| Feb 11, 2007 @ 10:02 AM |
How to make sure he/she is dating only you?
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Moonwalk
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I cand invest efort and time dating only one person at one time.
And I would like that he/she is doing the same.
How to be sure that he is true and he/she said that is only with me?
How to be sure he/she is not married?
or is not involved in another relation?
Because he/she is deleting his profile on site?
or he/she is keeping his profile but he is intriducing you to his family?
I would like to hear your opinion?
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 10:04 AM |
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winterrenegade
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please see the *how can you tell if someone is blowing you off thread*
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 10:06 AM |
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MarysPlace
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I think the best way to do that is to gag them and chain them to the radiator. That way they ain't goin' nowhere!
Just don't forget to feed them. Food isn't necessary more than 2-3 times a week, but you HAVE to water them every day or they will start to smell. Real bad.
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:09 AM |
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blueyes101
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Define dating........cuz unless you hopping in the sack, it is just that dating, getting to know someone......better......if he/she wants to date others you should let them.......see the jealousy thread.also. If you like, let them know you want to be exclusive, then you are both on level playing field......It is asked in our profile, what type of relationship we are looking for. If you go out on a first date expecting (Long term)or for it to "last forever" (or what ever) you are putting way too much presure on yourselves. You end up trying to conform yourself, or him/her into what you/they want, instead of allowing you to get to know each other, to see if it is a perfect match. And if you are exclusive, ask what their intentions are with their profile, ect. You should be able to have these discussions, open and honest for the relationship to continue anyways...
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:15 AM |
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signme
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Good post blue. I've been dating my guy for 2 months now and we have just started talking long term. I know he is not seeing anyone else because the poor guy just doesn't have time!! And contrary to what many of my friends told me, I will only date one guy at a time. Maybe it was different when I was younger, go out with a variety of guys, but now that I'm older and wiser (yeah right) I want to concentrate on one at a time. If you think you can trust him, ask him outright if he's seeing anyone else. If he lies, you'll figure it out eventually.
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:21 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Mary, don't forget about the bars on the windows and the deadbolts on the doors....it just wouldn't do to have someone entering the premises!!! 
You should be able to have these discussions, open and honest for the relationship to continue anyways... Yes, communication and allowing for a relationship to develop are very, very important factors. Those, and not allowing oneself to read too much into events such as an introduction to family.
It's called building trust. It's called trusting your own instincts. It's called taking a step back and looking at the whole picture without letting your hopes, needs and desires blind you....look at things from any perspective but your own, you might be surprised!
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:29 AM |
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blueyes101
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 Good one eyes...
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:31 AM |
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everrett
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The families of serial killers comes to mind when I consider that you never really know who that person is next to you.
You can never know if your trust has been misplaced. At some point you need to decide that you trust your own judgement and have made a good choice and found someone that is trustworthy.
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:32 AM |
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signme
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Very true Everrett
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:38 AM |
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Moonwalk
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Dating is an occasion when one socializes with a potential lover or spouse.
During dates, people often explore each other's personalities, to discover whether or not they would be compatible together in a relationship.
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:42 AM |
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VaPeppermintPatti
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Dating more than one person at a time is like cat juggling.
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:43 AM |
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robodad
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I would like to hear your opinion? Not too sure of yourself?
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:50 AM |
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DiamondRain
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I'm with everrett on this in that it's about trust. There is only one way to be sure that your lover is not unfaithful. And that is to have a relationship based on trust.
In the four years of my last relationship, I never once doubted her fidelity although there were seemingly many reasons that an onlooker might think I should. I knew her heart in my heart, and I had no doubts. No one else could have known what I knew.
And no one else can know what you know, or give you the answer about how to protect the sanctity of your relationship. The answer lies within your own heart.
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:54 AM |
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blueyes101
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Ok, lets just say you get 10 emails on the same day, all very ineresting and attractive, asking to email back and forth to get to know each other. All of them seem above board, and you like each one for different reasons....Now you get asked out by two of them.......Just for drinks/coffee... whatever........are you goning to pick one, and cut off contact with the rest? What are you making your decision on? I see no reason you can't meet with each of them, to see if sparks are really there.Now for most of us this would not be likely, but what if if was? How would you handle this? Even in first few weeks, you should be able to explore whats best for you, Without hurting the feelings of others.Now what if you picked the wrong one, are you gonna call the others back and say .........oooooops ?
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 11:57 AM |
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blueyes101
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I think some of us are talking about a relationship, and some are talking about initial dating......And trusting your heart is important for both, but your perspective is distorted while dating.
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 12:01 PM |
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MotownManiax
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 Two words....
Electronic Tether
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 12:08 PM |
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Moonwalk
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When the dating is end and when the relation is start?
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 12:12 PM |
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everrett
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Just be upfront if you are "dating" or want things to become one on one. Everyone should be making informed decisions. Or you could just use Mo's electronic tether.
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 12:17 PM |
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signme
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Ok Bue--I had been dating one guy but he didn't call or email for 5 weeks. That's when I started seeing the new guy. If things hadn't gone well on the first date, I would not have gone out again. But they did. Then the old guy emailed and wanted to go out for new year's. By then I liked the new guy and told the other too bad I was seeing someone else. My friends thought I should be dating both for a while and I didn't like that idea. I think you could set up meetings with 2 ppl you might want to get to know better but when you figure out which one throws the most sparks, that's the one to stick with and not keep seeing both.
How's that? And I know this got confusing so am very very sorry but did not want to name names. 
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 12:19 PM |
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blueyes101
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One day during a conversation with a thrid party you refer to your ( date) as a. boyfriend/girlfriend, and you goooooooooo. Holly Crap, I have bf/gf......and it makes you smile, so you tell him/her in a funny way, your little story, and look for their reaction. That should open up a discussion. If you are exculsive, or still dating......
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