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Dec 3, 2005 @ 4:53 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
wandaful123


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To each his own Alec, if winks work for you.. work 'em. Personally I enjoy both sending and recieving them. Fun way to say hi. I even send them at times to people I am corresponding with just to show, I see you or am thinking about you.

Back to Motown
At least "this" part of Internet dating should not be rocket science, people....please? (lol)
Nice to be back on the same page (she sighed with relief)

[Edited on 12/3/2005 4:53 PM]
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 4:54 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
zestful


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It is hard enough to check out the ones that take the time to write!


Why do you think men just wink at you then? Why should a man waste alot of time writing to a woman that may not show interest in return?
Not all people are serious,true,but many are.There is no way to tell until you know more about them.
Personally I dont wink or send mail to anyone,this is only an advertisement for ourselves.If someone likes what they see,they can contact you one of two ways on here.
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 5:05 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
Alectryon


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To each his own Alec, if winks work for you.. work 'em.

Well I'm glad I'm not the only one. As I said I'm new to the site so I'm just using what's available.
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 5:12 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
PatriciaSunshine


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Hi Guys, you have not run me off! Thanks to you guys for your replies... .seems like this has brought a lot of different thoughts on this subject.

While I agree with some of you, I would hope that you guys are using winks for the right reasons. You have interest in more then just the pic you saw and that you hope to get a reply back.

With that I wish all of you the best of luck in your search and in your winks!
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 5:16 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
star131303


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I seriously would never intentionally be rude to you Alectryon, really.

I am just being honest about how I respond to winks. I do check out some, just for the most part, I really don't think men usually read my profile.

Even when they write to me it seems that they have no clue about me usually.

I have a huge section about my kids, and do you know how many guys were shocked when I told them that I had any?
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 5:18 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
spongebob777


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do you know how many guys were shocked when I told them that I had any?



3 isn't bad, my ex wife had 3 boys and the girlfried that came after had two boys and a girl.
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 5:19 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
Angel54214


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The wink! The art of body language...Does anyone who does not have a photo get winks?
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 5:27 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
zestful


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Does anyone who does not have a photo get winks?

Now thats a darn good question Angel.

I have a huge section about my kids, and do you know how many guys were shocked when I told them that I had any?


I know what your talking about there,star.I had a nice,much younger gal contact me and we exchanged email for a bit and while chatting one day I told her I had to leave and go pull my daughter out of the ditch.She says...You have kids?
Duh
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 5:29 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
skinnybarncat


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...Does anyone who does not have a photo get winks?


a shallow wink?...as opposed to one sent after carefully considering the complete profile, the deep wink?

now , we need another category of winks!
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 5:40 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
Alectryon


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Star wrote: I seriously would never intentionally be rude to you..

I took no offence, I assure you, Star. I'm not easily offended. It comes from living on a pissant island where sarcasm and irony are an everyday part of conversation.

I really don't think men usually read my profile.

I'm genuinely sorry to hear that, but not overly surprised.
IME people are inherently lazy, regardless of their gender and if they think they can get a result with no effort will do so, often unthinkingly. Which may partially explain why some people are on these sites for years. Personally, I'm here to have some fun, chat to interesting people and hopefully meet someone, to use that corney phrase, is a 'bit special' and feels the same way about me. And I'm fully prepared to put the effort in to bring that about. But I'm well aware that many are not.

I have a huge section about my kids, and do you know how many guys were shocked when I told them that I had any?

LOL! Tell me about it! If it's any consolation I'm associated with several sites (not dating) and I've lost count of the number of times I've written to people to tactfully ask then to RTFM! I don't think this is just an online thing; plenty of people offline don't bother to read what's staring them in the face and then complain when you point it out to them. Doh! as you say over there.

Then of course there's the fact that just as many people see and read only what they want to see and read and disregard the rest. Hence the reason a lot of us are on here at all. We've all been with people we thought we loved, or who thought they loved us, when, in reality they were simply in love with an idealization of their own dreams and wishes.

So...to get back OT; 'winks: do they mean anything?' I'd say everything and nothing...
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 5:42 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
Angel54214


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now , we need another category of winks!


Aww barncat, you shouldn't be so shy now....
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:20 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
MotownManiax


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Btw, welcome to the forums, Alec!

Women get many more views, winks, and emails than men. Good looking women get a ton more. This isn’t conjecture, but fact. For women to answer every wink and email they get, even if it’s just a one-line acknowledgment, is rather time consuming and impractical.

Also, some that wink or email don’t know when to quit. Even if they get a reply saying no interest they use it as a go ahead to keep bothering the contact.

Alec, it’s very commendable that you reply to everyone but it’s certainly not required. My feeling is no one is obligated to do anything on these sites because as individuals we're in ultimate control of who we contact and reply to. Nobody should take that away.

For all that feel offended that they didn’t receive anything back after initial contact (or any contact for that matter), please, get over it.
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:27 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
waiting41


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Well said, Motown, and thanks. I rarely if EVER reply to even a letter let alone a wink. I'm not obligated to anyone here and really don't care what they think. Besides to answer even a 10th of the enless mail I receive daily from my admirerers would force me to give up my entire life.
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:30 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
MotownManiax


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Well, Miss 50 emails a day, I knew YOU didn't have the time to write all those replies.
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:49 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
zestful


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No one is obligated here to do anything,that is true, but those that dont do anything but ignore when someone else is trying to make a friend by taking the time to write out a request for friendship are just in the game players category.They should stay on the paysites.
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 9:15 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
Alectryon


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Motown wrote: welcome to the forums, Alec!

You're the first 'official' welcome I've had so that's appreciated.

I take your comments on board too. I've not been on that many dating sites but I have done my research and I'm not unaware of the attention women get as opposed to guys. In fact I got here via edatereview.com, which I can highly recommend as it carries literally hundreds of reviews from real users on all the major dating sites. It was an eye-opener to say the least. If anyone hasn't visited it I suggest they do. It could save you a lot of time, money and heartache.

Waiting41 wrote: I rarely if EVER reply to even a letter let alone a wink.

I find that incomprehensible; It seems tatamount to shooting oneself in the foot to me. Winks are one thing, but not to reply to a letter someone may have spent several hours writing is just plain rude in my book. Blame my upbringing or age, or different culture in the UK, but it's just not something I could do. But I agree that it's every individual's choice and right. Ultimately, it could also be their loss too as they might be excluding the very person they'd most like to meet. Unless, of course they're so naive or arrogant as to think that if they haven't spotted the right person themselves there's no way they will spot them...

[Edited on 12/3/2005 9:17 PM]
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 9:22 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
MotownManiax


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now , we need another category of winks!


Skinny, you're in a whoooole 'nuther category, my friend.
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 9:30 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
zestful


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Alectryon
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 9:38 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
Alectryon


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Zestful

Ya'll welcome. We aint pU55y-whopped over hyar. Well, not yet anyway.
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Dec 3, 2005 @ 9:48 PM Winks...Do They Mean Anything?    
Pete73052


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I think, pretty much, the consensus here is that women get a lot of attention on dating sites and generally don't/can't respond to every (or any) wink. And really, winks are for the net-casting approach - you can sit down and send 50 winks a night and get one or two responses back. It's shallow fishing.

Someone who has spent an hour writing a girl a letter, after having READ her profile (and who actually matches her criteria), will in all likelyhood get a response - unless, of course, he spent an hour writing a dumbass letter that points out what a dumbass he is. Thoughtful, detailed letters get responses. A wink is like a wolf-whistle - if you see someone you really think you can click with, take the time to write. It absolutely works much better than a wink.
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