| Jun 25, 2007 @ 11:33 AM |
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tulip717
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Should You Try Another date?
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 11:35 AM |
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peachylisa
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good question Kim
i say no no no
first impressions are lasting impressions 
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 12:09 PM |
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Loreli
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hmm, if he is just a little shy maybe I could bring it out of him on the 2nd. If he's hot, nice, likes kids, etc...maybe I would.
I didn't even want a FIRST date with my ex, but he grew on me the 2nd.
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 12:12 PM |
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tulip717
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OH lizzzzzzzzzzzzzaaaaaaaaa
How can it always be a no!
I'm confused?
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 12:25 PM |
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amicishirl
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I think not - if you don't at least feel some attraction on the first date - I say it's time to move on 
[Edited on 6/25/2007 12:40 PM]
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 12:26 PM |
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twotall911
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 12:27 PM |
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tulip717
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ami dunno???????????
what I feel sometimes........
doesn't anyone feel confused @ times besides me>>>>.
 
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 12:30 PM |
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chinabull2000
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Nope, if there's no instant spark, then it's worthless having another date, unless you're looking for friendship!
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 12:31 PM |
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tulip717
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 12:35 PM |
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chinabull2000
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hell yes Tulip, we're all confused, but in my experiences, if there was no excitement or even just a little spark on the first date, then it's very unlikely that a spark will develop.
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 12:42 PM |
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amicishirl
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Where guys are concerned, I'm always confused lately  - 4 bad first dates in the last month
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 12:44 PM |
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tulip717
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I feel ya ami
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 1:03 PM |
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peachylisa
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set your limit Kim and you wont be so confused 
you man hog
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 1:05 PM |
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tulip717
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 1:07 PM |
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sweet5red
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chinaaaaaaaaaaaaa..   Sweet N Louisiana
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 1:20 PM |
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dooney123
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I agree- if it's not there after the first date, I wouldn't bother going out with him again unless you just want to be friends. If you keep seeing him, you'll probably miss out on all the good stuff; when you smile every time you think of him, when you can't wait for him to call, you love to hear his voice, you can't wait to see him again, etc. Those are the ones to keep seeing.
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 1:22 PM |
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signme
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I don't know, sometimes the spark isn't there on the first date but may show up on the 2nd. I'm not sure if one date is enough to tell sometimes. I tend to say give the guy/gal another chance just in case.
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 2:18 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Depends on what you "did" feel. As long as there was some physical attraction and chemistry, and you connected with their personality on some level, I'd say give them another shot. I hate these extreme conditions people needlessly place on first meetings---this "all or nothing" mindset. People that think, "He/she's gotta knock my socks off or they're done....NEXT!" put way too much pressure on another person to live up to grossly unrealistic expectations.
I sure wouldn't want to be put under that kind of microscope, and I'm sure most wouldn't, either.
 Mo
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 2:27 PM |
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dooney123
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It's not unrealistic to want to feel some chemistry on a date to agree to go out with the person again. I know it's not unrealistic, because I've felt chemistry on a first date with a number of people that I've dated in the last few months. I especially felt it with my ex-husband; neither of us wanted our first date to end and then we couldn't wait to see each other the next day. It's a wonderful feeling and there's nothing unrealistic about wanting a little of that feeling.
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| Jun 25, 2007 @ 2:39 PM |
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tulip717
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thank you
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