| Dec 6, 2005 @ 12:48 AM |
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stormy73
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A thought just occurred to me....
I was reading a thread, and one of the posters was a male. I checked out his profile, and upon seeing his pic, I thought, "Damn! This guy is good looking and seems to have his act together. Why would he be posting on MD to find a woman?
Now, having said that, here is my question...
Do women see profiles like this guy's(And YES, MINE!), and think, "Hmmm... he sounds too good to be true! MUST be something wrong with him, or something he's not telling... better skip over this guy!"
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 12:56 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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You know...I often think about that as well. There are some great guys on here (not a gay statement) and it makes you wonder why they're single and why they have so much trouble getting a date locally. The best I can tell you is maybe they lack self confidence enough to walk up to someone and talk to them. Hell, I have enough trouble talking to some of yall on here let alone going up to someone in person and talking to them about who knows what.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 12:56 AM |
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wandaful123
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I could see that happening. Or perhaps even just a "too good for me" thing. How 'bout the men answer this question as well. You start stormy!
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 12:57 AM |
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wandaful123
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You snuck in there taboo. how 'bout the male perspective as well?
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:08 AM |
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Angel54214
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Hi Stormy..  I can only relate as my point of view. I know I am very thorough in reading profiles. I would only contact recients that have qualities that come very close to mine in my profile. Another thought what I feel, on profiles, they are not written in stone. People type up a profile in a few minutes and hit send. Also, most people I think do a shine! Put their best qualities out there.
One time for example, a man wrote to me, his profile seems too good to be true. We chatted a few times and then he said he only had one leg. I kinda stopped and thought about it. Didn't know what to say! He also wanted me to go to his house and read to him. Humm, not what I was really intending to find for a mate. I told him I was active outdoors type, he was very kind and said thats ok, but can I just write to you some times? I said sure.
But yes, profiles are like filling out a resume'....And you know what stormy? One can read between the lines quite a bit, I test myself sometimes. Thanks for reading, Merry Christmas! Angel 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:10 AM |
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stormy73
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DAMN! That was quick!! I went to brush my teeth, came back, and already 3 replies!
Well, Wanda... I'm not quite sure I know what you mean! I know, due to every single past encounter I've had with women, that I have become very shy! And, on more than one occasion, I have seen a woman's profile that I went "WOW!" over, but then immediately said to myself, "Why bother? she'd just delete my e-mail without ever reading it(Which has happened over at POF).
IS that what you were asking for, Wanda?? 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:15 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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One time for example, a man wrote to me, his profile seems too good to be true. We chatted a few times and then he said he only had one leg.
You crushed the poor guy...He deserves to be loved too. I can understand why he wouldn't put that he had one leg up on his profile. It's not his proudest feature and he's probably ashamed of it to some degree. Poor fella.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:16 AM |
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stormy73
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Hey Angel...
I have All of my legs(HAH!)! I keep them in a large box out on the back porch! 
I'm somewhat ashamed to admit this, but I'm 44 years old, and still don't really know what "read betwen the lines" means! Does it mean that someone is stating something in their profile that they didn't actually type!? Or is it that the person READING the profile just reads something into the profile that isn't there, nor was it meant in the way the reader interprets it!?
I dunno...DUH! 
Also, I can understand you being weary of a guy who only had one leg... it would require a certain amount of dependency, and a lot of us, myself included, aren't sure if we want that kind of committment!
Hell, the girl who "deflowered" me 9 years ago had her HEAD run over by a SCHOOL BUS when she was 9 years old! Everyone told me that I should not persue this girl, because she wasn't "right in the head"(Well, DUH!)! I, of course, wouldn't accept that, and the girl turned out to be a total LOONEY..and mean as a snake!!! .....have I strayed from the subject!?
[Edited on 12/6/2005 1:22 AM]
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:19 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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Read between the lines more or less means to find the meaning within the meaning.....In other words when a guy calls himself athletic what he really means is every now and then I get out there and cut the grass.LOL...Let's not make that statement an issue...I was just playing
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:20 AM |
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waiting41
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I don't typically read what I consider to be a good profile and pass it over simply because I know I am not too good to be true, however, we all have different standards of what the right person for us is and we all have different tastes. 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:21 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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That poor guy...He probably thinks no girls want him now cause he only has one leg...Poor guy...Hang in there fella...There is someone out there for everyone.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:22 AM |
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wandaful123
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 Thats exactly what I was asking Stormy. Looking at a profile and pic and thinking she wouldn't have anything to do with me. Just because it happened once somewhere, doesn't mean it'll always occur. Gotta keep plugging away!
Ps.. I'm also guilty in a way, when I see model type pics of men, shirt hanging off etc... I wouldn't contact them either. Scares me off. Then again, don't think I've ever made first contact with anyone on here through profiles. Kind of an Old fashioned girl. (as cowardly as that may be)
[Edited on 12/6/2005 1:27 AM]
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:24 AM |
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waiting41
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Perhaps I should have read this thread before commenting. 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:25 AM |
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stormy73
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Well, yeah.. but to "keep plugging" would require me having someone TO "plug"!! Oh I am just AWFUL(HAH!)! 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:27 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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Well, yeah.. but to "keep plugging" would require me having someone TO "plug"!! Oh I am just AWFUL(HAH!)!
I was thinking the same thing Only I was going to make a comment on plugging my fist or something.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:28 AM |
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wandaful123
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Tsk-tsk... now guys, behaive! Waiting back me up here?
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:32 AM |
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LatinButterfly
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To answer your question, if things sound too "cliche" I know there's something off and I keep "walking" but sometimes I take my chances, there's always plenty of opportunity to "catch" someone who's not genuine off guard. And as for yours, I need to see a man's eyes and I know many other women agree with me, so wearing sunglasses for a profile pic is a big turn-off.
And, while I'm on the subject, to any other men reading, what's the point of posting a pic where you're so far away even the trees look better than you or posting pics that are obviously from another decade (or two)???
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:34 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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I don't know about the pic thing but I will ask this.
When you cross over a bridge are you absolutely certain it's not going to fall down and kill you? Of course not but I'm going to wait for someone to ask me what the point of this was to comment any further.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:36 AM |
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stormy73
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Well, I DO have THREE other pictures on my profile, and those are my REAL eyes!
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 1:37 AM |
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wandaful123
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So taboo, when approaching someone, there is no way to know how they will respond? just like the bridge, we don't know 'till we take that first step. Question is, what is the bridge over?
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