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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:05 PM |
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PatriciaSunshine
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Girls and Guys,
Help me out here, do you ever feel like some just are so desperate when they send those emails. How can you tell me "oh you are the one" "I have found my dream" when we have not even talked, all you have done is send me that first email. Love and Kisses as a closing also scares me a bit on that first mail. This is the internet, their are some weirdos out here. Am I just nuts, or does this bother some of you? 
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:09 PM |
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spongebob777
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Love mentioned in the first or even fith e-mail sounds like trouble to me.
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:12 PM |
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Alectryon
Posts: 145
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Well, if that was a first email I'd say run far and run fast. No, it's not normal. It's either another needy, walking train wreck or some idiot who thinks that coming on like that turns women on. All the women I know would either laugh or kick the dozy twat in the balls.
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:13 PM |
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waiting41
Posts: 1,926
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You aren't nuts!! There are many reasons for this and desperation is one of them. Some people also mistake infatuation for true love. I always say "if something doesn't feel right, it's because it isn't!". Trust your instincts! 
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:15 PM |
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skinnybarncat
Posts: 381
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Love mentioned in the first or even fith e-mail sounds like trouble to me.
Falling in love through mail is suspicious!
"loving" some your qualities is different...
be careful... 
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:22 PM |
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MotownManiax
Posts: 9,737
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Run as fast as you can when you get those kinds of emails, Patricia. These people obviously are immature when it comes to relationships.
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:30 PM |
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Angel54214
Posts: 18,199
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Falling in love through mail is suspicious!
"loving" some your qualities is different...
Is that like saying, I like your photo and love how you brush your eyebrows...  I just making funnies...
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:40 PM |
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waiting41
Posts: 1,926
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"BRUSH" your eyebrows?? that's a scary thought!
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 11:13 PM |
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ladyfromthesouth
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Yeah I just got another of those eamils. Get'em all the time. This one went on and on about how he wished I was by his side....yada yada....he even gave me is phone number and he said he will wait for my phone call.....needless to say he is going to be waiting for a while.
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 11:19 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
Posts: 1,401
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I think it's possible to fall in love without meeting. It is superficial to think otherwise. However, to tell someone you love them in an intro letter to you is slightly far fetched I think. I think either that person is just so lonely that he/she may think that they love you or they are just thinking with something other than their heads.
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| Dec 4, 2005 @ 4:14 AM |
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summersquall
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I think it's possible to fall in love without meeting.
I think at that point you are falling in love with a perception and not necessarily a real person. You may feel a great deal of attraction, discover you share common interests and morals but how can you really fall deeply in love without ever having met?
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| Dec 4, 2005 @ 10:21 AM |
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ahnyceleven
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I agree...I don't like that immediate love and kisses stuff. I think the very word love (and certainly the emotion and thrill of love) is cheapened by such an immediate and empty expression of it. That "XOXOXO" stuff also annoys me. (What really vexes me though, are the little yellow smileys and usually if a woman even thinks of using them or including them in anything I might even possibly have to read...well, that usually seals their fate with me...I mean, unless they have an outrageous body or intellect that draws me in irresistably...then I might let a few smileys slide). Back to the topic, though...love or deep emotion or even affection take time, energy, and genuine emotional investment. Immediately proclaiming "love" is a sign of immaturity and shallowness of emotion. I usually wait a few hours. Kidding, you goofy people, you.
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| Dec 4, 2005 @ 11:05 AM |
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skinnybarncat
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Falling in love through mail is suspicious!
"loving" some your qualities is different...
Is that like saying, I like your photo and love how you brush your eyebrows...
Yes and such things as ,"i love  your wit and charm, those beautiful eyes and hair, and your patience and tolerance, and appreciation for my clumsy efforts."
but, i can be superficial,  
shallow , and stupid, and prone to icongrandeousity, which offends the accepted social standards, and most that are not , so what do i know? ,,,,,,except what i feel.
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| Dec 4, 2005 @ 11:26 AM |
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ILLLOOK
Posts: 315
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Most of the post I have read make this guy sound weak and needy the other side of the coin is that he is smart and likes to play the numbers. Like the guy in the bar that uses the same line on every girl there. so his email could be spam sent to 100 women in the hopes that one is in need of hearing someone say they love them
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| Dec 4, 2005 @ 11:42 AM |
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Country_gurl2002
Posts: 24
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It freaks me out when they write and say you are the love of my life and I can't wait to start our life together...
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| Dec 4, 2005 @ 4:16 PM |
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exiled131
Posts: 1,808
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professing love in an email before actually meeting someone is a scary sign that someone may have some attachment issues. beware.
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| Dec 4, 2005 @ 5:38 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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In addition to the love at first email, you have the 'you're amazing' ones; incredibly detailed and totally over the top...you've gotta know they're using them as bait while they troll the internet dating ocean...
Truthfully, I find them more amusing than anything else though. Creative writing critiques can be fun too!
[Edited on 12/4/2005 5:39 PM]
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| Dec 4, 2005 @ 5:45 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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I don't know about love at first email but I do think it's possible to fall in love without meeting the person. I think in certain ways it's better cause it gets you past the whole falling in love with their appearance thing..Well, if you've never seen a pic of them it does. I don't know about the rest of it though but I do think the rest is possible. 
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| Dec 5, 2005 @ 5:30 AM |
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WAYleftofcenter
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I agree with all of you on a few things. For me its usually actually get to chatting with someone for oh, 2 days seems to be the barrier, and its I'm having feelings for you , blah blah blah. I honestly am so tired of typing.."Its not me you have feelings for, its the 'Idea' of me".
I'm just ME, plain & simple, and I dont know how to be otherwise. I have quite a few RL friends I met on the internet first & they can vouche that I am no different in either medium. It makes it so frustrating sometimes though, and I go through days when I feel like I shouldnt be myself, but I cant play games so it never happens.
BUT, I do agree with Taboo.....even if you have seen someones pic, I think it is possible to love someone you have never met in person. I'm NOT talking in a matter of weeks, but over alot of months, if you are chatting/messaging/talking on the phone you get to learn about each other without all of the physical nervousness and BS being in the way. I can learn to love people for who they are that way, I've done it with friends....
But I'm also jaded in one way, I don't believe in falling 'in-love' with someone, growing to love someone is what really counts. If you fall 'in' you can fall out, but if that love for them grows over time, then no matter what, even if down the line you aren't romantically involved, you can still be friends. Ask my ex's 
[Edited on 12/5/2005 5:31 AM]For my famous Typ-o's 
[Edited on 12/5/2005 5:32 AM]
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| Dec 5, 2005 @ 8:52 AM |
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Slinfear
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I'm one of the famous ex's, and I can vouch for the veracity of her statements.
We met on a phone-chat line in Phoenix, met each other, made a connection, and went from there.
We've been living together for 6 years now, even though we haven't been together as a couple in nearly 4. We are friends. We enjoy a lot of the same things...Same taste in music, same taste in funriture, wallpaper, etc.
Personally, I think if someone is confessing love in a first message, it should always be avoided, but, as was pointed out already by someone wiser than myself, it might just be bait sent to 100 or more different women, just to see who might fall for it...
I'd be finding the delete button as fast as possible, myself..
Jonathan
(MJ)
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