| May 3, 2007 @ 9:04 AM |
the saying is...love at first sight...but is it love, lust or desire....
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sthnhylander
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is love such a cheap commodity that one only loves for looks...how can it be love.?
..isn't love something earnt or achieved through sincere feelings of happiness, respect, honesty and togetherness
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| May 3, 2007 @ 9:46 AM |
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Loreli
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It's everything....
They can be the most gorgeous person, but there would be no attraction of any kind if their personality stunk.
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| May 3, 2007 @ 9:47 AM |
the saying is...love at first sight...but is it love, lust or desire....
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LipGlossQueen9
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there's no such thing as love at first sight.
it's lust, you see a person, you are immensely attracted to what you see, and you feel some sort of connection to their exterior.
my best friend and ex girlfriend once said about this subject.
"oh yeah. love at first sight. you're looking across the floor at a dance club and you see this beautiful man. he's perfect for you. but you don't know if this beautiful, perfect man enjoys burning chipmunks or molesting children in his spare time. so yeah, it's not love."
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| May 3, 2007 @ 10:15 AM |
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hopeforthetruth
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FROM THE BIBLE: 1Corinthians:
4;Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud;
5;Love is not ill mannered or selfish or irritable; Love does not keep a record of wrongs;
6; Love is not happy with evil,but is happy with the truth;
7; Love never gives up; and it's faith , hope and patience never fail.
13; Meanwhile these three remain: faith, hope and love; and the greatest of these is Love.
Love = is an intense feeling that something you "earn", from mutual understanding, mutual feelings for each other, so called soul mates, unconditional. Love at first sight, is an intense feelings, that some people can't understand or describe why the need and wants. If you are attracted to a person just for her/his body and not how she/he feels then it is a desire of lust not love. What we don't know, actually desiring, is a feeling of infatuation, because you crave for someone to touch/ to be with and you don't really know how the real feelings are until you have good communication and work out from there (that is why hence the word Earn). When you are involve to a person, the first impression you wish for is a desire to touch, there is something in communication that two people involve agreed upon, some the feelings are mutual, others it's not. One can never really know that person, whom you liked at first glance of meeting and end as a partner for a long time, bore children together with so called love, yes it is love. Then as the days, weeks, months or years go by, intense feeling at first met gradually decline for something has change your life not in order of personal physical delima, but there are other reasons why that feelings has change, for some it could be rebound feelings, even for how many years you've been together, others finances, others infidelity etc. The love you feel for each other, when you were together or when you first met still there, but it is not the feeling of need or want it is a feeling of, love of a friend. Unless you parted ways with hate then there is likely nothing you can say it's love.
You want to EARN LOVE then Respect, Unconditional, Trust and Honesty combine together it's called true LOVE......   
is true love exist??????????????????YES...........it does.........just find it harder..........  
Lastly but not the least, I want to thank you sthnhylander.....for opening this thread I hope it will last longer........ 
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| May 3, 2007 @ 2:13 PM |
the saying is...love at first sight...but is it love, lust or desire....
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FeliciVagano
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 ....just saying
love...lust..or  all = the same thing....and is easy to say...
But.........
saying these three words " I love you " usually has volumes of meaning behind it...
and should not be thrown about carelessly
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| May 3, 2007 @ 3:29 PM |
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KAOS2007
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It's LUST, what else could it be upon 1st sight?? 
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| May 3, 2007 @ 4:38 PM |
the saying is...love at first sight...but is it love, lust or desire....
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Laidback742
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Love at first sight ..... no.
Lust has raised its ugly head a few times, though.
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| May 3, 2007 @ 7:22 PM |
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Eldermint
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But once in a while it does happen that the object of that initial infatuation is worthy of honor and respect and the attraction is mutual and love grows and those two will tell you it was love at first sight. After so many years, who am I to argue?
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| May 3, 2007 @ 8:34 PM |
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sciurusniger
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But once in a while it does happen that the object of that initial infatuation is worthy of honor and respect and the attraction is mutual and love grows and those two will tell you it was love at first sight. After so many years, who am I to argue?
You can't. And you shouldn't. Because, once in a while, that IS exactly how it goes.
