| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:44 PM |
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sensualrenegade
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Anyone ever had a problem with their mom and relationships?
I'm turning 21 this year and i'm a sophomore in college and my mom's really bearing down on me to get married. She said she wants grandbabies before i'm 23. Is this a typical mother thing, or is is she saying that i'm getting too old for the party scene? She's all ready gathered all my information in the church so that i can get married whenever
What are your experiences with your mom and your relationship?
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:47 PM |
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Dukums
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This sounds overboard to me, however maybe she is hoping that if you get married that you will mature and not be so involved in the party scene. She may just be trying to guide you to a healthier lifestyle.
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:47 PM |
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dooney123
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It's none of her business and she should stay out. Take your time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:48 PM |
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sensualrenegade
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is marriage really the answer?
I live on campus, therefore i tend to party.
However i have all A's and B's
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:49 PM |
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Blondino
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Not typical of mothers here ...most mothers here want their daughters to live a bit .. see a bit of life etc before settling down with kids
End of the day its your life ... your choice and your decision and dont let anyone make it for you 
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:51 PM |
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BandTMom
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My mom just wants me to be happy!
And no...marriage is not the answer. Although I belve in marriage, it does not bring happiness. Only you can bring yourself happiness.
[Edited on 3/18/2007 1:52 PM]
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:51 PM |
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Dukums
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No Marriage is not the answer. It is just the mentality of some in the older generation. Marriage does make you grow up, but that is not a good reason to grow up, and in fact when you marry and you are not mature, you run a big risk of failure. I think her motive may be good, although her method overblown. However I would still advise that the party scene leads to emptyness.
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:52 PM |
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Dukums
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Same with my mom....mom! LOL
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:54 PM |
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sensualrenegade
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ah i'm a college kid. nothing wrong with partying as long as my grades are up.
I am happy, that's the thing. There nothing really i'd like to change in life. I'm not sad about anything.
Ah mothers
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:56 PM |
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BandTMom
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Then tell her that! 
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 1:59 PM |
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sensualrenegade
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i do, like daily.
She calls me at work telling me all the proper papers have been pulled together for my marriage
Then she calls me saying i shouldn't sleep around (which i don't)
Then she calls me about my spending habits.
All of this while i'm on the clock. lol
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 2:04 PM |
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BandTMom
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Sometiimes it's hard to have a serious conversation with your mom, but if this is bothering you, you need to sit her down and let her know.
Mom's have their children's best interests at heart but sometimes what WE think is best is not always right for you.
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 2:06 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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nope mom never got involved with my relationship, the only issue we ever had was her and hers, beaters cheaters and alcohlics. take about a heavey subject at age 10
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 2:06 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 2:08 PM |
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sensualrenegade
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sheesh, that's rough.
I guess i'm glad to have this mom!
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 2:09 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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What are your experiences with your mom and your relationship?
Eeeeeeeeeek, get her to a shrink, quick!! I married at 20 and started having babies at 21, despite HIS mother telling me not to do it and MY mother offering me a trip around the world not to marry him.
Damn, I shoulda listened! 
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 3:52 PM |
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JesterDrawers
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You're 20 years old!!!!! WAY too young to be getting married these days! The average age at which a young woman marries these days is 26....so tell you mom to go ahead and put things in motion, that you'd like to have a June wedding....in 2013!!!!!!
Seriously, at 20, I was not a "party person", but most of my friends that went away to college were, and they grew out of that phase, matured, got married, and started raising their families - when the time was right for them to do so. My baby sister probably would have fallen into the same category as you. She went away to school, didn't sleep around (as you mentioned you don't) yet liked her partying and her socializing....all the while knowing what her responsibilities were as far as grades, etc. She always pulled A's and B's herself as well. And today, she's got a husband, 2 great kids, and she's one of the most responsible people I know.
You know, once you get married and start a family, it's simply not possible to do the things you're doing today. So, that being said - enjoy it while you can. You'll know when you're too old for the party scene, and there will be a natural progression from that to other stages of your life. Hang in there, and do what you know is right for you.
Or......  scare the crap out of her, and tell her that although you're not ready to get married, you can understand why she wants grandbabies so much, so you're going to make a concerted effort to see that she has at least one, maybe two, before you turn 23!!!!  (You don't have to actually TRY to make this happen....just let her THINK that you will!)
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 4:08 PM |
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PullMyFinger
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My mother did the same thing, bugged the ever living buttcrap outta me. FINGER! She'd say; "Go out thar into the big city and snag yersef a youngin, do the no-no thing and gets me a grandbaby!!!"....Over and over and over again, short of beating her over the head with a skillet, I had to do something. I was going nuts.
I went downtown and bought me some albums, the kind made of plastic back then. I went home, snuck up to the loft with Bernette the retarted ewe and got my old trusty victrola and fired that bad boy up. It was that ugly chick, can't remember her name...Barbara Streisand?...that's it. I blasted it and soon my mom limped up the stairs, my mom had a limp from childhood, she was playing chicken with a freight train, barely made it out of its path and got hit by Volvo...but anyway, she was livid.
"What in the blazes hell are you doing finger? You some sort of faggot?.....thinking fast, I said "Yeah mom, I'm a rumpranger, a buttbuckaroo, fudgepacker, democrat....."
She threw herself off the loft and landed on Bartholomew the ewe, saving herself another nasty injury.....BUT....I never heard it again. I was finally free of my mothers insistance that I touch an icky girl...until I met Clarence the Carnival Barker, or Clarissa as her birth certificate states and had my little girl.....
This could work for you ya know....
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 4:18 PM |
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JesterDrawers
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WTF?!?!?!?!?!?!?! 
 I'm dyin' here!!!!!! Somebody hand be a bath towel so I can dry my eyes!!!!!!!
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| Mar 18, 2007 @ 4:33 PM |
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sensualrenegade
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lol.
Well see, my mom's the most prejudice person i've ever met in my life.
And i actually AM bisexual and they've had suspicions most my life.
I think my mom would shoot herself if she knew one of her kids was queer (thing is, i'm pretty sure my bro is bi too). And i don't want my mom to be sad. I love my mommy!
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