| Dec 7, 2005 @ 8:40 PM |
What about men in their late forties and fifties starting a new family?
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bevrice
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What do you think about men in their late forties and fifties marrying younger women and starting a family or a second family?
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 8:41 PM |
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spongebob777
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I'm not in my late 40s but I do want to start a family before I am.
However I don't want to marry someone too young. 25 is stretching it.
[Edited on 12/7/2005 8:42 PM]
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 9:00 PM |
What about men in their late forties and fifties starting a new family?
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swingpup
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Are you kidding? Been there...done that.... as a single parent..... No Way would I personally ever have the least bit of interest in that synopsis. I did my time with my children both out of the nest. Now it's been my time and turn to play. 
Playing with younger or older women always. Marrying.....NOPE with children or without. 
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 9:34 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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A good friend of mine is 49; one of his kids is grown and he's a grandfather, but still paying child support for another....his wife's 31 and they have a 7 year old together as well as her two by her first husband. I wouldn't make book on the marriage surviving the kind of stress I know it's under, emotionally, financially and physically. That's a tough row to hoe, and it's not going to get easier for a very long time to come.
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 9:38 PM |
What about men in their late forties and fifties starting a new family?
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bevrice
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Lol, I see it all the time. Older man marries younger woman, woman wants chidren, woman wants younger man and leaves older one, older one paying child support until he is past retirement age, foolish. Like my mom always said, "There is no fool like an old fool."
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| Dec 8, 2005 @ 10:41 PM |
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MizzUnderstoodOne
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I just responded to another post that talks about age differences as in 20 plus years. It's crazy I think when older gents fool themselves into thinking it's a good idea to hook up with a younger woman just to have children.
I say, go borrow your grandchildren for a week or so and if there's no grandchildren, well then go to your friend's grandchildren and try playing 'daddy' for a week or so. LOL
I have this friend who is my age (38) and she just had a son 18 months ago and she was saying that she feels out of place amongst her friends as we all have kids in their teens or older and here she is just starting out. She wishes her boy can grow up fast so she can enjoy the same activities (sports, etc) we do now with our kids and them not needing constant attention now.
I also know of this gentleman who is in his late 40s and has a 3 yr old and everyone comments how cute his 'grandson' is. I think he's gotten tired of having to explain that's his son. He just says 'thanks' with a sheepish smile. Feel bad for the guy but that was his choice to have a child so late.
This same gentleman whose wife is in her late 20s often gets mistaked for his daughter which I think really bothers him too.
I think it's just too silly to go there for any man approaching mid life (50s). I keep thinking of that movie with Steve Martin called 'Father of the Bride'. Too funny!
Thats my two cents on that...
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 4:01 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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I don't think older men should be deprived of having children, but once ya reach a certain age maybe it should be considered more thoughtfully cause do you really want to be like 70 when your child is just geting outta h.s. or something? I do disagree with older men who have grown children starting another family, because in a few situations I have known of the men end up regreting it because they finally got out of the raising children and liked the freedom and then it started all over again with little ones.
*AsH
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 4:18 AM |
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walkingman
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I am 40. I am raising an 11 and 14 year old daughter. I want to be young enough to enjoy my grandchilden. I am not getting any younger and kid's are alot of work. It is a choice, but one I would never do. That time has passed for me.
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 12:55 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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It makes me wonder how involved they were with their first set of children!!!! That, and if they know that Medicare only has individual coverage!!!!!
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 1:05 PM |
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13lucky
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I think if I remarried and she wanted one..Well who I'm I to say no ? it is a 50/50 deal isn't it ? and I don't make a good Dictator.. But saying that...I think alot of talking needs to be done before marriage to see where everyone stands...and as we know things can change "Women do change their Minds" :)
And the age differences... I see nothing wrong with up to 20 years difference... but we are talking about a mature 30 year old with someone my Age of a young 48-50 :)...Sure nothings made in heaven...but if you go into it thinking with the right head..and expecting some problems..You;ll be fine...
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 2:38 PM |
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waiting41
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It totally depends on the man. My x-husband was in his mid 40's when we met. We later married and had a child. He was a good husband and excellent father and now, many years later, he is still very active, and very young for his years. This is up to individuals to decide. There is enough terrible crap going on in the world that I choose not to judge people on the basis of who they choose for a mate as long as it's legal. 
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 2:43 PM |
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MotownManiax
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But waiting, when your kid's in college your ex will be ready for SS...wouldn't that be a tad uncomfortable? 
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 2:58 PM |
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spongebob777
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wouldn't that be a tad uncomfortable?
Discomfort played a major part in one of the best things that's ever happened in my life. 
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 3:00 PM |
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waiting41
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Mo, wouldn't WHAT be a tad bit uncomfortable? Not to brag, but, you would not have believed her SAT scores that she got back today!
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 3:02 PM |
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skinnybarncat
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wouldn't that be a tad uncomfortable
Mo  ,,,,don't make her mad at yu!!...  she can hurt us..
and what isn't uncomfortable?...maybe when a guy is older he has the $ to hire a nanny for comfort...
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 3:15 PM |
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waiting41
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Hi Skinny! It's probably good he didn't answer my question because I was sitting here taking a REALLY deep breath with fingers posed on the keyboard............
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 3:16 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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you would not have believed her SAT scores that she got back today!
Waiting, go ahead and brag, you earned it too!!!
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 3:31 PM |
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waiting41
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Awwww, thanks, Heaven, but, I will NOT take the credit for this. My daughter is an absolutely incredibly amazing young woman. Good thing I married that "old man" when I did and didn't worry about him getting social security when it was time for college! 
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 3:37 PM |
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neidermeyer
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be my guess that the daughter has a lot of Mom's genes too!!
My parents did it in a flower pot and raised a bloomin idiot!!!
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 10:39 PM |
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lecriveuse
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i'd wonder how many of the guys would do any actual childrearing -- especially when they're older. most expect the women to chase the children around, and that's certainly not fair. it is also as someone had written previously: mistakenly referring to dad as grandpa and helping him with his walker to graduation.
it isn't for me to say yay or nay. i just say they need to consider the reasons why and do their part with raising the children. i was engaged to a guy who had two daughters from a previous marriage. he just thought i'd go along with pretending they didn't exist; he even hallucinated further thinking i'd bring people into the world with him. ha!  i told him he needed to provide for his daughters, and he'd get three jobs if necessary. that's responsibility and being a parent.
he left me a few weeks later. i also found out he was out on parole (luckily, i was the inquisitive sort). 
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