| Mar 4, 2007 @ 1:15 AM |
Do you dare to date people "Out of your league" or "Out of your class"?
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Always_Striving
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What type of man or woman do you consider to be "In your league" or "Class of people to date"?
Would you even go to the extent of marrying someone out of your league?
If you are a princess type would you date a scuzzy band member?
If you are a cowboy type would you date a woman CEO long term?
Would a prince charming type pursue a woman in rags?
If yes or no, please explain what turns you off, or what turns you on about doing it.
Just a fling or fetish or something more??????
I'll jump in a little later with my comments. 
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 2:25 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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no, i wouldn't, i know what's out of my league..and it's really only because i'm a fat chick...i don't go after very very good looking men or even look at them because i am afraid they'll laugh at me
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 2:29 AM |
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thegoodideaman
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I only date out of my "League/Class"
I have to...
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 8:21 AM |
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Loreli
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Any man I feel a true connection with in my mind, heart and soul, is in my league.
The rest is just clothing-and everyone's the same out of them-a job or lifestyle 
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 8:36 AM |
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definitelydi
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Date? 
As long as he is my intellectual equivalent, it's all good. I can't date someone who doesn't "get me" or who has nothing better to say that "you're silly" when I make a brilliant remark. You can either fly with me or remain on the ground. We all know what's on the ground...so why not fly?
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 9:19 AM |
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Laidback742
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I have always hated the idea that we classify ourselves .... because of looks, money, background, ethnicity, religion, whatever .... we refer to other people in other classes as "them" or "that type" or whatever .... we often think that perhaps we aren't good enough for someone in another class, that we can't/shouldn't interact or become familiar with each other .... that others wouldn't be interested on "our class" .... IMO, forget all that crap and just go for it ....
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 9:25 AM |
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MotownManiax
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All I know is I'm attracted to smart, classy, attractive women. But I evidently lack some vital relationship ingredient. Could it be I don't possess the things most women say are "frivilous" and "unimportant" with their public face but in reality find deeply important, like money and status?
Some of these types of women ARE brutally honest (I've found very few) and say exactly what they want in a man; however shallow, selfish and narcissistic it can sound. But the vast majority hide behind a mask to avoid saying what they really want. They try to say "the right thing" with a lot of idealistic phrases about living on nothing but love and communication. I get fancy platitudes instead of concrete action to demonstrate the truthfulness of these lofty ideals.
Lies, I tell you....nothing but LIES!!!! 
That doesn't make me sound bitter, does it?  
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 9:31 AM |
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MarysPlace
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All I know is I'm attracted to smart, classy, attractive women.
I knew you loved me! 
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 9:36 AM |
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twotall911
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LGQ-no, i wouldn't, i know what's out of my league..and it's really only because i'm a fat chick...i don't go after very very good looking men or even look at them because i am afraid they'll laugh at me--- ahemmmm no they wont
ive dated both types but have found afew that do have problems
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 9:38 AM |
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ramsfan1970
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All the time because I have so many guys busting down my door to get to me 
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 9:40 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Hmmmmm....
I'm not even sure what anyone's 'class' might be, and money and status are really subject to change without notice in many ways. I know it's trite, but if you're looking for a relationship that's gonna last, you really do have to look inside (whether you're visual or not, and guys, believe me, we women can be pretty visual too), because that really is the only thing you can count on not to change. Money, looks, status...there are no guarantees that they'll be there down the road. Loyalty, integrity, respect (both for yourself and for others), consideration....long term, those are the things that will matter.
Out of my class, or vice versa? It always depends on what traits you're considering...but as in all things, the best partnerships are the ones where you both think you've gotten someone 'out of your league'...and it does happen...just not often enough...sigh...
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 10:06 AM |
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MotownManiax
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I knew you loved me!
