| Jun 3, 2007 @ 5:40 PM |
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vergy
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okay, i met this girl last november. I began talking with her on a few different occasions and the 2nd time I ever talked to her, she initiated physical contact. She is somewhat of a shy person, so I took that as a good sign. Anyways, I continued talking with her on different occasions during the next 3 weeks when asked her out.
She said 'yes' almost immediately. So I took that as a good sign as well. She could've hesitated or paused or something, but didn't. So I waited a week to call her because it was the thanksgiving weekend. The following week, I called her 3 times leaving her messages, but I got nothing. So I left a message telling her that I'd see her on sunday. (at church)
Here comes a weird part....As I was walking down the hall towards her at church, she saw me and turned around and started running away. But I still followed her and talked to her. She said that 'now wasn't a good time with finals and all'. So I was okay with that and 3 weeks later called her again. But she never answers or replies to messages. So a week or two later, I see her again and ask her what's up and she says she's not interested.
So I was naturally rather pissed off with her at this point. So I avoided her for about a month after that. Then she started going to the same classroom for sunday school that I did once she found out where I went. Anytime I sat a few rows behind her, she looked back at me and made eye contact. At first I thought she might be looking for someone else, but this continued for 2-3 months.
I went to a service project a few weeks later and she went up and started talking to me and stood rather close to me. She still continues to look back at me as of a week ago. She wasn't at church this week. Anyways, this girl is weird.
If she's not interested, I don't know why she'd make it a point to make eye contact with me repeatedly and go up and talk to me sometimes. I just don't get it. I think she may be shy and not want to date now but just get to know each other casually.
I still really like her even after all this weird stuff. I can understand her being shy and all because I'm kind of that way myself, but I would never give anyone mixed signals like that.
Anyone else have any thoughts on this? It would be nice to know what the rest of you think about this.
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 5:51 PM |
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RichMan920
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Certainly an unusual situation but DO NOT give up because you need more info
Just because a girl comes up and talks does not mean she fancies you - often they do that because they are really comfortable with you !
However, eye contact is GOOD !!! So keep up the detective work.
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 5:55 PM |
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jamminjerry
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hey dude! weird is way cool! what if ya was chasing a weird holy roller! i figure the consensus will be keep chasing till she gets way too weird! LOL
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 5:57 PM |
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blueyes101
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I think she is running because you are a Troll. 
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 5:58 PM |
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kattsmeow
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 6:02 PM |
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jamminjerry
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 dammit! how can the normal people spot a troll so quickly!!! 
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 6:13 PM |
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blueyes101
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1st post, no profile/very little info, One, on first post, you do not give a review in such great detail, and ask our opinion. ( Although I did ) most first timers do not create their own thread, very few folks log on and bare their soles and ask your opinion of it.
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 6:20 PM |
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signme
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Is Jerry saying he is NOT normal??
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 6:22 PM |
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vergy
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I didn't want to give too much detail since it would be a lot to read. I thought I gave enough on the post about the situation. I didn't consider the post 'baring my soul", just telling of an experience and asking what people thought of it.
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 6:25 PM |
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signme
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Vergy i guess it depends on what you want. You either continue on or look for someone else.
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 6:29 PM |
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blueyes101
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vergy if you want to be taken seriously, make your profile longer than your first post.
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 6:31 PM |
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vergy
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I guess this site is different than other forums. I didn't know I had to have a long profile to be taken seriously. Anyways, thanks for the info.
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 6:47 PM |
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jamminjerry
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i got it! i don't read guys profiles! maybe i should but eeewweee! thanks to those that have no problems reading guy profiles. but, thats how i judge all the "weird" emails i get from the african gals and the russian gals! rule # 1 for jammin! no pro no chat! LOL
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 6:47 PM |
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Pete73052
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The thread title says it all... so? 
Here's what to do with someone who's hard to read... don't read them... go up and talk to them - and they will tell you everything you need to know. Say, "hey, I noticed you look back at me from time to time - I know some time has passed, but my feelings for you haven't changed - I'd still like to take you out." If she says "Buzz off, creep" - you'll know she's weird (or you are). In any case, the only way to put this to rest is to ask her. It doesn't get any easier...
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 7:02 PM |
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blueyes101
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jammin, I usually don't either, just say it was my last test/clue on whether to take the trolls seriously. I may have been wrong, but my gut tells me I'm right.
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 7:05 PM |
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RichMan920
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Don't quite a few first posters charge in like a raging bull with no battle plan ? I did and I think you did as well !!!
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 7:19 PM |
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blueyes101
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Perhaps it was different because I had a complete profile, with a pic. I didn't fill in a few blanks, and start a thread. ( My profile was on here for months before I posted. ) Like I said, I may be wrong, just seems strange to me. I have no intention of scaring away the newbies, but I have no problem pointing out the fact, if it looks like a troll, and smells like a troll, to post my thoughts, and let others judge for themselves.......I only read a few lines of his profile, and the red flags went up......If he is not a troll, he is unlucky enough to do everything a troll would do..........by complete accident, in a matter of minutes.  Would you join this site, post 1/2 a profile, and start a thread about a girl you thought was weird since last November? It looked to me he spent a lot more time writing the subject for this thread than he did on his profile........So is he here to meet a woman, meet friends, or to start a thread???? Looks like the latter to me.....
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 7:31 PM |
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RichMan920
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Blue - a brilliant post from your good self in terms of content and creative writing.
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 8:35 PM |
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luvmycats
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I agree with Blu. A good acting troll, (by coming back and posting later) But a troll none the less.
Not only is his profile skimpy, but how many 30 year old men talk like this?  Sounds like a teenager... or WAWA! 
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| Jun 3, 2007 @ 10:13 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Personally, I think it sounds like she is a tease. I have met men this way and heard of many women this way as well. They will try to hook you in but when you start dancing towards them, they rebuff you. Then when you are frustrated, then finally deal with that frustration, they hook you back in. Run like hell. This game can go on and on as long as you allow it to go. Pretend she is not there and maybe she will go away.
Unfortunately, some people will actually go so far as to appear to commit then will stand you up at the last minute, usually with no notice. It is an ugly form of control. It is similar to rape, just no physical violence involved. Lots of emotional destruction involved.
If you are not into pain, stay away from her.
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