| Mar 29, 2007 @ 10:18 AM |
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truegent65000
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I was reading the "Why do women ignore emails" thread, and when I was reading some of the threads of what the women stated. How they complained about men emailing them with polite emails, but with sexual innuendos attached, or some men who just made sexual/flirtaceous comments.
It made me wonder how hypocritical that is.
I mean, if you're going to show off your cleavage or make seductive "Marilyn Monroe-like poses" making "Kissy Faces" to the camera, there was this one picture of a woman who actually made the effort to take a webcam photo of her showing off her legs, laying sprawled out on the bed, with her skirt hiked up, sitting on the computer chair, and putting her feet on the bed.
Then to whine about it in the forums? Come on ladies, you're asking for it! In fact, you enjoy the attention you get (esp. from the comments underneath your photos)
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 10:23 AM |
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skinupbitch
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i don`t have a pic on my profile but still get emails with things like "do you like cock" and worse. i don`t think i`m "asking for it"
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 10:58 AM |
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spongebob777
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To tell you the truth Gent, I think your photo suggests that you're looking to attract soccer moms. 
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 12:05 PM |
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MarysPlace
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To tell you the truth Gent, I think your photo suggests that you're looking to attract soccer moms.
But he didn't post how many moms, children and soccer balls he can fit in his mini van.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 12:25 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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yeah, here's the thing.
if a woman wears a low-cut shirt to work or anywhere for that matter, a man can't go up to her and say "nice tits".
i can take cleavage shots if i want. it's the top half of my breasts. i don't think it's sexual and i took them because all my pictures were beginning to look alike.
however, there's something called manners, which i believe a lot of people are missing.
if a man can't control himself when he sees a woman's picture that looks like mine, or a woman can't control herself when she sees a man's picture where he's got no shirt, i kind of laugh at that.
and don't tell people what they are asking for, or what they enjoy. all it sounds like is you trying to make excuses for you to go and talk this way to women.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 12:48 PM |
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DiamondRain
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The psychology of this is pretty straightforward...
I'll put it in the context of women since women are what the OP is talking about. Men have their own issues.
Some women crave attention. They will try to get that attention any way they can. Wearing clothing or posting photos that emphasizes their bodies, is a sure way to get that attention because most men are instinctually attracted to female sexual parts whether they find the woman attractive in an overall sense or not: it's simply genetic.
For a woman, emphasizing your body parts in your pic, or making sexual gestures is a sure way to get a guys attention.
And, for women who consciously or unconsciously, take advantage of this, it doesn't matter whether the attention is "positive" or "negative." Just like to a child -- or a dog -- attention is attention, they will take it any way they can get it. It's human (and dog too!) nature. "Negative" attention beats being ignored.
Of course you have to define "negative" attention. Some women clearly love the lewd comments men make when they post pics like that even though they protest. Attention is attention is attention.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 12:55 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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What if you really don't want attention
What if you just like the way your pictures look, so you post them and don't care what other people say about them
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 12:59 PM |
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DiamondRain
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I'd say that if someone really doesn't want attention, they wouldn't be on this site at all.
That's not realistic. Everyone wants attention to one degree or another. It's a matter of degree and what you are willing to do to obtain it.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 1:00 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I want the attention you speak of from my girlfriend.
I want attention from the rest of you because of what I say and how I express myself. I don't need attention from the rest of the men on this site and I don't see revealing 3/4 of my breasts as asking for that.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 1:02 PM |
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DiamondRain
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I believe that you are not being completely honest with yourself.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 1:05 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I believe you don't have the right to speak about that.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 1:08 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Sure I do. This is a place where everyone has the right to express their opinion on comments made by others.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 1:10 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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sure, i suppose you could form an opinion based off "knowing" me over a dating website for a few months
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 1:19 PM |
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julia143
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A dating site where you "advertise" yourself - imagine that.
