| Dec 1, 2005 @ 9:13 AM |
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ahnyceleven
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What are the five most desirable or important qualities in a man...I mean, in terms of romance and attraction (sexual or otherwise) and dating or simply having a relationship. For example, what I consider the six most important (and sustaining) qualities in a woman are:
1) Honesty
2) a warm and pleasant personality
3) intelligence (I don't mean necessarily booksmarts or a formal education...there are all kinds of intelligence beyond those...and brilliancies of emotion as well)
4) emotional and mental stability (which would include being emotionally able and accessible)
5) maturity (the emotional staying power of maturity combined with good judgement and common sense)
6) pleasant (not necessarily extraordinary) clean healthy well-groomed feminine appearance
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 10:10 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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1. Trustworthy
2. Honest with himself and with others.
3. Caring/Loving
4. A unique personality (someone who isnt' afraid to just be themselves!)
5. Reliable
And probly the most important part is someone who can put up with crazy emotional me lol.
*AsH
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 10:29 AM |
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skinnybarncat
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And probly the most important part is someone who can put up with crazy emotional me lol.
I think that may be called Tolerance. Add that to the list. 
Honest with himself and with others.
that's a tricky one, "with himself". most people are delusional to some degree...the very intelligent can be very creative in their self-delusions! gotta watch out for them...they sound very convencing because they believe what they think!.... anyway,, a nice collection of tools that you provided. 
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 10:48 AM |
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suthunsweet
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Honesty
Loyalty
Trusting
Trustworthy
Gentleman (treats you like a lady and doesn't step on you when you try to walk through the door first)
Mannerly
Affectionate
Doesn't overly smother you
Mentally and emotionally stable
Isn't looking for a sugar mama
Good listener
Good communicator
good sense of humor
good self esteem (but not overly vain)
etc, etc, etc
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 12:12 PM |
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notgivingup
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1) Kind-heartedness. Someone who actually tries to live by the Golden Rule.
2) Non-judgemental and accepting attitude towards others.
3) Places little value on material things. Let's face it, rich people can be jerks, too!
4)Intelligence and strong communication skills (I've never responded once to any man who sends me a message that says, "Dang, yer hottttt!!!" or anything like that!
OK OK, the sexual thing:
I'm looking for a man who understands that there is a BIG difference between "having sex" and "making love" - who understands that for a woman, it's about the JOURNEY, not the DESTINATION; a man masculine enough to rip my clothes off, throw me on the couch and make me scream...but also tender enough to whisper in my ear, gaze into my eyes, caress my face, play with my hair, and rock me gently to sleep with his body. Mostly, I want a man who understands that the largest and most sensitve sex organ we humans have is: THE BRAIN.
[Edited on 12/1/2005 12:15 PM]
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 1:14 PM |
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MarysPlace
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1. Shining armor
2. White horse
3. Sword (for the evil dragon)
4. The castle (with running hot water and internet connection)
5. A whole bunch of cute knights following him around and catering to his (and mine) every wish
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 1:20 PM |
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tahoma
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Ah Mary... finally a woman that can be honest about what we are REALLY looking for!  
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| Dec 2, 2005 @ 2:38 AM |
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star131303
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These are my IMPORTANT qualities in a man:
1. HONESTY-not like:"I am a man, age 30, who is cool", more like true honesty, like:"I like you and I am scared that you might not like me too".
2. FOLLOW-THROUGH-I think everyone knows what that is, but just in case: I like when a guy promises me "realistic" things and actually is standing there still afterwards.
3. DRIVE & AMBITION-I am not talking sex drive here (although that is important). But, basically someone that is excited to live and experience life.
4. REALNESS- I think this goes in the honesty category, but really it is different. I like to look a man that I love in the eyes and know all the way to my soul that he loves me and desire me the same way I do him.
5. TRUST-Not just with being with me and only me, but also, deep, save me from my fears, I can tell you anything and you'll love me anyway kind of trust.
Five most DESIRABLE are totally different!
