| Apr 14, 2007 @ 9:08 AM |
She apologized profusely
|
|
truegent65000
Posts: 209
|
This was a shocker.
There's this 40 year old woman, that's single. That, coincidentally....works at one of my favorite restaurants that I always like to go to....funny, turns out she had an ad on a website...lol...so I emailed her, and included in the email "Hey, do you work at the restaurant (such and such))
She replied yes....and we started talking and corresponding back and forth. I even introduce myself when I went to pick up dinner at the restaurant (she knew what I looked like from the pictures anyways).
Well, I later asked her out...but she kept giving me this "I'm too busy" line...but to keep in touch with her anyways.
Well, eventually she become non -responsive to my emails...and I was like 'fine, not going to bug her anymore.
Then....when I went to pick up my meal at the restaurant...she sees me and aplogizes deeply for her not getting back with me via email...that she's "not that kind of person' and she's truely sorry, that she has my email...but she'll reply
(she's yet o reply anyways, lol)
So what was up with that? She almost acted as if she commited a major crime..as if she actually felt bad.
|
|
  |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 9:14 AM |
She apologized profusely |
|
1stsignofspring
Posts: 17,992
|
Scenerio #1 Gent...she might be involved with someone and probably doesn't want to burn her bridges with you just in case it doesn't work out with whomever she is seeing right now.........Either way, it is kind of rude to not just be upfront about things....that is always much more appreciated I think... 
Scenerio #2....maybe she is bashful? 
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 9:59 AM |
She apologized profusely
|
|
JayBird747
Posts: 728
|
TG, this is sorta like the other thing with you raisin a fuss cause some gals profile fit what you wanted, so you figured she was obligated ta bear children fer ya. You got somethin goin on in yer head that makes ya think the laides owe you. They don't. Seems like, if you get a polite refusal, that ain't good enough.
When you went to where she worked, she pologized cause it was awkward fer her. Also, thets her job, dammit. She don't need no big scene goin on int the same place where she's tryin to make a living. Approaching her at work is a no-class thing ta do.  I hope you let her alone from now on. If ya don't, she will regret she ever met you (if she don't already)
TG, you jest can't strongarm a lady into likin ya. It just don't work. The first thing you need ta work on is makin them feel comfortable around ya. Right now, sounds like they feel intimidated and a little bit scared, and I don't blame them one bit.
All us folks here at MD know is yer side a the story which, more then likely, is skewed in yer favor. Even with that, sounds like yer bein very pushy at the very least. If ya wanna do better, ya need gotta change modis operandi (thems big words fer "yer way a doin things")
PS: That "apology" ya got was actually, "oh sheit! This guy is showin up at work now, how do I get rid a him without makin a scene?"
[Edited on 4/14/2007 10:01 AM]
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 10:00 AM |
She apologized profusely |
|
1stsignofspring
Posts: 17,992
|
Yep...maybe a new MO would work for ya! 
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 10:04 AM |
She apologized profusely
|
|
JayBird747
Posts: 728
|
TrueGent ain't no gent in my book.
Heck fire, it ain't that hard. Gals these days is pretty forgivin. You don't even have to chew with yer mouth closed.
Fer pete's sake, approachin some poor gal at her job, jest cause she didn't want to ber yer email buddy is ridiculous an uncalled for.
Bad form, dude
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 10:06 AM |
She apologized profusely |
|
1stsignofspring
Posts: 17,992
|
I'd be scared if some dude showed up at my job.....thinking he was stalking me! 
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 10:20 AM |
She apologized profusely
|
|
truegent65000
Posts: 209
|
PS: That "apology" ya got was actually, "oh sheit! This guy is showin up at work now, how do I get rid a him without makin a scene?"
I'd be scared if some dude showed up at my job.....thinking he was stalking me!
Actually, to clarify, I didn't show up at her workplace because I saw her ad, and decided to start going there.
That place had long been my "restaurant goin' turf" long before she even started working there.
Basically, I was there first, and intend on going there for a long time....long before she started work there.
I am a regular there. So thus...not "stalking her".
For the record, she encouraged me to say "hello". So I had her "Permission" to approach her.
So we already have a decent rapport
[Edited on 4/14/2007 10:31 AM]
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 10:32 AM |
She apologized profusely |
|
1stsignofspring
Posts: 17,992
|
ok...I'll give you that one gent....so then she's playing games....?
I wouldn't play anymore...
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 10:34 AM |
She apologized profusely
|
|
truegent65000
Posts: 209
|
ok...I'll give you that one gent....so then she's playing games....?
Who knows...lol...I was wondering why she went through all the trouble. If I weren't enlightened....I would almost swear she was still interested in me, after giving me that 3-minute speech as to how "sorry" she was for not having stayed in touch with me.
A speech like that could lead a man to think, "Hm, I guess she's still interested in me."
But, I know better than that. lol.
Jaybird...you copying and pasting my posts into your posts by mistake? 
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 10:37 AM |
She apologized profusely |
|
1stsignofspring
Posts: 17,992
|
She's not....trust me....I'm a woman!
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 10:48 AM |
She apologized profusely
|
|
JayBird747
Posts: 728
|
Actually, to clarify, I didn't show up at her workplace because I saw her ad, and decided to start going there.
