| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:15 AM |
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paul7458
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I thought I had a girlfriend. She lives an hour away. We went out 3 times. We laughed like we were drunk. We had fun. When a problem arises such as the radio in her car not working she changes into ths different person and cusses me out calling me a pos among other things. Yesterday she asked if my son was going to be with me all day. I said yes. She said she was thinking of driving down so I can look at her radio fuse. I don't think that's what she had in mind but. I told her she could come down anyway. She wouldn't do it. A couple of hours later she called me for the first time which made me feel good. Then last night she's pissed. Apparently I should have grabbed my son, jumped in my car and driven to see her. Now she doesn't want anything to do with me again. I'm growing tired of worrying about her and losing sleep. She speaks often of how she should and could kill herself. I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced a similar situation and if I should break off all ties with her and not look back.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:25 AM |
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BandTMom
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The word "RUN" comes to mind!
Don't let her problems become your and your son's problems!
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:34 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Sounds like that lady may have some mental problems. If you intend to stay with her, you are going to to have to make sure she gets some help.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:41 AM |
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Empath
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She definitely has issues. I agree with Bandtmom......run, and run fast! Before she drives you crazy. You've only gone out three times...be glad you're seeing this behaviour so soon. I think this lady needs to do some self-exploration before she's ready to be anyone's partner.
If you should decide she's worth it, then as Touch says, recommend she see a therapist. Could be her upbringing, depression, a mental disorder.....but it needs looking into.
Best of luck!!
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:56 AM |
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paul7458
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Could be her upbringing, depression, a mental disorder.....but it needs looking into.
To above: I know it's her past. She's told me everything. she's been divorced for 14 years with a 17 year old daughter
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:58 AM |
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MarysPlace
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I thought I had a girlfriend. She lives an hour away. We went out 3 times. We laughed like we were drunk.
I had to stop here and check your age. Your profile says you're 37, not 18.
She sounds like a bipolar off meds.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 9:09 AM |
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paul7458
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[I had to stop here and check your age. Your profile says you're 37, not 18.]
37 is my real age. I get your point. We talked for 2 months before we went out. Which I thought was a good thing. She's never been on meds. I told her I can't handle psyco babe. And that I'm gonna start looking around. Why does it have to be so hard to date?
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 9:23 AM |
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acslim
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sounds like a psycho to me...
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 9:30 AM |
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IndigoRose
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A pretty face don't make no pretty heart...
Of course we only have your word for how the relationship is progressing but...the woman seems to have control issues some guys actually like that weiners She might be looking for you to put your foot down? Don't let her push you around your the man damn it!!!
Best of luck in whatever you choose to do!
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 9:44 AM |
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MarysPlace
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She's never been on meds.
That's the core of her problem.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 9:47 AM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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She has got issues.....
For your kids sake I would say to move on. Sorry you spent so much time learning someone she is not but that can't be changed. At least you have the fact that you were honest with her and kept your promises or intentions that you fostered with her. It shows integrity and women (some, do not look in NYC) are looking for that. Take that into the next venture of life....as a learned lesson... 
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 9:48 AM |
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Goldn_Eagle
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Dunno, but from what you describe - this is only something that would get worse, not better. Meds/no meds/needs meds/who cares - probably past time for you to find yourself elsewhere.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 12:31 PM |
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grumblebear
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if its crazy this early.... RUN!! because if this is how she acts in the early stage, it'll only get worse....
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 12:35 PM |
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twotall911
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give her some good drugs
grumble im biking today 
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 12:46 PM |
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Strata2007
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The advice everyone gives should be heeded.
The Needy and Needed relationship can sometimes be hard to untangle from. I have got a collegue who is in this predicament and it is as bad as he can't be seen with any females because his girlfriend ''gets upset''.
It all depends on you to be sure what you want but what is more important is that you have got a child whose interests are yours to protect. You have seen the signs and you seem to know the answer I guess the thing to do now is to act on your decision and stick to it.
You hinted that you are out of it but ....
Be strong and hey.... there seems to be alot of good people hear willing to listen so its a start for support.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 1:43 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Run!!!! You don't need this kind of problem in your life.
Remember, it is HER problem not yours and YOU can't fix it!
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 1:53 PM |
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kittenb
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Whatever you do , don't invite a crazy, suicidal person into your children's life. There are worse things than being alone for a while.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 2:19 PM |
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Dukums
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if its crazy this early.... RUN!! because if this is how she acts in the early stage, it'll only get worse....
Amen Brother Grumble!
When it turns bad early and they show unhealthy behavior, there is no "fixing" it.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 7:11 PM |
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ramsfan1970
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 I can't imagine having people like that around my kids! 
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 7:17 PM |
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emptypages
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If she threatens to kill herself, and you've only seen her 3 times, stay as far away from her as possible. She needs counseling.
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