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CHARLIgurl1
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Ok.. so youre involved with someone who smokes, and you yourself are either a smoker trying to give up, or a non smoker, .. What do you do?.. become a worst nightmare of a reformed smoker.. or let them decide in thier own time.. and how much do you think this would affect your relationship?
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| May 8, 2007 @ 6:36 PM |
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loisday
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The non-smoker is the one that usually makes a stand.
I've never heard of a smoker saying: You need to start smoking for this relationsip to work..................... 
I've actually gotten emails that stated: I would consider going out with you if you quit smoking................. 
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| May 8, 2007 @ 6:39 PM |
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swingpup
Posts: 4,105
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As a smoker I have an Israeli gas mask I provide to women that I "date" that are non smokers. 
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| May 8, 2007 @ 6:41 PM |
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CHARLIgurl1
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| May 8, 2007 @ 6:56 PM |
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MortisDruss
Posts: 1,123
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I just dated a non-smoker.
I had a 4x4 porch that I stood outside on to smoke.
And it didn't bother me.
Except when it snowed.
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| May 8, 2007 @ 7:28 PM |
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capitalview
Posts: 758
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I wish this was the only problem I'll ever have... 
Just invested a relatively small amount of money and a couple of weekends to install "fart-fans" ( like the one on the bathroom ceiling just above the toilet ) in each room of my house. Now all I have to do is - to find oversensitive smoke-detector to turn the fans on automatically the moment my new (smoking) date exhales 
I consider the expense well spent - will save me lots of aggravation in relationship, not to mention my kid's ( and mine ) health .
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| May 8, 2007 @ 7:40 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I drive a convertible, usually with the top down. If I can deal with exhaust fumes, I can deal with smoke. I handed the hypnotist my cigarettes on the way out the door at 1 pm on 1/4/1989. One of the suggestions was that other people smoking would never bother me...man that guy did a great job. Never really wanted another cigarette and it's never bothered me when other people smoke. I'm still trying to figure out why just about every guy I've dated for any length of time was a smoker though....vicarious enjoyment?
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| May 8, 2007 @ 7:40 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Ok.. so youre involved with someone who smokes, and you yourself are either a smoker trying to give up, or a non smoker, .. What do you do?
Realize that you became involved with someone that smokes.......you knew they smoked................live with that fact. If you don't like it, don't become involved in the first place. If you are a smoker trying to give it up, realize that is your choice for yourself - it shouldn't be a decision for both made by one.
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| May 8, 2007 @ 7:44 PM |
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luvmycats
Posts: 10,208
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Except when it snowed.
THAT would sure cool you off after sex!
I think I just need to find a smoker.
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| May 8, 2007 @ 10:14 PM |
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RareQuestor
Posts: 2,650
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Well, if you want an unbiased, completely objective opinion, I would advise the smoker to quit. 
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| May 8, 2007 @ 10:16 PM |
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blueyes101
Posts: 12,080
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Or have them smoke a dandelion
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| May 8, 2007 @ 10:18 PM |
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BandTMom
Posts: 38,040
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Whoops....wrong smoke!
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| May 8, 2007 @ 10:19 PM |
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KAOS2007
Posts: 8,201
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Parsley works too...
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| May 8, 2007 @ 10:36 PM |
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your_princess
Posts: 3,389
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ill date a smoker, the only thing that bothers me about smoking is the smell in the home and on their clothes. However they will smoke outside when at my place...
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| May 8, 2007 @ 11:27 PM |
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signme
Posts: 12,571
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My parents both smoked while I was growing up. I couldn't even go 2 blocks in the car with them before getting car sick! They both quit when I was 14 and neither ever smoked again. I have only dated one smoker and when he was visiting me, he had to go out on the porch to smoke. I have a sign in my living room ( a counted cross stitch my mom made) that says"If you smoke, I might croak!"
I also have a cat with severe allergies and I will not let anything aggravate her allergies if I can help it. Luckily the guy I met now is a non-smoker.
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| May 8, 2007 @ 11:36 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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i honestly don't see why one of those anal anti-smoking people would date a smoker. that makes no sense to me.
smoking doesn't bother me. i don't do it anymore, but half of my friends do, so i'm used to it. i could tolerate a smoker, though it isn't my preference.
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| May 9, 2007 @ 1:54 AM |
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steveemac
Posts: 2,335
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I have a sign in my living room ( a counted cross stitch my mom made) that says"If you smoke, I might croak!"
The best one I ever saw was: "Please don't smoke...and I won't fart."
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| May 10, 2007 @ 1:09 PM |
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LibidinistLady
Posts: 814
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I'm trying to quit if a certain person would quit with the remarks it'd be easier... yeah you know who you are. I mostly smoke when I'm stressed. Switching over to clove cigarettes which even keeps sister from being pissy.
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| May 10, 2007 @ 1:17 PM |
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violette1967
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I smoke unfortunately...always outside...never more than a few a day.
I would like to meet a non-smoker. But smoking does not define the person entirely. So I don't think it would affect my relationship. As long as he does not smoke in the house or reek of it so bad it makes me nauseous.
There is always the chance of the person quitting. And with a little help from a loved one...it might be easier and worth it.
If you want to quitt and are trying....and the other smokes....and you continue to smoke...using them as an excuse...well, you just weren't ready to quitt in the first place.
Long answer short, no, it would not affect my relationship.
...but this is just a smoker talking ...
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| May 10, 2007 @ 3:43 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Bite me, LL! Use any excuse you wish to keep from fulfilling the promise you made to someone we both know. I quit MY habits and I think that was real stressful.
I have a reaction to smoke. My ears close up from the inside and my inner ear fills up with liquid. It gets worse, the nose starts to run, the eyes burn and I start coughing
I tried the boyfriend going outside to smoke but he would trail back in, smoke trickling from nose and mouth and would lean over breathing the smoke out (in my face) and kiss my neck or rub the tobacco coated fingers on my neck. That would make my neck itch and burn. Don't EVEN ASK, what it felt like when he would forget to wash his hands when we had sex. If he rubbed very sensitive areas with those cigarette fingers, that would burn as well. 
No more men in my life that smoke. It is just NOT compatible with me. Forget even starting a relationship with one. Nope.
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