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Feb 5, 2007 @ 3:29 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
countrycanuck


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Just wish the actions were given back, I know I have been ignored many times......Like I always say, there's more to the cover & the reading on the inside can be very enlightening.

just my 2 cents
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Feb 5, 2007 @ 3:42 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
CHARLIgurl1


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I agree with the 'chase' issue.. a man who seems to be TOO interested can be kinda creepy, I like the chase to be on both sides, a constant to and fro of flirting and going quiet, it adds to the excitement of wanting the final result.
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Feb 5, 2007 @ 3:56 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
DiamondRain


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Guys are very competitive compared to women. For most of my life, I liked the chase, and as soon as it was a sure thing, I lost interest. Men are hunters. They like the hunt.

The problem is, that if he is the kind of guy that is attracted to you because you ignore him, chances are good that he will lose interest as soon as you show interest in him. You can't win this type of thing.

But there is one more type of guy that redoubles his interest if you ignore him. And that is the creepy stalker type.

So the bottom line is...look for a guy who shows interest in you when you DON'T ignore him. You'll get a lot of guys who you aren't interested in either, but at least you have a chance of finding the diamond in the rough (if you will )
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Feb 5, 2007 @ 4:01 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
IndigoRose


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Diamond you make a good point...
I liked the chase, and as soon as it was a sure thing, I lost interest. Men are hunters. They like the hunt.
but sadly that also explains why men will stay with a woman who treats them badly.
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Feb 5, 2007 @ 4:12 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
PullMyFinger


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I've always been the chaser....I've been fortunate to have women chase me, but it makes me feel uncomfortable....takes me out of that comfort zone and it just kinda creeps me out. Visions of steak knives and chainsaws go dancing through my head...

If I show interest and it isn't returned, ignored as the OP stated, I'm history. As Diamond Rain stated, look for the guy that maintains an interest when you don't play that ignore game. If he/she's persistent when you've TOTALLY ignored him/her, fkn hide...he/she's whacked.

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Feb 5, 2007 @ 4:16 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
DiamondRain


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IndigoRose

Could you explain how men enjoying being the hunters also explains why some men stay with women that treat them badly. I have an idea of why you might think that, but I'd like to hear your point of view.

Thanks.
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Feb 5, 2007 @ 4:21 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
blueyes101


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I wrote this once before but I can't remember in what context so I think it's worth repeateing... What ever happened to the good old days when you just walked up and ask........"Do ya want to play?" Now.....you could have a restraining order put against you, slapped, ignored, the list goes on......Just saying hi, why does it have to be such a huge deal, are we to the point we are afraid to just be polite?

[Edited on 2/5/2007 4:23 PM]
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Feb 5, 2007 @ 4:22 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
countrycanuck


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I agree about both doing the chase, then of course the final result is even more worth it
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Feb 5, 2007 @ 4:23 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
DiamondRain


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PMF... same for me. I find that I am almost never interested in women who chase me.

The interesting question to me is whether or not it is her act of her chasing me that causes me not to be interested, or that women who have to chase me are usually not my type to begin with.

I'm definitely the hunter type. If I spot my prey, trust me, she doesn't have to chase me. And I can spot her a thousand miles away in zero visibility conditions.
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Feb 6, 2007 @ 11:44 AM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
MusicMonster


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Regarding "Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??" This precise topic was discussed elsewhere in a survey I was part of. The end result was my exact feeling as well.

The consensus was it doesn't work, 9 times out of 10. Approximately 90% of the men who get this sort of reaction from a woman they show interest in, will walk, and give it up altogether.

They assume you're either not at all interested, are being rude by choice, or are playing head-games (which of course you are). The first one provides no options and they don't want to deal with either of the latter two, so the window closes and that's all there is to it.

So it certainly is a big gamble at the very least, as is almost always playing games with minds. The chances of losing out altogether are signficant.

Also interesting psychology in the various points of view regarding "the chase". If pursued, I don't lose interest at all. In fact for me it's quite intriguing. I like a woman who asserts herself that way, and have dated many who initiated things themselves..

-MM

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Feb 6, 2007 @ 12:03 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
raykl


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It is human nature to want things that you cannot have. One tends to strive harder to try and obtain these things (could be a car, house, man, woman, etc.) This also explains why some people are interested in those dysfunctional celebrities.
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Feb 6, 2007 @ 12:17 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
IndigoRose


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Diamond...men are intriqued by anything that they do not/can not control.

...as soon as a man thinks he has you he loses interest...ask any woman what a man does if she is the one to say I love first??

Sooo the smart woman holds something of herself back keeps that manperson guessing...me not so smart I always make it all about the man...but ehh not my fault blame it on the era I grew up in!
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Feb 6, 2007 @ 12:28 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
MusicMonster


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If the word "some" were added to those comments, then it would be true.

However I know a lot of guys who feel just the same way I do, as posted above. So we can't really put everybody into the same box. It just wouldn't be accurate.

-MM

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Feb 6, 2007 @ 12:40 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
IndigoRose


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SOME

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Feb 6, 2007 @ 12:51 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
MusicMonster


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Thank you very much!!


-MM

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Feb 6, 2007 @ 12:59 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
duwant1


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That’s how it is in most of the animal kingdom.
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Feb 6, 2007 @ 1:09 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
HopelesslyHopeful


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Because the assumpton is that you are playing a game called 'Hard To Get' So if you are ignoring them too much, you are just a hard player. But if you are not ignoring them enough, it's still the assumption that you are playing hard to get which means, in reality, you are some nutcase that has already planned their wedding to you and the first three years of their life afterward, too.

Men say they don't like women who play games but that means they expect that women do. And vice versa

Sucks for the honest people, doesn't it?
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Feb 6, 2007 @ 4:22 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
starchild888


Posts: 161
Yes, it does, suck!
But, let's face it, you wouldn't want someone who ignores you anyway, they have their own agenda....so let's move forward (sound like a Toyota commercial beep beep)
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Feb 6, 2007 @ 4:51 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
candylily


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People have different tolerance levels in the amount of time they want to spend with or talk to other people. I talk to people all day long at my job. I need a little "space" so if a guy chases me too much, I withdraw until I can get that space back. A forum poster asked once what the number of emails a non-paying member could send in one day because she had reached her limit that day talking to just one person. I would block someone if they did that to me. I'm not playing games when I become less available, I'm trying to recharge or whatever it is that some of us have to do. I have noticed, that it sometimes makes men become more interested, but I can't help that. I don't do it for that reason. It also doesn't mean I'm not interested in continuing to talk to that person, I just need a little time out.
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Feb 6, 2007 @ 10:56 PM Why Does Ignoring Them Seem To Work??    
blueyes101


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You know, feelings sometimes have a mind of their own .They just kinda...take off, you can pull the reins, but they don't always cooperate. And sometimes they overtake the other persons (feelings) I guess it can freak you out, So maybe it isn't always just finding the right person but, it is also finding someone who is going the same speed.......Or just meeting at right time of their / our lives......And I'm sure, (one person) having too much alcohol , could also have an effect.Alot of stars must be in line for everything to work out smoothly
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