| Mar 19, 2007 @ 1:58 AM |
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jwphantom
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I emailed a woman who was so into respect, integrity and honesty in her profile and emails. We finally arranged to meet for dinner and I gave her my phone number "in case something happens and you can't make it".
How amazing that I show up at the restaurant early to get a table, and I wait and wait and wait. Never shows up, never calls, I get home and check email and nothing. Now just how much honesty and respect is that?
What's even more amazing is other women do the same or other kinds of disrespectful treatments of a guy who is just an average Joe but still wants a relationship that will last Are there really any more women out there who aren't just looking for money or a Brad Pitt twin? I'm starting to think they're all gone.
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 2:08 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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Yeah there are those of us here .. but alot of us have been treated the same way you were... makes us kinda gun shy yanno?? its SOOOO not a one way street BOTH sexes pull this stuff..
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 8:45 AM |
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truegent65000
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Yeah, I had a situation where a woman I met online who is actually local in this small town, pretty rare to find someone my age that's single and unattached.
Anyways, she worked at the local hospital, I got a pretty good reply from her, and she even provided her work email to continue emailing her there, because apparently, doesn't go to the dating site all that much.
Well, I emailed her at work, didn't get a response back, I waited about 4 or 5 days to follow-up to see if she got it, she did reply back, but was kind of short with me in the email. By the way, her email sig had her contact information cell phone and work phone, and the address of her work place....go figure.
I then decided to reply back to her, but through the dating site that she "Rarely" goes on, because over there, you can see what she did with the email after she read it, (ie -delete it right way, etc)
Well she "read deleted" it without replying. I was able to IM her because she was signed on "live", and she accepted the IM. And I asked, "Hey, how's it going"
She then started to bring out her excuse Rolodex...so I launched her and moved on. Personally, I think she found someone "better".
I also had a situation where I met a woman in person in a hiking group, got her number, called her, set up a date, even called her the day before to arrange a time....and she doesn't show up (by the way, she's 40, go figure).
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 8:57 AM |
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dooney123
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(by the way, she's 40, go figure).
What's that got to do with anything?
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 9:01 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Well Dooney, you know how those youngsters are...
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 9:02 AM |
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MarysPlace
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Well she "read deleted" it without replying. I was able to IM her because she was signed on "live", and she accepted the IM. And I asked, "Hey, how's it going"
Truegent, this is the second time you post about people who don't email you back and that you continuously "follow up" after that.
If a woman reads and deletes, the message is quite clear, she doesn't want to talk to you for whatever reason. Take the hint and stop "following up" on people. She may have indeed found someone else, NOT "better", just someone that she liked more. She may have not liked you. That's OK because no everyone can like us. Or she simply may not have been in the mood for dating.
If someone sends a signal that they won't talk to you, just drop it. You'll feel much better, trust me.
I emailed a woman who was so into respect, integrity and honesty in her profile and emails. We finally arranged to meet for dinner and I gave her my phone number "in case something happens and you can't make it".
Those that make a point of going on and on about "respect" and "integrity" in their profiles usually have no clue that they have to give it to receive it. Quite the red flag, actually...
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 10:36 AM |
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jwphantom
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Those that make a point of going on and on about "respect" and "integrity" in their profiles usually have no clue that they have to give it to receive it. Quite the red flag, actually...
Good point. I suppose I didn't word this exactly correctly though. She didn't go "on and on" about it, but what she did say was it was very highly important to her. That was what I meant by "she was so into" those traits. Nevertheless, a two minute call saying she had changed her mind would have been better than being stood up.
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 10:39 AM |
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Shortiaintlying
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Those that make a point of going on and on about "respect" and "integrity" in their profiles usually have no clue that they have to give it to receive it. Quite the red flag, actually... 
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 10:46 AM |
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everrett
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OMG!!!!!
I thought hell would freeze over before I agreed with EVERYTHING in on of Mary's posts. Credit where credit is do... Well said.
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 10:54 AM |
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sciurusniger
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Damn. So THAT'S why it's been snowing here all morning!
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 10:57 AM |
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everrett
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I always knew you were a little devil
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 11:35 AM |
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IndigoRose
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Yep lots of whackjobs around...I met a couple in person scared me so bad I decided to never do THAT again never!...then fuzzy came along not sure how or when he got my number or how long we talked... I kept making excuses not to meet him and damn he turned out to be quiet "normal"
Thanks for being normal fuzzy!!!!
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 1:05 PM |
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twotall911
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fuzzy 
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| Mar 19, 2007 @ 1:23 PM |
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MarysPlace
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OMG!!!!!
I thought hell would freeze over before I agreed with EVERYTHING in on of Mary's posts. Credit where credit is do... Well said.
I do what I can to fight global warming. :D
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| Mar 20, 2007 @ 5:25 PM |
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FatBlackButUnderendowed
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I've always liked Abe Lincoln's saying "Those who expect nothing, shall not be disappointed". I'm a really fat black tub of goo.. it's not like there are lots of chicks out there SEARCHING for that hard to find fat black guy wandering around out there. I'm what ultimately everyone is trying to avoid.. and that includes black women who are fat black tubs of goo themselves. Sure... it is fun and funny to "follow up" on e-mails and try to apply a legalistic or contractual analysis of someone's intentions on a dating website but as MarysPlace says... you'll live a happier and longer life if you accept that people want what they want.. and RARELY can express this in words that will fit the reality. I'm all about respect for ME... I am a person concerned about high quality.. IN YOU.. I want someone who knows what he wants.. WHETHER I DO OR NOT! Hey you could spend months and years peeling back the layers and contradictions but to what end? At some point you're just not what they want and you can't really change that... except with a really nifty speedy porsche or a ton of money.. thank God for lottery tickets.. come on baby come through for daddy!!! 
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| Mar 20, 2007 @ 5:55 PM |
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IndigoRose
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^^^Whoa deep read..but then again I drank my lunch 
Most awesome troll ever ...actually scary you are a knowing troll.
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| Mar 20, 2007 @ 7:24 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Gaybird, I see you're back with yet another madeup persona. At least you aren't using the fat black dude to spew religious nonsense this time.
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| Mar 20, 2007 @ 8:56 PM |
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Rick27593
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I had a similar thing happen a couple weeks ago. I was on a dating site, talked to a girl that lived close to me. We got eachothers phone numbers in case we had a hard time and set up a little coffee date, which actually would have been my first date ever. Well, she didnt show, and I tried calling and left a polite message when there was no pickup, and did so again after about an hour of waiting, to say I wasnt going to be there anymore and to feel free to call back. I havent heard anything email or phone since. I guess thats life, she probably found someone better and took him.
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| Mar 20, 2007 @ 9:11 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Well, she didnt show, and I tried calling and left a polite message when there was no pickup, and did so again after about an hour of waiting, to say I wasnt going to be there anymore and to feel free to call back. I havent heard anything email or phone since. I guess thats life, she probably found someone better and took him.
For future reference:
Do NOT wait more than 15-20 mins unless the person calls to say they are late.
Do NOT call to see why they are not showing. It's them that are a no show, so it's their responsibility to call.
And for crying out loud do NOT call the second time as they didn't even deserve the first.
Do NOT talk to them ever again unless they call with a legit explanation. In that case everyone deserves a cautious benefit of the doubt and a second chance.
These have nothing to do with being nice and everything with NOT being a door mat.
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| Mar 20, 2007 @ 9:26 PM |
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Pete73052
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Also - go and have a good time by yourself. Treat yourself to dinner or whatever. Eating alone, BTW, is a great way to pick up girls. 
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