That pretty much goes without saying, Mary 
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 10:12 AM |
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budo13
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no such a thing in my eyes 
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 10:38 AM |
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IndigoRose
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I dated a man who was so much better looking than myself...Gawd I hated wrasslin' for the mirror...I was engaged to a very VERY wealthy man but left him for a down and out DJ...See somebody you want go for it what is the worst they can say? Get outta here???
Always I ONLY date good tippers 
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 10:38 AM |
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signme
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I like to date laid back casual type guys. I'm not into getting all dressed up and going to opera or large corporation parties. I like to hang with my friends and small groups of people. But I'm sure all types of people belong to large party functions and also small party groups. I don't think about class or league, I think about my comfort zone. Not sure if I explained it right, but I tried. 
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 12:37 PM |
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bevrice
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No one is better than anyone else. I don't know how anyone could be "out of anyone's class". What matters is their heart and what kind of person they are.
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 1:06 PM |
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Dukums
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Ok how about this for straightforward. I date up all the time. I never date down. That being said, the qualifications have nothing to do with money or social status, but personality and what is important to them.
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 1:41 PM |
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Luisa909
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I try to socialize with people who have my same values
This is meant that they can be out of my class (..which is my class ????  )
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 1:49 PM |
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sciurusniger
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While I suppose there are some men with "good looks and money" who might actually consider me a "woman in rags", the truth is that I consider them beneath me, and no, when I could have dated them, I didn't.
Why? Because good looks and money mean nothing in terms of being able to be involved in a real and loving relationship with another person. Those who worry about such things have misplaced priorities according to my little world's rule book and therefore don't get to play in my game.
I'm now more than happy to be with a certain good-looking masked bandit who has his head on straight.
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| Mar 4, 2007 @ 1:54 PM |
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Always_Striving
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I refuse to date drug abusers, especially women that do narcotics or downer type of drugs. If they tend to smoke pot, take fists full of sleep aid type pills, a nightly alcohol drinker (every single night) before bedtime or must have a drink in the car while driving then you aren't the woman for me. I see that as a contaminated human abuser that needs professional medical help, I certainly can't do anything for them, nor do I have the patience to "stick in there" for them.
Another type I will not date is a hopeless type, it's the world's fault or someone else's fault that caused them to be in their 200 ft hole of misery.
I don't want to date any women that might "drag me down" like a ship anchor with depression and bad credit card spending habits.
If a woman is responsible for some kind of fault or accident then she should not try to play coy, brush "their sins" under the rug quickly, or blame and divert her gross errors onto someone else. This behavior will get her kicked out of the door of my life faster than you can say " ". It pisses me off a lot when those games are attempted. A person should feel guilt and completely answerable for their mistakes.
I mention this because I see how one of my friend's wife is a manipulator. He is pretty well off $ and has brought her up (different social class) but she just can't let go of her old ways. Anyway you can't change a person, they have to want to do it themselves. Too bad that he didn't see it coming before he married her. (He tells me that he regrets the marriage but it's too expensive to divorce).
Another aquaintence of mine, a well $ contract engineer from Colorado, met a diner waitress that was cute as a button then later had 2 children with him. She filed for divorce which resulted in child support though wage garnishment, his house, property acreage and his plane. Aftern she won all that (took him to the cleaners) he moved out of state but continued paying his court ordered child support.
She let the house dilapitate and go to sh!t, but kept asking him for more money to hire contractors to fix it. She stopped making payments on the house
and property (saving that "tip" money for a rainy day, I guess?). and lost it. She moved into an apartment with their children and somehow found out that he was making better money in Seattle than in Colorado......... She got her lawyer on it and also contacted the courts to try and desperately suck more blood. The good news is that they didn't award any extra garnishments.
I've seen a little bit of this in all of what I would describe as social class boundaries, especially women that were once poorer but have hooked up with a man that have helped bring them up in social standard. I don't believe all are like that though.
bevrice I do believe that people are better than others. I don't believe in the Marxist's way of life but that you make life what it is for you or your future (Darwinistic).
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