I know.
Boy, do I know!
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| May 3, 2007 @ 9:54 PM |
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FakeAppendix
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There is only "physical litmus test passed" on first site. After that there is a 240 point checklist that must be fully met before "love" can happen.
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| May 4, 2007 @ 6:21 PM |
the saying is...love at first sight...but is it love, lust or desire....
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sthnhylander
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It's LUST,
and KAOS with lips like that, it would be LUST all the time...
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| May 6, 2007 @ 5:07 PM |
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bunnybiz
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I don't believe in Love at First Sight ...
However, I do believe in Love at Last Sight ...
This means the last time we see each other we will be more
in love than ever before.
To Would be Husbands -
Study your wives - (You are to love your wife, like you love your own body. If you are hungry you feed it, You know when you are sick, You meet the needs of your body; Therefore meet the needs of your wife by studying her)
Cherish her privately - (You know when guys have that dream sports car.
Oh, how you wash it, wax it, make it shine. You take very good care of it.
You park it far away from other cars so it won't get dinged. Do the
same with your wife. Cherish her. Let her know how much see means
to you. Take good care of her. She is your treasure.)
Praise her publicly - You present her to the public and let them
know what a good wife she is. She is a good mother, a good cook,
good at her special interests and so forth. 
To Would be Wives -
Walk hand and hand with your husband, heart to heart, one
in dream, one in goal. You don't walk behind him or don't you
walk in front of him. This isn't a fight for control. Just walk
side by side with him through the good and bad times. 
Love is not looking for perfection.
Love is a commitment that produces actions.
Love is a commitment that produces strong feelings. 
Yes, Love at Last Sight ... I believe it that.
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| May 6, 2007 @ 5:12 PM |
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blueyes101
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| May 6, 2007 @ 5:14 PM |
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BandTMom
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I believe in love at first sight.
Love at first site is like "remembering". It is not based on looks but how you feel when you look at that person.
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| May 6, 2007 @ 5:18 PM |
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sthnhylander
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bunny...
I am not going to quote you here....'cause I would repeat everything you have said....
But...
right on.. ....I fully agree and love the posting...
however, I would also rather be in real love...blissfully during the relationship...than love her more after the last time...maybe that experience would occur if the person suddenly passed away...
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| May 6, 2007 @ 6:07 PM |
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bunnybiz
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however, I would also rather be in real love...blissfully during the relationship...than love her more after the last time...maybe that experience would occur if the person suddenly passed away...
Hylander,
I would want that too. I want to be in real love throughout the
whole relationship and if meant to be throughout the marriage.
I am saying the real love just grows more and more each day.
I guess I directed it more toward the marriage but it is meant
for relationships also. I didn't mean the last time forever we
see them. But we should love them more than the first time
we saw them.
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| May 6, 2007 @ 6:24 PM |
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swingpup
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love at first sight ....Would seem to be on the surface certainly a "needy" type of love for sure. I would agree lust at first site but certainly not true unconditional love.
Some individuals IMO are much more loving and able to love, give as well as receive love, care and share then others. To "love your neighbor" is of course a much different love then what is involved in a man/woman relationship.
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| May 10, 2007 @ 7:11 AM |
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tywren
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to all the naysayers, i would have to reply that, yes love at first sight is real. i've been there, and as i was in the first grade at the time i'm fairly sure it wasn't lust.
even all these years later, with her happly maried to a firend of mine, and me having no chance of a physical relationship with her what so ever, she still ohly has to ask and i'll help her in any way i can.
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| May 10, 2007 @ 1:22 PM |
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violette1967
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to all the naysayers, i would have to reply that, yes love at first sight is real. i've been there, and as i was in the first grade at the time I'm fairly sure it wasn't lust.
Same here....but I am more concerned about where that love went??
Love at first sight is so rare anymore. Nowadays we criticize people way to much...seek out faults and quirks and practically interview them to find faults. This is what makes love at first sight almost impossible anymore.
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| May 10, 2007 @ 6:53 PM |
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daisy315
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absolutely believe in love at first sight.. it was that way for the both of us.. I knew the minute our eyes met that we were meant to be together..
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