| Dec 6, 2005 @ 9:10 PM |
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jdctx
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Being single during this time of year is so difficult..Yet another year alone.. Not that my life is so horrible I do have my friends and family but XMAS seem so geared toward couples or family with kids..
Every year I hope I would of found someone but every year its the same..
I think Santa changed his freakin address cause he's not answering my letters.
Yes I know it can be worse and I am thankful for what I have but dang its so tough.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 9:13 PM |
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spongebob777
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Yeah it sucks but what can ya do?
I'm OK with being by myself. I'm a good conversationalist, I cook pretty decent, and the sex is good. 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 9:19 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Please not another pity party thread...
Yes life is difficult. So freakin' what. We tend to make it even more so by sitting on our butts whining and feeling sorry for ourselves.
Once you stop doing that, life will miraculously become much more happy.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 9:22 PM |
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spongebob777
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Once you stop doing that, life will miraculously become much more happy.
Yep, I just wish I had figured it out much earlier in life than I did. Life is good today, even lonely I'm still happy. 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 9:26 PM |
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buni
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Mary if you don't like the thread then why do you even bother to post in it?
This is a lonely time of year for a lot of people..{{{{HUGS}}}}for all the single people feeling lonely this time of year. Maybe this time next year won't be so bad. 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 9:44 PM |
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jdctx
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Mary I will make the best of things. but this is a tough time...
How are you copping ?
How do you deal with it ?
What comforting things do you tell yourself to make it better?
Well unless you prefer to be alone.
I think for a lot of us its hard and I don't think mos of us want pitty..
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 9:49 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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you really can't pay any neverminds to mary's tactless comments. There is a reason she is this bitter regardless of wether she tells anyone about it or not. I will answer your questions though. I just try and focus on what I do have (my kids and family) and try not to dwell on what I don't (a significant other). Sure it's hard but what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger. Or makes us more suicidal, I can't remember which.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 9:50 PM |
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RAKS37
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Think of all the money you're saving on presents for someone that doesn't deserve skat.
really just be with the people you care about. And if that's not possible buy yourself something nice.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 10:03 PM |
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jdctx
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Think of all the money you're saving on presents for someone that doesn't deserve skat.
Holy crap ! I used to drive myself nuts with one women I was with for a while. The first couple xmas she was sooo difficult to shop for always asking for the hardest things to get.. And I never seemed to to get it right
On the third xmas I didn't even ask I just got her what I wanted to get her...turned out she was ok with it..
Wish I would have learn the following lesson sooner
Lesson learn you can NEVER keep a woman happy all the time its a fool who thinks he can..
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 10:46 PM |
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Angel54214
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Awww..jd...here is a warm Christmas hug from Angel
 ((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
I know what you mean, I alone too for 3 years now.
[Edited on 12/7/2005 12:23 AM]
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 12:20 AM |
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sirdidymus
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ok dude, first of all - i AM NOT going to send you hugs (YOU'RE WELCOME!) - lmao....
i think the general consensus in this thread hit it right on the nose - there are so many things to be grateful for - it doesn't take away the angst of being alone - but it does give us other things to reflect on.
i know this sounds cliche but really, just remember that the holidays are nothing more than another day - happening to be one that society as a whole dictates we're all supposed to be happy and fuzzy and warm.
I don't live near any family - (kinda sucky) and one time my sister wanted to visit around xmas time (always appreciated) and i told her, dude - visit when you can - because ANYTIME that you visit is a holiday! So for me, any day that i have to spend with family and friends is truly a holiday and a blessing.
Sometimes - it helps to look around at the world - as hard as it is - and see the true angst that people are really suffering. Yes, it will be depressing to open our eyes to that, and sad, and it will also be a true eye-opener for how lucky we have it.
I mentioned in another thread about reading about the history of torture (GRIZZLY friggin' stuff - i'll leave it at that!!!) - and OMgosh, i don't like being alone but i'll take my pittance pangs of loneliness anytime over the cruelties other people suffer ANY DAY OF THE YEAR!!!
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 12:31 AM |
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sweet5red
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first off Christmas we cant leave "him" out i dont know that I was ok to change the subject heading but i did.. and here are hugs {{{{{{{{{{{ jd}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} and whoever else needs them from me to u..   and just think how much better off we are than lots of people right now.. ( katrina and rita evacuees) My car was hit in june by a driver we found out was not covered on her hubbies insurance.. so i had to take her to court got my judgement but now gotta collect.. not so easy.. but i will get thru this too.. and get another car soon.. but like i said we are lucky if u have food to eat and a roof over your head but i try to keep the faith that my " fella" is out there someplace lookin for me.. Sweet N Louisiana ( getting off my soapbox now lol)
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 12:35 AM |
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MelMel
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I have crimmus with my son this year.. can't think of a better way to spend it.. AND.. I get new year's eve alone...
Hmmmmmmmmm... what to do.. what to do???
Hugs to Jd...
Follows Sir 
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 1:13 AM |
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sirdidymus
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*cough* i don't have plans New Year's Eve *cough* - oh sorry, not sure why i mentioned that on an Xmas thread - what was i ever thinking...
[Edited on 12/7/2005 1:14 AM]
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 5:20 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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You sure are coughing alot too...Are you sick? 
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 10:15 AM |
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tommymoe
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How about us still married or seperated people who are lonely beacuse our spouses don't love us anymore. Its worse than being alone. Feeling rejected by the one you love is the worst
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 10:23 AM |
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lj450
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It should be tough for people who call it......XMAS
That is the most disgraceful term Ive ever heard of!!!
Its called Christmas people.....and its called that for a reason.
You dont call a Ford pickup an X truck, do ya? 
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 10:58 AM |
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sirdidymus
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tommymoe - sorry Tommy. there was another thread about what people miss most about having a significant other in their life and many people commented on how much harder it is in some ways to have someone and be in a bad relationship than rather to be alone to begin with. Again, sorry for your pain.
lj450 - i can understand that if Christmas (writing it out fully out of respect for your post) has significant religious meaning that you might see the abbreviated form as an insult or as a slight, i can certainly appreciate that. As for myself, i quite often abbreviate it to "xmas" and when i do, it's never with any disrespect intended, it's just a standard given accepted method of abbreviation. It's all about perception.
There might be a different holiday not of the same religious significance to you, that for brevity's sake - you'd perhaps abbreviate - again w/o disrespect or meaning any harm - so it's all about perception.
I can't speak for anyone but i can't begin to imagine anyone uses that abbreviation in any bad way. Even though i don't agree, i appreciate your input and thoughts on it all the same.
cheers
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 11:05 AM |
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lj450
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Understandable didy
To me, however......Christmas is the celebration of the birth of Christ. People have commercialized and altered it to fit whatever they want it to be, but its not really about buying gifts and seeing the fat man in the red suit. The only reason gift giving was even part of it, was in emulation of the wisemen bearing gifts to Christ. We so often lose sight of whats real, in search of what is pleasing.
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 11:14 AM |
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MelMel
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*cough* i don't have plans New Year's Eve *cough* - oh sorry, not sure why i mentioned that on an Xmas thread - what was i ever thinking...
I wonder if that was his subtle way of asking something?? 
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