| Feb 26, 2007 @ 7:09 PM |
Are you seeking a date or a relationship? They aren't the same thing.
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Recall848
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Most of us can find someone to go out with. But many of us can't find that relationship that they say they want. A relationship should be a partnership.Are you ready for one? If not? Then just be open for company on a date.But if you want someone in your life and you want to be in theirs then there is a better way.The key is to realize people have lives. Many times different from your own.They maybe in another place in life than you are.I know I am.I came to acting in Jan.2002.Most people my age are looking towards to retirement and maybe traveling.I'm not.I have a goal.I never plan to retire.I use me as an example because the woman must know where you are in your life and be accepting of what you want in life regardless of you age. She should be on the same page as you are or truly open to your goal.It isn't about a movie and dinner.It's about attraction,character and openess.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 7:11 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I was seeking a relationship and that is exactly what I found....
And of course theres a differance between dating and seeking.. 
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 7:21 PM |
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ramsfan1970
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You have to have a date before you can have a relationship...
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 7:21 PM |
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blueyes101
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I've said this before, but if you go out on a date EXPECTING a relationship, you just might be putting to much pressure on just a meeting.....So I would guess, the question is, are you dating, because you are in search of a long term relationship. or just want to hang out.....If we start putting all of our eggs in one basket.....meaning wanting a relationship.......soooooo bad, we don't see things clearly....Things may not end as we would like...I think this may be why some are afraid to meet....(.someone who lives far away)....certain decisions must be made, before you meet, and hope you both make the same choices....... jmo
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 7:28 PM |
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grumblebear
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hmm, so the fact that I'm not dating, and haven't dated in years must preclude having any relationship? lol
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:43 PM |
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Red69Sun
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In seeking a relationship, one must go through the dating phase to determine if there is potential in this person for a relationship with you or not.
There is also the perpetual daters.....that have no want, need, or desire for a committed long-term relationship.......in the traditional sense.......but even dating is a form of a relationship........so, bottom-line, I guess you need to know what you are all about and what your goals are (immediate and long-term) and see where the other person fits or doesn't in those goals.
Blu is right though.......you can put too much pressure on yourself or the other person, trying to squeeze a LTR potential in to just a date.....let it flow and see how it goes........don't always jump the gun and be too hasty........but also know when to cut your losses and run like heck! 
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:46 PM |
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spongebob777
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The date is for taking measurements for the shackles and estimating how much rope and duct tape I should buy. 
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:47 PM |
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PullMyFinger
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^^^^^^ 
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:48 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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@Sponge
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:49 PM |
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grumblebear
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one thing I learned a long time ago, was I could never count on, or trust another person....
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 8:50 PM |
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daisy315
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I'm not into serial dating.. if there isn't a connection at the start, I'm not gonna waste his time or mine (and possibly have to endure a very long evening) just to have someone buy me a meal.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 9:00 PM |
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Red69Sun
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Dang Spongey.............that was good  and I do like duct-tape!
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 9:04 PM |
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blueyes101
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Red I wish you would have written my thread too,,,,,,,your words sound so much better than mine....... 
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 9:09 PM |
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Raiynth
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She should be on the same page as you are or truly open to your goal.It isn't about a movie and dinner.It's about attraction,character and openess.
Shouldn't both parties be on the same page and open to each other's goals?
For that matter, sometimes it is about a movie and dinner. An interlude of friendly companionship that doesn't go anywhere isn't a waste of time as long as it's enjoyable for both people on some level - even if there isn't a romantic connection. I mean, even if you're looking for a relationship, surely you're allowed to go on a date or two without defining your entire future around it. That sounds just a little too obsessive for me. As far as I'm concerned, obsession isn't going to win a relationship - it just makes people look at you funny.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 9:49 PM |
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Red69Sun
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What Blu.........you like duct tape too..........you and Spongey????   
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 10:16 PM |
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Empath
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The date is for taking measurements for the shackles and estimating how much rope and duct tape I should buy.
So, how much do you figure you'll need?
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 10:18 PM |
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spongebob777
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So, how much do you figure you'll need?
That depends on how hard you try to escape. 
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 10:21 PM |
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kattsmeow
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You mean you have to "date" first.?? Why didn't someone tell me before this?
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 10:35 PM |
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Empath
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That depends on how hard you try to escape.
Guess we'll need another "date" then, huh? Gotta know how much you'll need, afterall.....
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 10:36 PM |
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spongebob777
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I'm polishing my cuffs.
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