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| Dec 2, 2005 @ 4:03 AM |
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Lovely2lookAtNice2Hold
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 Right on women of society!!! A MAN...not just a GUY...who can be in touch with others, as much as he is, not just with HIMSELF....but his TRUE SELF
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| Dec 8, 2005 @ 7:52 PM |
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Lee_Danger
Posts: 4,505
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Here's my five:
1) Self-confident
2) Capable
3) Honest
4) A sincere smile and a great sense of humor
5) Altruistic
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 1:21 AM |
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Unknown2all
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what I consider the six most important (and sustaining) qualities in a woman are:
1) Honesty.........................ahny
BS! Regardless of what people say, most persons decide whether or not someone is worthy of a relationship by their appearance. That is, to mostly everyone, the most important "quality" they look for in a potential relationship. Consider anyone who tells you otherwise to be a liar.
I'm looking for a man who understands that there is a BIG difference between "having sex" and "making love" - who understands that for a woman, it's about the JOURNEY, not the DESTINATION; a man masculine enough to rip my clothes off, throw me on the couch and make me scream...but also tender enough to whisper in my ear, gaze into my eyes, caress my face, play with my hair, and rock me gently to sleep with his body.........notgivingup
This was just ridiculous. What an unrealistic view of someones expectations. It's funny, yet a reminder of the chemical imbalance so many women possess.
I noticed others said that "honesty" and "self confidence" were the most important qualities. Liars.
Maybe y'all feel better by telling each other lies. Self serving interest will always expose the self proclaimed righteous braggart.
Did I wonder into a room of those people who are "exception to the rule"?
I doubt it.
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 2:02 AM |
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nah12
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1.) goodlooking
2.) great in bed
3.) goodlooking and great in bed
4.) great in bed and goodlooking
5.) goodlooking in bed and great
  
sorry couldn't resist 
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 7:14 AM |
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CynCity
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to Nah!
Hmmmmm, someone is feeling a tad bitter and resentful this morning, aren't they?
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 7:17 AM |
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MotownManiax
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1. Shining armor
2. White horse
3. Sword (for the evil dragon)
4. The castle (with running hot water and internet connection)
Mary, I've got your perfect match!
Shrek!!
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 7:21 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Nah, I may be mistaken, but it sounds like you're just a tad bit horny this morning? I don't know HOW I came to that conclusion, just a guess...stab in the dark...run up the flagpole (oops, pun)...top of the head (oops, nuther pun).
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 10:38 AM |
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torees121
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The most important for me are:
1) compassionate
2) romantic
3) good in bed
4) good with children
5) trustworthy/faithful
I feel that if they are these 5, then there are other qualities that would fall into place also...
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 1:28 PM |
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star131303
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~I am really thinking someone (maybe raquel?) should be standing right behind me clicking the off button for this computer right now, but I just for some reason can not help myself, so I am warning you all !~  
Ok, ummmm... I am not even going to do the quotes. You know what UNKNOWN, just because you have trouble being real in this world, does not mean that you have to attack others because they really are! Is it so unheard of that people care about more things than the appearance? I mean intially maybe, after that, are you kidding me ?!
Some of us REALLY are real, wholy and completely, and if that makes you question your own reality, then maybe it should!
~Someday I will learn about negative people and just let them be, but until then, if I can change the outlook of one, It will sustain me~ (sorry raquel, I really did try!)
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 1:31 PM |
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RAKS37
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He deleted his post.
My reply was
Gee and I thought I was out of touch
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 2:45 PM |
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star131303
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I agree RAKS, but sometimes I just cannot help myself !
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 10:09 PM |
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Roanin
Posts: 300
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Nice reply, Unkown. Especially, since you have nothing on your profile! I must say that I agree with only one thing you've said and it wasn't here, it was on your nonexistant prof. We don't need to know about you. Now leave these nice people alone. If you can't play nicely with others....., you know the rest. Now having gotten that off my chest, here's mine:
1.Integrety (covers all that honesty and good hearted stuff)
2.Good sense of humor (nothing is better to get me out of a bad mood)
3.Self sufficiant/self reliant (won't support any other guy than my son and that's only till he's either 18 or in college)
4.Communication (goes with intelligence)
5.Has to be pleasing to MY eye
6.Faith (in himself, in me and in sometype of Divine)
7.No baggage (I hate getting blamed for someone else's past deeds)/ mental & emotional stability
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