commitment phob".
If you are just looking for a "slap and tickle playmate"............these demographics are the best......they tend to be very good at no commitment and no responsbilities...or the can be painfully shy, anti-social, or have other social issues.....they have typically done a very good job of avoiding real commitments for 20+ years and typically, very good at it!
I see, the longer that someone is single, living alone, un committed.........the harder it is for them to "blend" and bend in a relationship......they tend to be very inflexible in their wants, needs, and desires and tend to be self-centered and want it all........now, on their terms!
The "danger zone" seems to start in the early-30's and by their 40's........they are pretty set in their ways.....and nothing is going to change them........ 
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 8:42 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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ahh um REd hon but just because they havent even been married doesnt mean that they havent ever been ina LTR tho yanno?? coulda been that the woman was the one didint want a commitment
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 8:43 PM |
over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
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Meadowlark8
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I've noticed that men over 40 and never married
tend to gravitate to women who never had children
(at least not yet).
Perhaps for them, a marriage commitment AND
the children responsibility
is too overwhelming for them to handle all
at once.
Especially since they have been on
their on longer.
So "Sharing space and finances
will be quite a compromise in itself,
let alone dealing with children and all
the responsibilities that go along with
that one.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 9:31 PM |
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BandTMom
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In a heartbeat...if I felt the were right for me.
Although the past plays a part in who we are, now and the future should be what we live for!
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 9:39 PM |
over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
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signme
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Well doggone, I'm over 50 and have never been married. Not that I haven't been looking but the right guy just never appeared (till maybe now???) Then again, those of us who are baby boomers lost a lot of our guys in Viet Nam. The women outnumber the men. Or the really great men we meet are already spoken for.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 9:45 PM |
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duwant1
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I've heard several times that over 40 and never married indicates to a woman that a guy is either just a player or is a closeted gay.
So, how does one classify women who choose a career over marriage?
I don’t see how a single person has commitment issues?  They didn’t commit to marriage, so it’s the divorced person that has “Real” commitment issues.
Some think nothing about indulging in everything life has to offer, then expect others to rescue them from their plight.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 9:51 PM |
over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
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BandTMom
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But with some of us divorced people, it was the other person that wasn't committed! 
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 9:51 PM |
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blueyes101
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becky ......girl ......you one smart cookie !!!!!! I just got a call yesterday form my exgirlfriends son 14, just to say hello, we always got along.In fact he's more likely to listen to me than his father, because he respects me because he likes me, not because he has too. I just don't understand, if I was married at a younger age and it was a disaster......Than I'm a better risk in a relationship ????I was just fortunate to walk away from the wrong one (ones)before I agreed "to love till death do us part."And I'm proud of the fact I didn't have children out of wedlock (for their sakes).And I'm still friends with just about every women from my LTR, because we never stuck it out when it just wasn't quite right.Or got married "cause everyone else is" But most are no longer.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 10:02 PM |
over 40 and never been married, and or no kids--------would you date them?
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kashmiria
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From personal experience, probably never again.
they tend to be very inflexible in their wants, needs, and desires and tend to be self-centered and want it all........now, on their terms!
So so true in my exeperience. He was 41 and I was 44. The relationship killer happened when I was taking him to the hospital for a followup appt for a surgery he'd had, he wasn't allowed to drive at the time being on pretty strong pain meds. He turned to me and say, "you do realize if our roles were reversed, I wouldn't do this for you." I'd been catching more and more of the selfish, pay attention to ME stuff from him over a few months prior to that, and that statement pretty much summed it all up. That ended the relationship then and there.
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 10:47 PM |
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tatiana329
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I only know one person like that. I would not want to date them. In that situation do not think that person ever dated either- all very strange to me.
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