That place had long been my "restaurant goin' turf" long before she even started working there.
Basically, I was there first, and intend on going there for a long time....long before she started work there.
I am a regular there. So thus...not "stalking her".
For the record, she encouraged me to say "hello". So I had her "Permission" to approach her.
So we already have a decent rapport Well... to quote my ole grapappy "That ole dog won't hunt"
Now we can argue all day bout why you went in there, and you can give me everythin from "I jest happed to be hungry fer them particular burgers" on up to "Oh, I eat there all the time, it ain't got nothin ta do with her" but it really don't matter no how. You can even get indignant bout it and go with "I'll eat there ever damn day if I wanna" And you can. It ain't no difference ta me. (Although I do feel sorry fer the poor gal who's jest tryin ta make a livin)
Are you entitled to eat there? Sure
Can you go an eat there ever day and make her miserable? Ah course
Is that bein a 1st class jerk? Damn right
Would she like ta poor that coffee pot right over yer arrogant fool head? You betcha
Take the hint if she ain't returnin yer emails. Stay outta the resterant where she works. Let her be.
Try ta have a little bit of class.
It all comes down ta what ya want. If you wanta to be thorn in the side of ever woman that crosses yer path, well, I can't stop ya. If ya want ta make this poor gals life miserable, there's not much she can do about it.
but don't do it...
Try to gain a morsel fo self respect. You'll feel better bout yerself.
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 10:51 AM |
She apologized profusely |
|
truegent65000
Posts: 209
|
Can you go an eat there ever day and make her miserable? Ah course
Is that bein a 1st class jerk? Damn right
Um...how am I making her miserable? Please explain, I'd love to hear this one. Because first of all...I call to pre-order and "pick-up" so I'm there for a total of 5 minutes.
You can't cause someone "M isery" just by being there...now I could understand if I kept trying to talk to her or get her attention all the time or spending long periods of time there...but no...not the case.
So, it's not stalking. So I will thus continue to go to said restaurant
[Edited on 4/14/2007 10:58 AM]
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 11:00 AM |
She apologized profusely
|
|
JayBird747
Posts: 728
|
Well, we can argue this one all day. Thers other places ta eat, but no one can stop ya from goin there if that's what ya wanna do.
She obviously wants a little space. Looks like you ain't inclined ta give it to her.
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 11:05 AM |
She apologized profusely |
|
truegent65000
Posts: 209
|
She obviously wants a little space. Looks like you ain't inclined ta give it to her.
I'm giving her space....doesn't mean I have to stop GOING to that restaurant in order to so.
I go to that place once a week or probably once every 2 weeks. Believe me, that's PLENTY of space.
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 11:35 AM |
She apologized profusely
|
|
1stsignofspring
Posts: 17,992
|
My father lives in Tavares.....there are lots of restaurants to go to... 
Where's your pride?
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 12:13 PM |
She apologized profusely |
|
truegent65000
Posts: 209
|
Where's your pride?
Who said I don't have pride? My former favorite restaurant closed down (my former restaurant)...so I found my replacement. :-)
I could go to the Villages Square, and hit on old ladies there. lol.
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 12:26 PM |
She apologized profusely
|
|
vicryder
Posts: 831
|
I think she apoligized so you would'nt stiff her on the tip. Sometimes the simplest answer is right answer.
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 12:31 PM |
She apologized profusely |
|
JayBird747
Posts: 728
|
Who said I don't have pride? My former favorite restaurant closed down (my former restaurant)...so I found my replacement. :-) Why even say that? Ain't nobody beleivin it. Go tell some 3rd grader, maybe ya can convince them.
I feel sorry for the poor gal jest tryin ta make a livin.
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 12:55 PM |
She apologized profusely
|
|
blueyes101
Posts: 12,080
|
Regardless of your intent, she feels awkward, and probably feels you invaded her space, ( yeah, I know, it's a restaurant, but personally...it's her space ) We all have a certain level of comfort, (and that can change, day to day, or just your mood at that moment), if someone upsets that level for any reason, people back off.......I truly think this is what happens to most folks on this site, if you get a reaction....................of say, oh no, he/she likes me.......and your mood for that moment/first impression......is you are not sure if you like them or not..........you are most likely to not respond, you may think........if I'm friendly, and I don't feel like they do, this could be awkward. I causes you to make a decision, and some folks may not be able to do that yet, or they make the wrong one.
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 14, 2007 @ 1:02 PM |
She apologized profusely |
|
1stsignofspring
Posts: 17,992
|
Why do you have to hit on anybody? You're not that hard up are ya?
Plenty of places to meet ladies...just give her some comfortable space...it's the gentlemanly thing to do....stop going there for a few months at least. 
So, True...I was reading the first thing you wrote...why didn't you talk to her before you knew she was on a dating site? You saw her in the restaurant, but then you emailed her when you saw she was dating.....kind of creepy to me...that tells me you had no interest in her until you knew she was online...?
You could have made your move when you were in the restaurant long before you knew she was online.....that would have been more appropriate in my mind...IMHO
|
| |
|
|
|
|