| Apr 22, 2007 @ 11:55 AM |
How do you remain faithful?
|
|
Dukums
Posts: 1,028
|
Ok I just looked at how big the "Cheating" thread was and figured it would be helpful to hear from people on how they guard their heart, mind, soul, ect. from being tempted to cheat? How do you remain faithful? What do you do yourself to keep your integrity? What have you done to work on yourself if you have ever fallen to the temptation of cheating?
|
|
  |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 11:57 AM |
How do you remain faithful? |
|
wiccked
Posts: 4,411
|
i dont put myself in the position to cheat- never have, never will- 
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 11:59 AM |
How do you remain faithful?
|
|
Dukums
Posts: 1,028
|
Ok explain how you do not put yourself in that position Wiccked
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 12:02 PM |
How do you remain faithful? |
|
Loreli
Posts: 20,318
|
First, be true to yourself
Second, if you want to have multiple partners, then don't get married.
Third, when you DO marry, take enough time to know what's in each other's hearts
Fourth, if love fails during a relationship, have enough consideration for yourself, your spouse, your family, to leave.
Don't hurt people.
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 12:14 PM |
How do you remain faithful?
|
|
wiccked
Posts: 4,411
|
when i was marriied, i had lots of friends- some of whom had husbands that would try to get a little out of line- when the wives were not looking- so, i would never be caught in a place that the wives were not present- made a definate point of that- i have been alone for almost three years and i see the world as it really is- why would i want to step back out into all the cheating and deception ???? i KNOW the kind of person I am- i just dont know all the rest- and am too old to go through all that b.s. again- so, i am now faithful to myself !!!!!   i dont have to work on keeping my integrity intact- either you have morals or you dont- its that simple- ....................my ad on here used to say i live my life by certain standards and they cannot be compromised- and i still live that way !!!! 
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 12:18 PM |
How do you remain faithful? |
|
jamminjerry
Posts: 3,780
|
because i am a very logical person , the initial post is a bit puzzling. in return may i ask "how does one breathe?" simply stated, "how does one do what is natural for what is expected for a human?" i like to think we have seperated ourselves from the other species by developing at least some social values. when i say "i do" or "i will" that means i will do everything i can to keep from reverting to my animal side. at 57 i am vain enuff to think i have accomplished this simple act, so far. LOL so, one remains faithful by saying "i do" and being a doer and not just a sayer. selah
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 12:19 PM |
How do you remain faithful?
|
|
Dukums
Posts: 1,028
|
I remember when I was married, I never counseled any lady without my wife in the same area, I had porn blockers on the computer and she only had the password, I made sure people saw us together and that we were affectionate in public, ect. These were the things I did to remain faithful.
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 12:31 PM |
How do you remain faithful? |
|
IndigoRose
Posts: 1,194
|
short and sweet don't fawk around!
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 12:34 PM |
How do you remain faithful?
|
|
jamminjerry
Posts: 3,780
|
speaking of short ansd sweet. 
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 12:37 PM |
How do you remain faithful? |
|
SwtnSynfll
Posts: 161
|
Being faithful is just who you are inside. Like Wicked said, you either have morals or you dont. If you are in a loving relationship you shouldn't have to keep yourself out of harms way. If you are in a bad relationship, communicate and fix it, or get out of it before you betray yourself and someone else.
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 12:41 PM |
How do you remain faithful?
|
|
Dukums
Posts: 1,028
|
Jerry, I would agree that who we are and our morality is a big part in it, however I also know that people are tempted, or fall, and so I was asking what people do to remain faithful, protect their morality, ect. Also was asking those that had fallen, what had they done to change since I do believe people can change, although not very often.
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 12:42 PM |
How do you remain faithful? |
|
painter007
Posts: 15,990
|
You have to first want to.........
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 12:58 PM |
How do you remain faithful?
|
|
theobono
Posts: 2,111
|
oh...i want to 
I think that it takes a strong committment. My model for this is my parents....married 45 years ...once ....to each other. They knew each other only 6 months before deciding to get married....Hears what I see that works for them....it's tested.... It takes teamwork....It takes putting the others interests in front of your own.... honesty....no matter how brutal....I takes trust but not only that.... not doing anything that is going to betray that trust....It takes a long term goal....It takes laughter...I takes having interests that are solely your own.....It takes acceptance for the others faults and helping them overcome there weakness' ...It takes not trying to change that person...loving who they are....not what you want them to be....It takes adaptability because through the years people change and so does the world.it takes a lot of little things but those are the main thing... little things like saying thank you and please.....bringing gifts for no reason....saying I love you even when you disagree.....
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 1:02 PM |
How do you remain faithful? |
|
Dukums
Posts: 1,028
|
Good post Theo!
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 1:02 PM |
How do you remain faithful?
|
|
painter007
Posts: 15,990
|
Very true.......people call me a dreamer when I say that same thing.....
Check out my blog this morning
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 1:04 PM |
How do you remain faithful? |
|
armswide0pen
Posts: 3,308
|
theo
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 1:18 PM |
How do you remain faithful?
|
|
MortisDruss
Posts: 1,123
|
I wear a belt, it helps me remember to keep my pants on.
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 1:33 PM |
How do you remain faithful? |
|
Blondino
Posts: 4,269
|
I have never been unfaithful in my life ....if I am with a man its because I want to be and you have to work at keeping romance alive .... I could not cheat as I think its just too hurtful to the other person and I dont like promiscuity ...
If I was unhappy I would leave before going elsewhere .... 
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 2:12 PM |
How do you remain faithful?
|
|
loisday
Posts: 1,333
|
How do I keep from jumping off of a cliff?
Oh, the beauly below. The crashing waves, the beautiful sandy beach, the sun glinting brightly across the water.
I remember the first step is fatal. It brings spiritual, mental, moral and at times physical death.
I choose life.
|
|
| |
|
| Apr 22, 2007 @ 2:28 PM |
How do you remain faithful? |
|
1stsignofspring
Posts: 16,199
|
By having a made up mind and keeping that standard of fidelity.....if you cheat it is because you choose to....it is never an accident.
|
| |
|
|
|
|