I think most of us know that a provocative picture attracts more viewers than a "homely" one. And so in turn, we seek attention ...yes....but those provocative pictures do not reflect "who" we truly are. It's the first phase of being noticed. People want to be noticed......this is what it's all about on this site. If I wanted to be a wall-flower and be unnoticed...I would not be on a dating site.
I even see men posting nice cars or bikes - to get noticed?
Or men with no shirt on -thinking they will get noticed.
Or men with their dogs - everyone knows women are suckers for cute things 
So what, we pose to get noticed...it does not reflect on my personality...or does it?  Smoldering eyes in a photo does not mean I want to jump the sack with the first person that emails me. It just means that I "could" feel sexy with the person I am actually seeking...
But what do I know....I'm just a casual photo gal! 
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 1:41 PM |
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DiamondRain
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I think the psychology for men and women on this subject is similar in some respects and different in others.
In my own case, I welcome and enjoy any attention I get from women on my pics. I don't see what is so difficult about acknowledging that.
Exactly Julia. Being noticed is why one comes to a site like this. Why all the coyness?
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 1:56 PM |
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MarysPlace
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I want the attention you speak of from my girlfriend.
I want attention from the rest of you because of what I say and how I express myself. I don't need attention from the rest of the men on this site and I don't see revealing 3/4 of my breasts as asking for that.
Look, here's the deal... All your pics are very similar -- you're pouting, you're wearing little to no clothes (not that you're showing anything, but it's kinda obvious), all these pics are sexually suggestive. ALL of them.
So when someone looks at your profile and sees all that, first thing they think is "this girl wants to get laid". Because they perceive that to be your message or rather invitation, they are gonna respond to the perceived invitation by sending sexual messages.
That's the way it works. That IS what is on the pics. People cannot know that you want something else cuz it ain't what you're showing.
If indeed you want something else, you could always post pics where you are dressed, not pouting, just plain old smiling and not showing any cleavage or anything else.
It is your call.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 2:26 PM |
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FunkyMonkey68
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I don't think that posting a sexy picture is asking for "it". To me, that is like saying.. a girl on the beach in a bikini is asking for "it".. I have seen pics of men on here with their shirts open or looking provocative, that doesn't make me want to "screw" them, or even ask if they want to.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 2:41 PM |
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DiamondRain
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I have to agree. I don't think posting provocative pics is necessarily an indication that someone is sexually permissive. I do, however, think it's obvious that some people interpret it to mean that.
So, if you know that some people will interpret it that way, and you post them anyway, why should you be surprised if you get such comments and reactions?
It's a big yawn. Complaining about it is just another way to get even more attention.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 2:47 PM |
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MarysPlace
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I don't think that posting a sexy picture is asking for "it". To me, that is like saying.. a girl on the beach in a bikini is asking for "it".. I have seen pics of men on here with their shirts open or looking provocative, that doesn't make me want to "screw" them, or even ask if they want to.
In the case of a dating site, I think it is. You have to mind the context. A girl on the beach is a totally different context.
On a dating site you're presenting yourself and your preferences. Advertising yourself if you will. What you post in your profile is the first impression and everything that a person that chooses to contact you has to go on.
I didn't say that it is alright to immediately ask a person if they want to screw, all I said is that posting provocative pics makes certain people think it is OK to do so because that is what the profile advertises.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 3:01 PM |
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swingpup
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Asking someone in a first time e-mail if they simply desire to screw is simply rude, crude and of course absolutely disrespectful. The gal that received the "do you like cock"  message has indicated she didn't have ANY pictures posted. It's not her fault that she was disrespected.
Looking at beautiful women that in fact desired doing nuddies, semi nudes or pictures where conservatives feel they may be exposing to much certainly doesn't indicate that they desire sex from everyone or everyone that may view their pictures.
There is artistic value in a naked body, how any individual perceive those pictures is that of the viewer(s).
What such pictures indicate IMO is that they....the poster, are most likely comfortable with their body as well as comfortable with who they are. Further, they are indicating more then likely they possess liberal tendencies as well as views and that they are open, fun as well as refreshing. 
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