| Mar 30, 2007 @ 2:32 PM |
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truegent65000
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Are women offended by a man who attempt to ask if you're taken or married? I heard from some people that when you're making small talk with a woman in public, and you are wondering if she's taken or not, just "to make sure", some people say it's a really BAD move to ask, "Are you married?" or "Do you have a boyfriend?"
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 2:34 PM |
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Blondino
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I am not offended ... I have nothing to hide 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 2:34 PM |
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luvmycats
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Its never bothered me, and I have kicked myself a few times for not asking the question myself. 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 2:43 PM |
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truegent65000
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I was at this Deli, waiting on my number to be called, staring at the meat. Then this pretty woman takes the number right after me.
It was a long wait and so, I decided to say, "Man, looks like we have a long wait."
And she said, "Yeah, I have never seen the line this long before"
And I said, "You need to get here pretty early in the morning sometimes if you want to get ahead in line"
She was a very pleasant woman, and I asked her how long she lived here, and she said she moved up from such and such town about a couple of years ago. Anyways, we were gettin ginto the conversation.
And, later, I asked her if she was married, and she said, "Well, I'm about to be this June" and I said, "Cool, going to be a big or small wedding"
ANd she went into that....
Anyhow, apparentl some idiots thought I was being too personal with the question "Are you married" that it was really creepy that I said that ,and I asked too many personal questions.
Some responses were from women who found this offensive....apparently there are women out there that despise men approaching them in public, EVEN if they are unattached. Honestly, some of those women have issues.
Perhaps that's a whole new post, but apparently, there's no way to approach women without you ever offending them or turning them off. lol.
At least, that's the popular opinion of other people on other dating sites.
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 2:43 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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no...quite the opposite. 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 2:53 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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women who get upset over a question like that?? yeah issues there .. would they rather be attached and have some guy hitting on them?? or unattached and the guy not even trying because she MIGHT be married?? me ? ask away at least then I would be able to semi tell if he was interested .. at least that is how I would view the question yanno?? 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 2:59 PM |
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Blondino
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now when a man in a line asks how much you earn .. your age and your weight ... then I say .... whats with the interogation 
(certain things we dont disclose )
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 2:59 PM |
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Blondino
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 3:00 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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"Renae, how much do you earn?" Me: Nothing
"Renae, how much do you weigh?" Me: Lots more than I earn
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 3:01 PM |
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FunkyMonkey68
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It doesn't seem like it should be offending, I would want to know. 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 3:08 PM |
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Luisa909
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Yes I am and I happy to be !! 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 4:49 PM |
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lynnielou
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Never offended me!
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 5:02 PM |
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twicethecharm
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Depending on the context of the conversation, it's not necessarily offensive, but it could be a little disconcerting.
As in, you're having a nice, friendly conversation that you think is just that, friendly, and a bald "Are you married?" question makes you wonder if the guy thinks you're flirting instead of just being friendly.
I think there are easier ways to work it into conversation, either from my end as a woman (mentioning something about a husband, if I had one) or from the man's side, by asking a question that includes 'husband' or 'boyfriend.' That way, you get an answer without having to leave that "Are you married?" hanging out there.
Sometimes, subtle is good.
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 5:30 PM |
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blueyes101
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I made this post once before but this seems a good place to bring it up again.....How many of you ladies ( or your friends ) wear a ring on your ring finger to keep ( a**holes ) away. I don't got out to the bar as much as I used to, so this was my experience years ago, just curious if this practice is still used or not........Because any nice, normal, decent man would avoid flirting with you, if they saw a ring on your finger......And, a married/single a**hole will find it a challenge....We have had a few threads discussing mixed signals, I just thought this is another example.
And a side note, do any of you still wear your old wedding ring? or Grandmas ring or what ever on your ring finger, if you are single and looking, and why would you do that?
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 5:32 PM |
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truegent65000
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Actually, I found out the hard way that subtle is not good.
There was a woman a couple of years back, that I met in church, we used to talk on the phone a few times back and forth, and we got on the subject of the clean-up after the Hurricane.
Well, she said she'd hurt her back, and was kind of limited in trying do the clean-up, then I asked, "Well, I guess your boyfriend probably helped you out, right?"
And there was this long pause on the phone....and she says, "Truegent, you're fishing."
As if she was actually offended. And I said, "What do you mean?" Then, believe it or not, she said, "I gotta go, Truegent, have a good evening."
I was like "Um...okay....bye?" Then we hung up.
Apparently "Fishing" showed no backbone, while being forward shows confidence, at least in her case.
But different strokes for different folks...sorry, but I know I did nothing wrong, but she was seriously put off by it. I figured "well, screw you then....good-bye."
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 5:34 PM |
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SunBabe
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 It would NEVER upset me to be asked. Why? To me, it's a question that can help set the tone and direction of a conversation.
Then again, I talk to everybody and anybody, especially when waiting in lines. 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 5:34 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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hmm well when I do wear a ring it goes on my ring finger, just because that is the most comfortable place for it.. that and another reason ...SUPPOSEDLY wearing a ring on your ring finger will help you loose weight   and after breaking up with someone I never wore a ring given to me by them on my ring finger ...
lately that finger is for my amethysts and silver 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 5:40 PM |
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daisy315
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never bothered me..and I do ask men I meet if they are married.. 'specially the younger ones.. I'm trying to find a husband for my niece...I am tired of taking care of her...
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 5:44 PM |
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blueyes101
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How old is she daisy? 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 5:56 PM |
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VaPeppermintPatti
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I've never been afeared of replying to the "are you married" question. Nothing wrong with being up front when you are involved and definitely not looking.
blueeyes...I will admit that during certain times of my "single again" status that I've worn a ring that looks like a wedding band and one of my engagement rings. I have done so to stop men from bothering me and I've worn it on job interviews as it appears that a married woman looking for work seems to be less threatening than the "ut oh middle-aged divorced woman" that might be on the prowl in the workplace. Know what I mean?
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