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MotownManiax
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I was just looking through profiles on Yahoo Personals and found one with this heading...
Magic found, Not looking anymore!
I understand why unavailable people still post on here: the Forums. But Yahoo Personals doesn't have one. As far as I know neither does Match, and I've found a couple similar profiles, too.
I'm sorry, but one of my biggest irritations with Internet dating sites is seeing these kinds of profiles. If you've found your loverboy/girl, great for you. Have a party. Go on a trip. Live it up. I just don't want to be reminded of it every time I do a frickin' search. To me it's like they're rubbing it in. Hide or delete your profiles, people!!
Does this bother anyone else?
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 9:39 AM |
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IndigoRose
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Nawww 
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 9:42 AM |
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BandTMom
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YES!
Why are you"still looking" on sites like Yahoo and Match that consist of profiles and email only? Is this just a ploy to attract those who are seeking only
the "attatched"?
I have "invisible" profiles on those site, but believe me, if the magic happened, they would be rapidly deleted!
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 9:42 AM |
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MotownManiax
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To me, people that have found someone and gush about it in their profiles like happy school kids are just arrogant show-offs (apologies if this hits a little too close to home for some ppl on here…lol). By golly, you found your TRUE WUVS!….great! Now go off, have fun, and quit blowing your horn at us…lol.
By continuing to keep their profiles up and active tells me something else, that maybe, deep down, in the lower recesses of their sub-conscious, they really "don't" believe their partner is THE ONE and don't expect it to last. At the very least they're keeping their options open, but are either too dishonest to say so or try to persuade themselves otherwise.
I'm sorry, but people like this just drive me bananas. 
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 9:50 AM |
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MarysPlace
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Does this bother anyone else?
No it doesn't. Because if they feel the need to rub it in, then they haven't really found what they are looking for. The action just doesn't match the words. A person who REALLY found true love does what you described -- has a party, goes on a trip. Is happy and wants everyone else to be happy. On the other hand, misery loves company, therefore the aforementioned rubbing in.
I found it hilarious when one of the couples from around here posted a thread "What are your plans for V's day?" OK, what is wrong with that picture? Nothing except that they are married and asking a bunch of single people who obviously don't even have a V's day date about their plans. That was just too funny.
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 9:51 AM |
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NeverB4Alone
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Nope ... Don't bother me MO ... I could care less what a person does, or doesn't do with thier profile. I don't know them anyway, so why waste my time being irritated, or bothered by thier profile. Everyone has the right to post thier profile however they choose, and say what they want. With all of the thousands of profiles out there to look at, I'm sure not going to get my pretzel bent over some that say they're not available. I just move on to the next one. Not a big deal to me, and I'm not going to waste my time being a dating site cop. There's too many more that are available, to waste time worrying about the one's that aren't. (JMO)
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 9:56 AM |
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IndigoRose
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Yep those lovebirds on another site that I belong to...at first it's cute makes me smile but after awhile it makes me wanna YAK!
I'm sooo in love... I found the perfect love and you well HAVEN'T HaHa...blah fawkin' blah..Yep makes me wanna YAK but on the up side when they crash and burn  I think dumass you spread your personal stuff all over the forum...double yak!
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 9:57 AM |
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BandTMom
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By continuing to keep their profiles up and active tells me something else, that maybe, deep down, in the lower recesses of their sub-conscious, they really "don't" believe their partner is THE ONE and don't expect it to last. At the very least they're keeping their options open, but are either too dishonest to say so or try to persuade themselves otherwise.
True. But on these sites you can delete your profile and they will store it for six months to a year. If your relationship doesn't work out, you push the magic button and "poof", you're back on, profile intact.
It could also be a case of people falsely making themselves unavailable in order to attract those who want a "challege". You know, "pick me, pick me! I'm better!"
And another thing...are they sill paying to be there? 
Here's some banans for you, Mo! 
[Edited on 2/9/2007 10:35 AM]
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 10:30 AM |
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MotownManiax
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You know how much I love the dancin' b's, band. 
Pitfalls of counting the success of your Internet Relationship before the chickens hatch....
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 10:40 AM |
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MotownManiax
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 I give you mucho credit, Never. There are just some things I can't help from bothering me. 
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 10:47 AM |
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BandTMom
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So many people are so eager to shout out there "success" to the world only to have the proverbial (banana cream) pie hit them in the face!
Relationships should have time to nurtue and grow before they are announced to the whole internet....if announced at all!
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 10:53 AM |
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kattsmeow
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 10:54 AM |
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IndigoRose
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^^damn skippy! 
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 10:57 AM |
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MarysPlace
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But maybe the act of announcing IS what they want? You know, the attention discussed in another thread...
Then later when they have to report that sadly the relationship is over, it is usually accompanied by the falsely comforting "it's his loss anyway", "he didn't see the beautiful person I really am inside", "that player", "that gold digging bitch" etc, etc. Of course, the internet chorus then comes to the rescue expressing their solidarity and compassion and the attention game is on again.
Never fails.
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 11:03 AM |
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BandTMom
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But Mo was discussing people with profiles on sites that do not have forums and such. Sites where you pay to email. Why have a profile up if you are "taken" and shouldn't be open to receiving emails from any other prospects?
IMO they are just taking up space and wasting my time! 
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 11:08 AM |
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EnjoyingLife420
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I understand what everyone is saying. I've met someone through this site but I certainly don't try to draw constant attention to it. Maybe one thread about something that everyone could comment on. I changed my profile info stating that I'm here for friends and the forums. I post blogs about it from time to time just to let people know that it's not impossible to met someone nice through here. But I don't think I personnally ramble on about it. We both use MD for the forums , blogs and friends we've met here. So at times we just happen to comment on the same threads. But I hope it doesn't offend anyone here.
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 11:14 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Mary does bring up another good scenario that ties into this thread but is specific to dating sites with forums.
I'm also against people that use forums as their own little relationship drama theater of the kind she presented: found true love, broadcast their silly back-and-forth lovey-dubs, break up, then cry about it expecting sympathy. They're equally insufferable.
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 11:21 AM |
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DiamondRain
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I think some people do things like this for exactly the reason you stated MM.
I think it's simply a way for insecure people to show off. They think that it somehow makes them look more desirable to publicly advertise that someone else was actually interested enough in them to have a relationship.
I'm sure they realize the psychology of it all -- that other people who read it will feel somehow left out and lonely when they read it -- because after all it is a place for meeting people and that is why most are there in the first place.
It's a way of saying "Look at me, I'm so desirable and you're not, eat your heart out." It's silly, childish, rude and indicates that the person has an inferiority complex.
BTW...I don't read many men's profiles, but from what I have observed, women seem to do this more than men. I think that has to do with the differences in how men and women view their relationships. I think women tend to define themselves and their worth in terms of their relationship more than men do. So it would make sense that they would more often feel a need to advertise that they have transitioned away from the "undesirable" status of being without a relationship.
[Edited on 2/9/2007 11:24 AM]
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 11:22 AM |
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MotownManiax
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I like your approach, life. There's nothing wrong if a person has found someone. This IS a dating site after all. If those people still want to use the forums for fun and friends, great. Just don't hit me over the head with your relationship giddiness. Keep it separate, subtle, low-key, and mature.
DR 
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 11:25 AM |
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budo13
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MM right on my brother
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