| May 14, 2007 @ 1:21 PM |
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Dukums
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Hi all.
I may of asked a similar question, but oldtimer's disease makes it necessary to have things repeated to me at times.
How important is friendship to you BEFORE you fall in love? I recently had a couple of great dinners with a former love and who is still a friend. She is adamant about the friendship factor. Right now I don't mind because I am not focused on finding Mrs. Right, during this season of my life. However as much as she is professing friendship, she is also coming up with more reasons to meet for dinner and other activities. This would normally signal to me a sign of interest beyond friendship. What say you to all this?
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| May 14, 2007 @ 1:29 PM |
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Luisa909
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Friendship is important -----> before - in meanwhile - and after ..... 
1 one word: always 
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| May 14, 2007 @ 2:03 PM |
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definitelydi
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Friendship...you can't have love without it. So, duh...it's purdy friggin' important.
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| May 14, 2007 @ 4:40 PM |
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swingpup
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Best friends and lovers can become a true and lasting love
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| May 14, 2007 @ 5:53 PM |
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blueyes101
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What else will you have after the infatuation goes away?
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| May 14, 2007 @ 6:12 PM |
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KAOS2007
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Why does the infatuation have to go away?
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| May 14, 2007 @ 6:13 PM |
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loisday
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Friendship is important -----> before - in meanwhile - and after .....
1 one word: always
Perfect answer!!!!!
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| May 15, 2007 @ 11:41 AM |
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Bojangles102
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She expresses friendship in order not to scare you off.
Either she likes free meals or she wants you back, Dumass.
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| May 15, 2007 @ 11:47 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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Brother, I feel ya here.
Friendship, must be for love to last. Love without friendship is just a crush.
As to what comes first,
the chicken or the egg,
You just have to ask the chickens i guess.
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| May 15, 2007 @ 11:52 AM |
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Dukums
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Well the meals haven't been all free. I paid one time, she insisted on paying the next, so it can't be free meals.
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| May 15, 2007 @ 12:41 PM |
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wvbluebaby
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a real friendship has no limits....or hidden agendas....just ask her what her intentions are..
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| May 15, 2007 @ 1:47 PM |
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travelnfrog
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I agree about the friendship....and having dinners and participating in other activities together IS something you do with friends, isn't it? These are the things we do to better get to know someone under various conditions.
Now if I could just find someone close enough to actually put this into practice.... 
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| May 15, 2007 @ 6:13 PM |
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blueyes101
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Why does the infatuation have to go away? Well, it doesn't have to, but sometimes it does, lust too........If yoy start with friendship, you have a solid foundation, to build on !!!!!!!!!!
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| May 15, 2007 @ 10:49 PM |
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Loreli
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As we age, the important thing is how well we "see" each other, and communicate. If we don't have friendship, the rest is phooey. A temporary perk (even if it is for 50 years...sometime-it's gonna go!)
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| May 15, 2007 @ 10:59 PM |
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signme
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Friendship is essential to a relationship, especially if you want to make it long-term.
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| May 16, 2007 @ 12:17 AM |
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DestinyAngel49
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Dukums...I agree there may be an interest beyond friendship.
She may be trying to spend all the time with you, hoping that things will
move to the next level.
Friendship IS the foundation to build a strong relationship.
I would talk to her about it... Let her express her feelings towards this and then
take it from there.
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| May 17, 2007 @ 5:29 AM |
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truegent65000
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However as much as she is professing friendship, she is also coming up with more reasons to meet for dinner and other activities.
It looks like you have fallen into the infamous friendzone.
Friendzone meaning, she has considered you a friend and NOTHING more. Just a "Buddy".
Which means, no kissing, no holding hands and long walks on the beach, no romantic encounters with each other....zip.
...and since she wants to keep meeting for dinners and other activities, I personally would cease doing it, since it's just a waste of time, since it apparently sounds like you want more with this woman, it sounds like it's going down this road.
Just something to seriously consider, I've been down that path before too, and seriously, it's not pretty if one person wants more.
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| May 17, 2007 @ 6:52 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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Maybe she is wanting to spend time getting to know this friend in order to develop this comfort zone. Building a friendship is the foundation to a more meaningful relationship.
She wants to get to know you better and be in a comfort zone and perhaps develop this bond of not worry about how they express themselves, act around you whether it be in a silly mood, a serious mood to feel ok to show you there personality and feel ok to express who and what they are.
Since she wants to spend more time developing this bond of friendship, enjoy it....when you both feel that comfort zone then I would ask where you two see this friendship going.
Nothing wrong with beginning a truely wonderful friendship along the way!
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| May 17, 2007 @ 9:24 AM |
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dooney123
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Friendship is very important. Why not just enjoy her company as a friend and if it develops into something more again, great. If not, you still have a friend. Sounds great to me either way.
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| May 17, 2007 @ 9:25 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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What she said^^^^
Welcome back Dooney..  
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