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Never to marry. Never to wed.
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IndigoRose
Posts: 1,194
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Naww didn't even keep that one...I loved being married loved everything about it...but damn I have been single so long not sure I can share that well anymore 
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 2:22 PM |
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KAOS2007
Posts: 8,199
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Magickman -
My magic 8 ball tells me you're not going to get a date off this site after this post.  
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 2:28 PM |
Never to marry. Never to wed.
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tatiana329
Posts: 1,121
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Ok now, see how googling someone before meeting them can pay off?
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 2:31 PM |
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Magickman
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There is a heady rush of freedom and independence, from renouncing the need for a permanent partner.
The life-partner thing may work for some folks, but it is not dream I am chasing.
And the word describing my feelings about this, is liberating.
I feel liberated from the eternal search for the rare and elusive long term partner.
Liberated from the confining institution of matrimony.
Liberated from the happy family myth.
Happiness is something I must seek on it's own merits, and with only my internal resources.
I do not believe I have ever seen anyone who was happy because there were married.
But I have seen many who were unhappy about it.
I"M FREE ! ! !
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 2:33 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
Posts: 11,175
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I do not believe I have ever seen anyone who was happy because there were married.
I don't think you're happy BECAUSE you're married....that just sounds a bit..dependant to me.
My parents have been together for almost 30 years and though there have been some (both major and minor) bumps in the road...i would bet you everything i own that they will never split up. They don't feel trapped or like they need to be with anyone else.
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 2:33 PM |
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KAOS2007
Posts: 8,199
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I"M FREE ! ! ! AND ALONE!!!
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 2:45 PM |
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tatiana329
Posts: 1,121
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According to this logic that marriage is vile and evil, you should not own a gun, as guns kill people... give away ANY money you may have as money is the root of all evil...
as it is easy to blame things rather than take any responsibility.
For some....... guns kill people......... and for others people kill people, for some....... money is the root of all evil...... and for others the LOVE of money is the root of all evil.
In your case marriage is vile, it is not you who has any kind of bad attitude about it.
okkkkkkkkk, whatever.
You might try to find a new coping mechanism. We all have them and we all need them. This one you have isn't a very good one, too many holes in it.
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 2:55 PM |
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VaPeppermintPatti
Posts: 140
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Well, now you've told the world that you only see a woman as something to take care of just a certain physical need and nothing more as you cannot maintain even a limited LTR. You admitted freely that "relationships" barely last weeks and maybe months. You shouldn't be on a dating site and lying about LTR. Sad that you only see women as prostitutes under the guise of dating.
I'm just calling it as I see it here.
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 3:25 PM |
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Eric915
Posts: 73
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Magickman makes perfect sense to me (although I wouldn't go so far as to renounce marriage as a fools mistake) for no one else can complete you or make you happy.
I had this epiphany years ago ... and I'm still all giddy about it.
tee hee
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 3:33 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
Posts: 19,343
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Makes sense to me too. Magickman said he wasn't looking for a permanent partner. which is not necessarily the same thing as not looking for a long term relationship.
I've stated my own feelings on the subject, which are pretty similar (although it's too late to retract the marriage, and it did legitimize my kids)...I'd like a long term relationship...if we still feel the same way about it in 10 or 20 years, we can discuss making it permanent. Most of us can attest to the fact that marriage doesn't guarantee permanence, and I've had longer, and certainly happier, LTR's than my marriage ever was.
Edited to fix a major blooper.
Also editing to add that I'll gladly take a few really good months over a not so hot many years anytime.
[Edited on 2/1/2007 3:43 PM]
[Edited on 2/1/2007 3:46 PM]
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 3:40 PM |
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SunBabe
Posts: 12,278
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Magickman's back!  
Jumping in with both (well shod) feet, I see, hehe 
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 3:44 PM |
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DiamondRain
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While I have often celebrated the good fortune to have escaped marrying one of the many women I have had romantic relationships with in my life -- because clearly none of them would have led to a happy marriage -- I cannot say that I am completely closed to the married family life (even now).
But now I think of that life as something that would not be so much for my pleasure, but for the pleasure of the woman I love. If I have any dream left, it is the dream of giving that gift to a lady who would treasure it and derive a deep sense of fulfillment and happiness from it. Therein lies the main attraction for me at this point in my life.
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 4:14 PM |
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Dukums
Posts: 1,686
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There is nothing wrong with choosing to be permanently single. It is a viable lifestyle choice. There are pro's and con's to this lifestyle as well as to the marriage lifestyle. I find it more honest to evaluate yourself and come to the conclusion that the pro's of the single lifestyle fits your personality better, than the person who does not evaluate themself and continually has one failed relationship after another because they are too posessive, needy, independant, self willed, argumenative, ect.
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 4:19 PM |
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tatiana329
Posts: 1,121
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I agree that marriage isn't for everyone but to say it is vile is another matter.
As a woman I cannot tell you how it disgusts me that some men use these sites as free hooker sites. A guy who felt relationships were so awful should just pay for sexual services than play with peoples feelings and emotions. There are people who just prey on others for jollies, treating others as if they are only for your self gratification and then eagerly disposing of them.... I find it rather sickening.
Those kind of people dump puppies in paper bags on the highway.
UGH
[Edited on 2/1/2007 4:25 PM]
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 4:28 PM |
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Raiynth
Posts: 461
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Whoa. You're looking for a skeptic intellectual, but you're advertising for a long term relationship when you really only want no-strings-attached? I guess that would make a skeptic out of just about anyone.
Did I miss something here? 
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 4:28 PM |
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beckyiv42000
Posts: 14,979
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Liberated from the happy family myth.
Lord I'm really hoping that hes snipped that way he cant procreate either 
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 4:35 PM |
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Laidback742
Posts: 4,790
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This is a joke, right?
False advertising of himself on a singles site, because someone that he's no longer with said he should .... admits it .... as a way to back up his anti-marriage feelings .... in which he basically considers women he's dated to be doubtful long term relationships due to their pasts .... and doesn't mention that he himself might be the problem ... ?
Yeah, you are better off being single.
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 4:42 PM |
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Loreli
Posts: 25,782
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I like women, but do not want to own one
Yah-what Becks said.
To think marriage creates ownership is ridiculous! Apparently you haven't dated the right women..
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 4:43 PM |
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KAOS2007
Posts: 8,199
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Look at it this way, if he was truly happy, he'd have no need to shout it out on a public forum on a dating site. He is simply bitter because previous relationships didn't work out, check anyone that agrees with him, they've all been married and divorced. Bitterness exudes hostility. 
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 4:47 PM |
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tatiana329
Posts: 1,121
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guess it applies here... hurt people hurt people
guess some people are really hurt and want to really hurt someone. being dishonest about your intentions, feelings is a sure way to hurt someone.
Unfortunate it will not solve the hurt that started all the wanting to hurt others...
only make it worse.
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