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exiled131
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Is there one person that you are meant to be with or is it a fantasy we keep in our heads?
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 12:24 AM |
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buni
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I don't think so either.
I guess we just have the hope that we can meet someone, get along really well with them and be able to stand each other for the rest of our lives or the end of the relationship,whichever comes first.
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 1:20 AM |
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sirdidymus
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i believe the notion of a "romantic soulmate" to last a lifetime is just that, a romantic notion. i do believe in soulmates in another sense though. i believe that everyone that comes into your life and has an affect on it - that it happens for a reason. However, that can mean many different things, your sister, your father, your best friend, your romantic partner, any or all of the above can be "soulmates" - souls that you have a special connection with that both parties have lessons to learn from one another.
in regards to romantic interests specifically, i believe the people that come into your life are meant to - on some level. By all means there might be those relationships that span a lifetime - and maybe more than one lifetime, but there might be relationships that only span a shorter period of time as well - and that's ok too.
i think when people buy too much into the notion of "one romantic soulmate for life" they get themselves in trouble in give themselves reasons/excuses to stay in a situation that they'd otherwise be better off to get out off, just because of their convincing themself that "this person" is their lifelong mate.
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 1:38 AM |
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summersquall
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Soulmates....So we need to find a single soulmate out of the billions of people that live in the world?
Talk about pressure!
I think soulmates are developed, not found...
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 2:04 AM |
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introspective1
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Sorry, but I must say I have to disagree with you, as I do believe there is someone for everyone, but is mine out there still? I dare say probably not anymore, because I made a wrong choice long ago and have lived the consequences ever since and now believe I may have lost that chance. Does that mean I will never be happy? Heavens, no, I will find that special someone, but probably never the one I was meant to be with. And life goes on and we learn. Call me a mushy female if you wish, but I guess I have been called worse and you have to believe in something to receive it, right?
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 2:15 AM |
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trish78
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fantasy
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 8:51 AM |
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SirMarkiss
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how very fatalistic you are intro...
I beleive we each have a handful of people that match our souls almost perfectly. A handful of perhaps 100 different souls that can match well with ours. These people aren't neccessarily lovers, they can be platonic friends or family members.
To say that there is only one soulmate for each of us implies that God or whoever wants us to live in unhappiness. The chances of us meeting "the one" are very high, one in billions. Surely the creator knows that 99.99999999% of people won't ever realize. Not very good ods for propegation.
Markiss
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 9:46 AM |
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33333
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i agree Trish. Its just a fantasy
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 9:57 AM |
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Stardust6162
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well i still believe in soulmates.........I also think you can have more than one..........
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 9:58 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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I agree.. soulmates are developed.. not found.
And I believe that there are many kinds of soulmates and on different levels.
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 10:08 AM |
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Greystone1
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I believe there are people who are extremely compatible with each other. Is that a soulmate? If so, then I believe in soulmates.
And yes, there is more than one for everyone, although finding each other can be very difficult.
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 10:33 AM |
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summersquall
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@Intro
"Someone for everyone" is not the same as saying there is one specific individual in the world perfectly matched for another.
There are compatibilities and traits that are present in people and those attributes along with dedication to building a relationship is what creates a soulmate.
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 4:27 PM |
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Dr_Dement0
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Is there one person that you are meant to be with or is it a fantasy we keep in our heads?
I believe there is for some of us...some of the time.
for example, if you believe in reincarnation, you could arrange (in between lives) to meet someone you have met before in a previous life.
lol...just a thought. 
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 6:52 PM |
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Uriel619
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There is no such thing as a soul mate.
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| Nov 6, 2005 @ 7:15 PM |
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Dr_Demento
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I'm not saying everyone does, I'm saying everyone CAN.
I can tell you for me, I have ALWAYS known how old I would be when I met her and that I would meet her on the internet. I knew this even BEFORE there was an internet.
but then, most people just think I'm  or that I 
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| Nov 7, 2005 @ 11:00 AM |
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ladytosca
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I think soul mates can be made or found. There is no denying that some people feel and instant attraction to a person and stay with that person for life. However, not everyone can expect that. I think you can expect to make the person you choose your soul mate. That takes hard work, patience, communication ect. Not so much trying to change that person, but learning to love him or her for who they are. As for passion, that is a flame that will need to be rekindled again and again.
I also think it is perfectly fine to be single, too. 
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| Nov 7, 2005 @ 1:26 PM |
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StarryNight1966
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I have to agree with SirMarkiss here. I have had many people in my life that I consider "soulmates". They are the people nearest and dearest to my heart. They are the ones who I can call at 3am just to talk and vice versa. They are the ones who understand me, accept me and have been life long friends. They are people who I have a deep connection with.
The concept of having just one person met for you in this world is beyond my comprehension. It seems to me the odds are against you.
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| Nov 7, 2005 @ 5:59 PM |
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introspective1
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Ok, markiss, I do get your point. But did you read on? I believe even God has a plan B. Even if I am not with the origianal one I was supposed to be with, I believe I will be with one who matches perfectly anyhow. Just so you did not misunderstand me.
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| Nov 7, 2005 @ 6:22 PM |
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kaden69
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yes yes yes! 
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| Nov 7, 2005 @ 7:07 PM |
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Haban3ro
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I beleived that romance was all about finding someone who could fill about 80% of your needs, and where you could learn to tolerate the other 20%. You'd start as freinds, and you'd try to keep it working as buddies after the lust and passion faded away. If you worked hard enough and long enough, you'd pass for a "happy married couple" in time.
I did this for 25 years, then then wheels came off...
I neve thought there was a soul-mate out there, especially after my first marriage. And then one day, I looked up and she was there. Not one little thing that I would've had to "settle" for. Not one single irritating thing about her - except that she doesn't like to let me see her when she's mad. (Ok, I can live with that! LOL)
Just pure, sheer, unadulterated, absolute linkage from heart to heart, spirit to spirit, and soul to soul. so I guess you could say I learned I could be wrong about the "no soulmates" thing. 
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