| Apr 2, 2007 @ 1:33 AM |
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arrow1260
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hi... i'm new here, and normally don't seek advice on these sort of things, but wanted to hear some other opinions this time. I will try to keep this short.
I have been getting my hair cut by this girl for a year. I used to go in there with my girlfriend, but I broke up with my girlfriend about 6 months ago, and I have continued going to get my haircut, only alone. But I think my ex might still go there on occasion. MIGHT. So, this may be an issue. It has been my understanding that sometimes girls have an issue with situations like these.
On to the girl. We have excellent chemistry and there is never a dry moment. Getting my haircut is no longer just getting my hair cut, it's... an experience. We talk, what normally would take 15 minutes to do takes 30, etc etc. She tells me personal things, vice versa. Sometimes she makes hints at doing things together, although quite sublte and jokingly. I do the same. I think if there wern't other factors, i would say that she shares the same interest that I do. We flirt a lot. She has been very complimentary of me on multiple occasions. But now i'm confused. Also, for all i know, she could be this way with all her male clients - she IS a very nice person, but... i'm pretty confident she isn't this way with them. But it's hard to know.
She has a best friend that is a guy. She used to date him, now they're just best friends. She doesn't talk about him a lot - I just know he exists. For example, a couple weekends ago, they went on a daytrip to the beach. However, whenever we do talk about him, without me prompting her, she openly assures me that he is just her friend and it would never work with them. Regardless, it still makes me wonder.
Then there is the slightly silly factor of how if i did ask her out or something, and she did reject me, i probably wouldn't get my haircut anymore there. And she does a really, really good job.
So, so much for keeping it short. I might be overthinking it all a little, but there is a lot to think about. So, any opinions anyone can offer would be great. Basically, I'm wondering whether or not I should pursue this.
Thanks in advance.
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| Apr 2, 2007 @ 1:44 AM |
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grumblebear
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Always remember to keep professional relations professional...
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| Apr 2, 2007 @ 2:03 AM |
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daisy315
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just ask her if she is interested in going out for a drink or a cup of coffee at Starbucks or something. If she's not interested.. no big deal... no need to find another stylist if she says no... (it's hard to find someone that cuts your hair the way you like it).. if she says yes.. just keep it simple to start off with.. don't worry bout the ex... doesn't sound like she's trying to hide anything.. 
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| Apr 2, 2007 @ 5:09 AM |
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dooney123
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I agree with Daisy.
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| Apr 2, 2007 @ 5:15 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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buuuuuuut if you do go out and things don' pan out QUICKLY find another stylist... aint nothing worse than a bad haircut 
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| Apr 2, 2007 @ 5:37 AM |
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twotall911
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oh i know that feeling
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| Apr 2, 2007 @ 5:49 AM |
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luvmycats
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JMUSHO
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| Apr 2, 2007 @ 5:52 AM |
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twotall911
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| Apr 2, 2007 @ 5:04 PM |
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Aries361
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If she cuts hair that well, why don't you just jump ahead of all the dating and go right to the marriage proposal? Just tell her that. And if it doesn't work you can just blame it on some bozo who gave you advise on the internet.
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| Apr 2, 2007 @ 5:06 PM |
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wiccked
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| Apr 2, 2007 @ 9:31 PM |
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grumblebear
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Never date the help.... a good stylist is much more important than a passing romantic liason...
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| Apr 3, 2007 @ 1:05 AM |
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buni
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Just say "Hey, would you like to go(insert what you wanna go do such as coffee, lunch, movies etc here) with me on one of your free days?", or something along that line...dont say hey you wanna go on a date....that way you can see how she reacts and take it from there....
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| Apr 3, 2007 @ 1:10 AM |
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IndigoRose
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Send her flowers  Say something like you were not so sure about the last cut but it's growing on you! ...and so is SHE!
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| Apr 3, 2007 @ 1:38 AM |
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arrow1260
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hahaha, thats actually pretty good. i was halfway thinking about sending her flowers, because she did tell me something pretty serious last time, which is really bad news for her - so i was hoping to kill two birds with one stone - give her a moment of happiness and a set-up to ask her out. but then i decided this may be overkill/too serious.
i don't know why i'm thinking about this all so much.
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| Apr 3, 2007 @ 1:42 AM |
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Always_Striving
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Maybe she is only talking to you to try and get tip money. See how she reacts to you if you don't tip her any more, her true hair colors will show.
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| Apr 3, 2007 @ 11:48 AM |
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trailviews
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Sometimes she makes hints at doing things together, although quite sublte and jokingly. I do the same. I think if there wern't other factors, i would say that she shares the same interest that I do. Well, she's apparently made it very clear to you that she's available. If you have similar interests (assuming it's an activity, and not that you just like the same music), next time one of those common interests comes up ask her to meet you to do it. If she brushes it off, gives you a non-response, etc., you'll know that she's just being friendly.
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| Apr 3, 2007 @ 2:33 PM |
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grumblebear
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Any Professional Service Job person knows to play a good social game. Do not make a fool of yourself, and do not destroy a good professional relationship...
get out of your fantasy... she is a friendly barber... Men who cut hair talk, swap baseball stories etc... It is taught in Barber school... it is a skill developed to increase tips....
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| Apr 4, 2007 @ 1:48 AM |
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arrow1260
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i'm aware of this and always stick with this. but i'm confused at this point. she was quiet at first and sometimes when i'm early, she's quiet with other clients as well, male or female. i also believe that friendly is one thing. being friendly and revealing personal information as well is another. you don't have to go THAT far to get tips. i suppose it is a possibility though - i guess thats something that throws me off as well.
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| Apr 4, 2007 @ 2:01 AM |
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grumblebear
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a friend of mine is a barber/stylist, and Tammy makes a good living, has many repeat customers, but part of the job is sales... she has had to get restraining orders against several former clients who didn't understand she was just being friendly, and has no interest in men, (She's gay)....
Your situation reminds me of nurses, waitresses, bartender's etc... Service people get hit on by every guy... if you have to know... go ahead and ask, but be ready to find a new barber
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| Apr 4, 2007 @ 6:47 AM |
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Aries361
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It's not going to hurt that much just to ask.
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