| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:09 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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So im reading along and i see that theres quite the difference in thoose that have, and thoose that havent been married, views of dating, redating, single dating, dating parents, dating used to be marries, and so on and so one.
so take o moment, state your case, have you havent you? will you, do you, or would you again? why not, why so or why it end?
My goal is to STOP BEING TALKED DOWN by those devorceys that claim i dont know what im talking about. So there are some of us thats never been married, its the same group thats never been devorced either. Theres got to be some credit!. So anyhows, post!
p.s. that just my goal if you get something from it great, and im not known for my great thread starters they seem to die quickly, so have fun while it last..
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:14 PM |
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dooney123
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I'm divorced. I would get married some day if it's to the right person. I would rather not get married again then marry the wrong person just to be married (or not be alone).
I don't regret being my marriage though, even though it did not work out, because I would not be the person I am today otherwise. All the decisions I've made, even the "bad" ones at the time eventually lead to good things.
I don't have children, but you'll probably find that most people who are divorced and had children w/ their ex don't regret the marriage, because they would not have their children otherwise.
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:19 PM |
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Dukums
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You are so right Dooney. I would not change the fact I was married, or that I went through divorce. The pain and the trauma of divorce made me a stronger person. I would get married again, but never to a clingy jealous, emotional wreck. I would much rather be alone. It may be quiet around the house when alone, but it is better than spending 24/7 trying to support someone else's insecurity. At least there is peace.
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:21 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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ty dooners!
never done marrage of course, I do have three children and a god daughter. full cust of two of em. I have said this before it like my montra, I would rather good without then settle for less. Ive held this true. In the pass few years of course I have thought about it more and more, not do to the feeling of missing, just the times geting right for me to be able to live up to what I can as a husband. I will not marry someone for the sake of children, this has been my advice of the years as well. I will only marry for the sake of me. Its on my shoulders alone to up hold my end of the deal the partnership. is this wrong thinking?
once again thank you Doons, god i like that nick name, lol and good luck one that ringer you got now. 
Duku,  man hind sight, dont ya wish it was a sence? im wondering was there a point where you first saw it go bad that you say hey, if we just did this then, or not do this then, we might still be in a successful relationship?
ps i know the responces are gona be pretty one sided, not to many married folks at a singles site, for the few that are, ROCK ON thats some great trust you got going.
some peeps would freak the hell out!
[Edited on 3/15/2007 7:23 PM]
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:23 PM |
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lynnielou
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Never been married, and I don't think I ever will! Don't have anything against it....just not for me. Dating suits me just fine!
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:25 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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Yeah datings awesome, i dont think ill wake up one day and say hey i think ill go get hictched, i got a feeling that its maybe more like, a smack in the face and a punch in the gut, next thing i know, im mr. uggette.
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:28 PM |
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definitelydi
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I would rather not get married again then marry the wrong person just to be married (or not be alone). 
I'm divorced. I take marriage very seriously and would very much like to marry again to someone who is actually like minded. This lack of "like mindedness" is why my marriage failed.
I'm so grateful we couldn't have children so that at least on my part, dating is a bit easier. I have no objections to dating men with kids as long as they are their "own person." Of course, you are a parent first...but you need to take time for yourself and your own interests.
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:28 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Unhappily married almost immediately, happily divorced for some 30-plus years. My mom said that I should have skipped the wedding and just had kids,which is pretty much the way it turned out anyway. I had two by birth, and 3 more fosters for extended periods and several more for shorter lengths of time. I've never lived alone in my life though, and still have one son and a housemate (oh, and a menagerie) sharing the household. It's much too big for even two people.
Would I do it again, or even cohabit? I never say never. With the right person, anything's possible.
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:32 PM |
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lell
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cancelled this 3 times  been married once, and would do it again if it was the right person. I must admit ive have 2 long term relationships since then but ?? 
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:34 PM |
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dooney123
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That's very true, Short, if you are not ready for marriage, then it is much better to wait until you are then get married because you have children. You are responsible for YOUR part of the marriage, so if you don't think you can manage that responsibility, it's better not to get married.
Also, I think you do know when it's "the one" if you are thinking about getting married or marrying someone, that is NOT the right person. When it's the "right" person, you KNOW, and you don't have any doubts.
Thank you. 
[Edited on 3/15/2007 7:36 PM]
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:34 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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thanks di, I'm divorced. I take marriage very seriously and would very much like to marry again ......why? whats was it?
Sorry wild, Unhappily married almost immediately, why ya get married in the first place? was it more on feelings or wishful thinking? glad to know your good to go though, itll happy. i bet ya.
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:36 PM |
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KAOS2007
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I haven't done it, because I only want to do it once. With parents happily married over 50 years, I am one of the few who still believe in the sanctity of marriage.
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:38 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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why ya get married in the first place?
Because at the ripe old age of 20 I thought I knew it all!. 
Combine an extremely high libido with a very strong maternal drive, and wham, I thought I was in love, when I was really just reacting to biology. Even his mother told me not to do it!
Live and learn. I'm only sorry my kids had to pay a good part of the price of the education.
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:39 PM |
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dooney123
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Even his mother told me not to do it!
LOL!
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:41 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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Well Short...that is kind of how love finds you...sneaks up and punches you in the gut! But it feels good anyway...
I have been, and now I'm not...have put 15 yrs between me and that...and now I would again for sure! Kaos...I too believe in the sanctity of marriage....when I do it this time ...it is till the end... 
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:45 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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KO, ya know im in the same club, only once.
Yet i didnt come from the house of a happy marrage, i came from houses many bad one. lying cheating back stabing, promise breaking, near NO sexual intimacy, only activity. between the two women that raised me theres is a total of 8 marrages in 30 years! that not counting boy friends. And a pops i never known.\
I know thats not for me. I know that not what ill have! oh and two younger brothers that both have one devorce under their belts.
So i beleave very much so in the sanctity as well as the sanity, lol of marrage.
now just what is it?
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:47 PM |
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lynnielou
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That's a very good question! Someone please tell me too!
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:51 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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Well Short....when you can love someone so much you would give your life for them....you really love them! You respect one another, and yes you even like one another...some people love their mate but don't like them nor respect them...
Their smile lights up your day...and when you are apart just thinking of them puts a smile on your face... Love is so much even than this....It adds to your life in a way you never dreamed possible..  sometimes you think you couldn't even breathe without them....but you know you can! Love causes you to be a giver as well..instead of a taker...
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:54 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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. Even his mother told me not to do it! LOL
now thats funny.
Alright 1st,  what do you think you miss the most about marrage, why are ya willing to try now, another run at it, when it presents itself of course. well it is 1st after all, she a gut puncher.
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| Mar 15, 2007 @ 7:54 PM |
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definitelydi
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would very much like to marry again to someone who is actually like minded. This lack of "like mindedness" is why my marriage failed.
That's why!
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